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Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 8:43:45 PM   
obey1


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Status: offline 		Hello everyone.

I wanted to start this thread to ask about special experiences that you have had in BDSM (that you can talk about).  It may be your first time, or it may be the best time or worst time.  Please share your experiences here and limit your comments on other people's experiences until you have contributed your own.
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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 9:02:28 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		The first time I saw blood in a scene. My knees went weak and I had to lean against the wall. It was glorious. It wasn't even much, just enough to run down his ass cheeks. Lovely lovely sight. That was like...ummm...6? years ago. WHY did it take like 5 years to figure out I was a Vampire???

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 9:11:54 PM   
Meerkad


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Status: offline 		My then submissive's fingernails going further and further into my back as I told her to hold on tighter and tighter as I took her against the door. There were annoying drunk revelers outside our dorm door and they were speculating that we were doing something (even though what we had been doing was sleeping) so we decided that...what the heck...we'd give them more than they bargained for.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 9:21:13 PM   
SmokingGun82


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Status: offline 		With my first serious, long term girlfriend... sucking on her nipple, when she said "Bite?" in a trembling, questioning little voice.

I'd always known that I was a sadist- even without knowing the word. That night was the first time I realized that there were masochists...

It was, without a doubt, a life changing experience.




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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 9:44:54 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		receiving my first collar was a life changing experience. i was nervous and frightened like a bride on her wedding day as Daddy explained the significance and meaning of what wearing it around my neck would mean to me. it was almost like saying a my wedding vows again especially when i heard the click of the metal joining together before screwing in the screw.  at first the metal felt heavy around my neck ...now i barely notice the weight of it after a month.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 10:06:17 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Gosh, if I related mine it might cause a bunch of "I told you sos"... I will pass, but we recently had a pretty drastic change in the way our dynamic operates in the BDSM sense.. for the better. I wish I could share it

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 11:10:36 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		My first life changing moment with him was when I kneeled naked before him, presenting myself to him for the first time.

The second and most profound life changing moment with him is not something I will relay here specifically, but I will say it brought me to the edge of my mind and back again, taking a long time to process and recover from.  I knew this man had the ability to crush me....but never would.  The event brought to surface many extreme emotions, which ultimately resulted in a bond to him that was stronger than ever, and a new found strength in myself which allowed me (and still allows me) to overcome major life hurdles with little incident.  As difficult as this event was, it made me a better person over all and I am incredibly grateful to him for it.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 11:35:19 PM   
obey1


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Status: offline 		All awesome.  These are strong experiences that keep us all in the lifestyle.  I know there are more out there, anyone like to share?

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 11:42:25 PM   
mbes


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Status: offline 		The other night when we were playing in public, he trusted me to hold onto the straps keeping me in place, rather than tying me to them. It might sound small, but it wasn't to me.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 11:47:16 PM   
bearincuffs


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Status: offline 		The first life changing experince was having a former lover completely me stripped of clothes and tied both hands and feet to the bed. At that point, he had total control and was able to do whatever he wanted and I was helpless to resist.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/10/2007 11:59:07 PM   
denika


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Status: offline 		Two very big moments for me. The first being when I saw  Knight play alandra. It was at a play party and I remember feeling as if I suddenly recognized the missing peice of the puzzle.

The second was  private play that took place a few months after my Mothers death, I wasn't letting myself greive , instead tucking it all away in a metaphoric box in my  heart and  mind, I was also holding in all the stress from my job on top of it. The details are something that is private to me but the outcome was so cathartic, I cried, I screamed and ranted and a peice of me was set free when I finally let go and let myself beleive that I was worthy. Every play we have shared  has been empowering in some way or another but this one in particular, every crystal detail of pain and release will stay with me for a lifetime.

denika

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/11/2007 12:07:19 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Denika you reminded me of after my Dad died when I released my grief to my Master...how he drew it out of me and after months of staying strong during Dad's illness, after planning his funeral and holding my mom up...I could finally "let it all out" with my Master.  I was truly able to wail in grief, and ultimately collapsed on his chest and sobbed.  I wouldn't say it was life changing for me, but an amazing moment we shared none-the-less.  Thank you for triggering such a beautiful memory for me.  I am glad you were also able to express your grief in such a way, and sorry for your loss.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/11/2007 12:23:17 AM   
denika


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Status: offline 		ownedgirlie:
You are very welcome. As my friend and Top Knight saw that I was not letting the natural progression of greif happen, I was blaming myself for the uncontrollable ( My Mom died of cancer) I had walked the same path  with my Dad years ago and the prospect of seeing myself as an orphan, even as an adult was daunting.  The experience helped me let go of the thinking death owed me, It is incredible how pain of a one kind can heal pain of another.
I'm glad I could trigger a happy memory.
The best place in greif is when you can think of those gone without sadness but joy at the memories and laughter they left us with.

denika

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/11/2007 12:57:50 AM   
sexyone4you


