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MysticFireTopaz -> RE: First meeting (2/6/2007 10:00:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Tippy How about a sampling of what different people do when first meeting a sub, where and what of the meeting? Usually, we meet for coffee, lunch, or dinner at a restaurant or coffee shop where we will be able to talk freely. Normally, I have asked everything I need to know already to know if I want to go further with him, so the initial meeting tells if we "click" and if he has been honest with me about some obvious things so far (e.g. that if he says he's 6' tall, he really is that height, not 5'6", etc). Other times, I will have him meet me at a community event, such as a munch. If thngs go well, we might go out for a cup of coffee afterward, as I tend to get interrupted a lot at munches (which I don't mind) by people coming up to say hi, people bringing over new Dommes and subs to introduce to me, etc. In any event, it is always at a public place and I NEVER play at a first meeting, unless it is at a monitored dungeon where there are lots of people around. Lady Topaz

VeryMercurial -> RE: First meeting (2/7/2007 10:14:47 AM)
Just like almost everyone else, I meet in a restaurant where I can feel as comfortable as possible. I also make sure I have enough money or a credit card to pay for my share or the whole meal, if things go poorly.

Lorelei115 -> RE: First meeting (2/7/2007 10:31:59 AM)
Well maybe I'm an odd duck here, but I like to meet for breakfast. I find the earliest meal of the day can be very revealing, as people generally haven't had time to build up their facade for the day. Also, it tends to be a much more casual and low pressure situation. (And yes, much less expensive.) If things don't work out well, you can part ways and still have the whole day ahead of you. If things DO work out well... well you still have the whole day ahead of you. [:D]

mons -> RE: First meeting (2/8/2007 1:03:21 AM)
greeting nini333 i am sorry to tell you but i hasd great sub we meant through the internet and we talk then exchange numbers i talk to him for a long time and when we were to meet he never shown , then we made a second date he never show he would come up with things that made he late or not come he lost his wallet etc, then i say hey he sounds so real and nice and we like the same things. but he cancell another date then i just was what is wrong here i told him we can only talk we are not to meet i found out he had big ideal but little thoughts. he would talk about going fishing with his two dogs but it never happen at all so he just drop off the face of my earth. i have not heard from him at all but he is back one here looking for a domme. it is sad he was nice but nice does not make the cut. please just be careful we have subs who dsiapper for what ever reason if he keeps not showing up it mady be one of the runaways. i hope not i do not think it is but just be on the lookout for when he keeps cancelling good luck mons

silverwings0002 -> RE: First meeting (2/9/2007 5:39:15 PM)
I love the idea of breakfast! And eating breakfast at a restaurant too. lol. I cannot form a full opinion of a sub until I meet him, usually a sit down as You Ladies have said. The ones that I click with, I meet one or two more times, then build up play or a relationship from there. One I did meet and play with, a first time, it worked out great, but it was not a smart thing to do.

wyldsubmissive -> RE: First meeting (2/11/2007 2:12:11 PM)
Well, I know I'm not a Mistress, but I'll throw in my two cents. I actually have a specific pattern I go through. 1. Collarme E-mails first (usually 10 or so with in depth and detailed writings) 2. Messenger 3. Phone 4. Meeting in a coffee house, its cheap expensive and private. Go me! -Wyld

bound2pleez -> RE: First meeting (2/11/2007 2:46:37 PM)
Wyld! Have you hacked into my computer?? I do the same things Emails... a few to discuss general ideas, compare wants and desires etc Then yahoo or msn messenger so we can "talk" more and find out each other's personalities etc Then a phone call or two Then lunch or a coffee date for that all important face-to-face meeting We rarely will play on that first meet. "No play first day" But I did just recently play with a sub when we met for the first time, and it worked out. She was loaned to me by another Dom, and I brought one of my other subs along to hand me my equipment and organize the ropes etc as we played. She was "rewarded" for her service later.. grin I find, though, that if I stray from that procedure I will be disappointed. I don't like to move too quickly, and find that those who do, don't match with me. But... as in all things, there are exceptions. One has to do what works for them

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