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Stories of warning or positive experiences? - 2/6/2007 6:21:45 PM

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Hello all,

I read a bit of this touched on some other threads, maybe it's been asked before, I apologize if it was... but, I was wondering if you cared to share any experiences:

– Horror (or not so horror) stories?

– Anything you would consider a serious "red" (or orange, pink, green, LOL) flag when talking to someone or IM'ing with someone or even meeting someone?

– What about things that makes you go weak in the knees? Or makes you think, this might be the right person for me?

– Anything you care to share as a warning to others?

Everyone has their own personal signals, I know... but, maybe your own personal experiences, annecdotes or even funny stories could help others steer clear of the wrong people or find the right ones for them too.

Thank you.

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RE: Stories of warning or positive experiences? - 2/6/2007 7:18:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: sensualmagirl
– Horror (or not so horror) stories?

There was this one chick who kept going around spreading vicious lies about what "true doms" are like, thus leading dozens of poor innocent novice subs into the world only to have their unrealistic dreams totally shattered.

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– Anything you would consider a serious "red" (or orange, pink, green, LOL) flag when talking to someone or IM'ing with someone or even meeting someone?

Same as common sense would tell you offline.

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– What about things that makes you go weak in the knees? Or makes you think, this might be the right person for me?

Equating a weak in the knees feeling with being the right person has been the downfall of countless novices.

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– Anything you care to share as a warning to others?

If you want me to respect your choices as an adult, I will make you deal with the consequences of your choices as an adult- you have been warned.

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RE: Stories of warning or positive experiences? - 2/6/2007 7:53:33 PM

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Equating a weak in the knees feeling with being the right person has been the downfall of countless novices.

Ok, well, "weak in the knees" might have been the wrong turn of phrase, I guess, what I was getting at would be more of your own personal instincts, or signals as to what makes you feel as if this is someone you want to get to know better or not.

I, for one, after meeting people off the internet over the last couple of years, have come to really trust my own instincts... if the person gives me the creeps.... well, that's obvious. But, the subtleties of how I felt, either really laid back but not attracted or maybe a little shy or nervous, but yet, attracted... Yes, this can be applied to any part of yourlife, just not here... but, for me, it's been very interesting how spot-on my instincts have been (so far, knock wood).

I had a lot of people who freaked me out over the two years before I finally buckled down and said, I'd get past it and try again, and I know I got lucky that I wasn't scared off in real life, just from behind a computer screen...

Some people just made me laugh though, so, it's all been a good experience in the end for me anyhow.

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RE: Stories of warning or positive experiences? - 2/6/2007 7:54:41 PM

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You know what this thread needs?

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RE: Stories of warning or positive experiences? - 2/7/2007 1:31:26 PM

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You know what this thread needs?

UMMM answers??
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RE: Stories of warning or positive experiences? - 2/7/2007 2:37:42 PM

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– Horror (or not so horror) stories?
      A submissive I know flew across the country to live with a Dom she never met, who owned his own home and was self employed.   She wiped out her bank account for airfare then found out his own home was a camper in some sort of trailer park (he had several animals who deficated all over the place) and he was actually living on welfare.   Some local church came to her aid and gave her money to return back home
– Anything you would consider a serious "red" (or orange, pink, green, LOL) flag when talking to someone or IM'ing with someone or even meeting someone? When he says honesty important to him but he's married and his wife doesn't know a thing about his 'private' lifestyle.

– What about things that makes you go weak in the knees? Or makes you think, this might be the right person for me?   A Dom who is well spoken is a big plus for me but I have a whole list of rules so just one thing is not going to do it for me.

– Anything you care to share as a warning to others?  I find that those who tend to 'know it all' are really 'no it all's'.

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RE: Stories of warning or positive experiences? - 2/7/2007 2:41:09 PM

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UMMM answers??
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RE: Stories of warning or positive experiences? - 2/7/2007 3:21:47 PM

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aaahhh.... I knew there was something missing....

thank you for providing one then

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RE: Stories of warning or positive experiences? - 2/12/2007 8:21:31 PM

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The important thing for me was that he listened to what I said and accepted it. He didn't say that because he was the dom he automatically knew what was right for me when he didn;t even know me yet. I've known me for 52 years and I am the only expert on me there is.

The other thing is that I sort of assumed a dom would be going in a straight line, full out for what they wanted and might miss subtle signals I sent. So I didn't try to be indirect. When he pushed too hard and too fast I told him I couldn't handle it and his reaction was not to thump his chest. Instead he apologized and slowed down. This happened a couple of times but the fact that he was willing to go at my speed, so that I could be comfortable and build trust in him was the greatest sign that this was an all time good guy.

Red flags, people who say they'll decide what your needs are. Sorry, they meet you once and suddenly they can read your mind? Doesn't work that way.

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RE: Stories of warning or positive experiences? - 2/12/2007 9:27:05 PM

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Horror (or not so horror) stories?
Not here. An EHarmony dweeb brought is 8 year old on a first-meet. He wigged out because I did not want to kiss him, and took my life in his hands driving like a lunatic in the rain. I told him to pull over and let me out, and when he didn't, I started beating the hell out of him till he finally did.

– Anything you would consider a serious "red" (or orange, pink, green, LOL) flag when talking to someone or IM'ing with someone or even meeting someone?
No picture, or old pictures. No detail in profile. If they are too lazy to fill out something that important, then I am sure they will leave out other important life details when "getting to know me".

– What about things that makes you go weak in the knees? Or makes you think, this might be the right person for me?
If their lifestyle, needs, and mental chemistry is a match for mine.

– Anything you care to share as a warning to others?
Don't spend too much time online before meeting briefly and publicly. Don't fall in love with your story - get the facts. Trust your gut.

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