MizSuz
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Go to sexuality.org, click on the bdsm link and read some of the article on technique and style. That's a pretty safe place to start acquiring skills. I'd also suggest getting involved with your local scene and perhaps finding some r/t people who don't have rigid definitions of top/bottom/dom/me/sub/slave/master/mistress/right/wrong/inferior/superior. Someone who can't get past their own definitions is probably not going to be much help to you in finding new definitions for yourself. I know a lot of submissives that top as a service. It's certainly not unheard of and frankly I think it's a pretty good idea for a bottom/sub to learn some technique. Information about good technique will help you identify when someone who wants to top you is talking out their ass (it happens). If it's pushing your comfort zone to take this role, but it's something you'd still like to try in spite of that comfort zone, then congrats to you and happy growth! The good thing about acquiring new skills is that nobody can take it away from you (barring head trauma). And if you decide it's not for you - well the good thing about being wrong is that you get to change your mind. Good luck with it.
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“The more you love, the more you can love—and the more intensely you love. Nor is there any limit on how many you can love. If a person had time enough, he could love all of that majority who are decent and just.” - Robert Heinlein
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