Leonidas
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Well, first, I don't do scene play, and I don't go to play parties. There are a great many people who don't. I don't doubt that you have never seen a constructed scene that did not have at least some sadistic overtone. Orgasm denial for its own sake might be sadistic, especially if that is your intent. Orgasm control within the context of a TPE style relationship often is a completely different matter. In the context of such a relationship, orgasm control is just that, an expression of control and ownership and submission to same. It has nothing to do with sadism. Similarly, it would never occur to me to humilliate a slave just for the thrill of doing so. If I verbally remind a slave of their place, it is just that, reminding them of their place. If I spank or whip a slave, it isn't playing, and the act in and of itself isn't even sexual. It is to discipline them, or on rarer occasions, to remind them that they are subject to discipline. The way that I train, keep, and treat a slave is purposeful, and from the perspective of an owner, almost always carries the motivation of increasing the slave's value. So, you see, your world of play parties and humilliation/spanking/flogging/waxing/etc etc etc scenes is quite removed from mine, and I am far from alone. Maybe it's time to entertain the notion that there might be more to this lifestyle than those things to which you have been exposed. I am pleased that you saw fit to clarify or revise your original statement. The original certainly looked to me like "hey, what's the big deal, every dom is sadistic, why don't you get with the program?". If you re-read what you wrote, maybe you can see how one might get that impression, and come to a conclusion along the lines of "crap". Take care of yourself. Leonidas
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