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Status: offline 		The first time I felt safe enough to fully submit to someone.  After having some rough encounters, being able to fully let go was amazing.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/11/2007 1:07:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		The first time i felt secure enough to shed my tears (about something totally unrelated to WIITWD) and he held me closely, tenderly and i knew he cared.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/11/2007 3:20:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		At the fetish flea one year. I was invited in to the Room of a Married Dominant couple. They were going to co-top a causal friend. I sat on the bed and watched the two of them.  I was in such awe. They were truly magical-  in complete sync with each other.  It was a short session and yet to this day still the most wonderful thing I ever watched. Like watching a beautiful dance in slow motion.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/11/2007 4:44:04 AM   
goodpet


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Status: offline 		The Captain and i have known each other for about 10 years, first as vanilla dates, then as long distance friends (kind of lost track of each other for several years) then reconnected in the lifestyle at a party about 5 years ago. Surprised us both to see each other again in a kink setting.

We stayed lifestyle friends, never playing or dating with each other, He was”just Griffin”, my friend at that point.

2 years ago, the Captain did a kidnapping scene at a kinky camp we go to.  He only recruited 2 others to help and what He thought would be an easy take down lasted 45 minutes with me being tied, getting untied, and dragging them all over the gym floor. At one point He finally had enough and did some kind of fancy quick hard wrestling move and He took physical control me flipping me down onto His lap, my arms wrapped behind me, His legs over me and one hand under my throat, pushing my head back against His chest/neck.

He then said in a low voice, “Who’s in charge NOW?”   “YOU are SIR.” squeaked out of me.

At that point He became a "Sir" to me, not just my friend.  He has been Sir ever since and I started to do some service for Him and the rest is history.  He collared me at the Camp the next year, which was last May.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/11/2007 9:25:21 AM   
MsCameron


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Status: offline 		Oh, yes :)

It was at Thunder in the Mountains about 8 years ago.

I was lucky enough to watch a blood/single tail scene between 2 gay men. It was so intense. By the end, the blood was running down the bottoms back  and the top hugged him from behind smearing the blood all over his chest. Sobbing, the bottom went to his knees and proceded to lick the blood from the top.
The top looked up and met my eyes and I simply smiled at his nod.

It was one of the most intense scenes I have ever witnessed. Even after all these years later, it still takes my breath away when I think of it.

MC

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/11/2007 11:48:17 AM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		I have had many special SM experiences with my Lord; it is hard to choose.

One of the best ocurred on the Friday after US Thanksgiving in 2005.  He took me down into the dungeon and told me to strip.  Then he went about setting up the place for what he wanted to do.  I had spoken with him many times about experiencing blood play.  I had watched him do a cutting on alandra several months before and so I knew he was setting up for some type of knife/blood play.  When he was ready he put on my collar and had me kneel there while we talked.  He told me that he was going to put his mark on me and because of my skin it would most likely be there for the rest of my life.  It is a symbol of his ownership and committment to our relationship. 

Then he gave me the choice and asked me if I was ready for him to do it.  He laid me on my side on the massage table and told me not to move.  I don't know how long it took; but he cut a pair of crossed swords into my right thigh with a knife.  Afterwards we cuddled together on the bed in the room and talked about the future and made love.

The swords are still quite visible.  They have healed to brown lines.  He will most likely touch them up again with a scalpel over the years to make sure they stay.

Another memorable experience is the last time that we played.  It was an extremely negative play for me, not because of what he did during play but because of my mindset going into play.  The pain was not even remotely pleasurable and I just wanted it to end.  What made it memorable and life changing is that days later while processing all the things that put me in a negative mindspace to begin with and working through what went wrong, I realized that I will not say no to him.  During the play I felt very small, insignificant and objectified; when I realized that I will not refuse him I felt very proud.  I don't just obey when things are easy, simple and I am getting what I want.  I will do what he tells me to do and trust that he will not harm me.  I am his slave and I will do whatever he wants me to do.  A very positive outcome to an extremely negative experience.

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RE: Life Changing Experiences.... - 2/11/2007 11:54:53 AM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: denika

ownedgirlie:
You are very welcome. As my friend and Top Knight saw that I was not letting the natural progression of greif happen, I was blaming myself for the uncontrollable ( My Mom died of cancer) I had walked the same path  with my Dad years ago and the prospect of seeing myself as an orphan, even as an adult was daunting.  The experience helped me let go of the thinking death owed me, It is incredible how pain of a one kind can heal pain of another.
I'm glad I could trigger a happy memory.
The best place in greif is when you can think of those gone without sadness but joy at the memories and laughter they left us with.

denika



Like you, I blamed myself for my Dad dying, irrational as it was.  I took him to the hospital after all, and two days later he died there. 

My Master later told me he watched in amazement as I greived my father, and as a father himself, could only hope that his daughter honored him when he is gone as much as I did my Dad.  Words that touched the soul.

Now that I think about it, I would say my entire experience with my Master has been life changing.  Yes there were some significant moments, but in reality the big picture with him in and of itself has changed my entire direction.  I consider myself incredibly fortunate, and if I express my gratitude daily it is not enough.

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