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LadyEllen -> RE: gender dysphoria and submission (2/8/2007 7:21:39 AM)
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I'd assume, it could all be discussed beforehand in the same way as any other boundaries would be.
I've only experienced it all, totally t'other way about, as it happens, but the key I've found with interested sub males, is to make it all clear from the start. Mostly, they walk away I have to say, but thats OK. A couple didnt.
What I'm picking up from your OP is that this is more to do with the discomfort you anticipate feeling, in revealing yourself and talking about stuff which is not generally understood by others? Thats entirely understandable, if its the case, and its never easy anyway. Still, its something that has to be done, just to show respect to the other person if nothing else. In this, youre struggling with self acceptance just as anyone "normal" does, but to a much greater extent.
In the end, if you want others to accept you, the first step is to accept yourself - not easy, as I said, especially in a society which in general cannot cope with gender variance. But there are good people out there, and here too. And you are not alone either - there are at least two ftm who participate on the boards, and at least a dozen mtf too. Be prepared all the same, for misunderstandings and rejection, and dont let them get to you.
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