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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/12/2007 11:19:34 PM   
kate


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Status: offline 		May...thank you so much....i knew everything you were saying... but i haden't really thaught about it that way before.....my Dom is not around (he is away at school) but i guess thinking of my mouth as just for the food to keep me alive and for him is a good idea...the "food, water and my cock" think didn't quite sink in in that way before... i just figured he was trying to make referance to me sucking cock, lol..... but that line can mean a lot more when i think about it more.....thank you very much for sharing your experiences with me....

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 9:12:26 AM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: kate

well, i'm back, i coulden't sleep.....some more good stuff

tomorow i am going to buy some gloves of different kinds and make an apointment with my councelor.....but for now...i have the night to get through....and it looks like it's going to be a hard one


Would having a mental image of your Dom sucking HIS thumb help?
 
Or how about  viszualizing your Dom giving you a sharp slap across your face when you do start your thumb thing? 
 
I had a male cousin that STILL had a fragment of the satin edging of his baby blanket he used to suck his thumb.. at age 40!

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 9:37:57 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I have sucked my thumb since I was litterally a child, and I am not buck toothed, my teeth are not crooked, nor any of the things parents threatend would happen.

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 9:54:12 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Lotus you made your point quit haranging your disaproval at her over and over again. you don't like it, YOU don't think it's cute, you think it's age apropriate we know that by now. We already know how YOU feel, you don't need to keep broadcasting YOUR disaprooval at her.

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 10:19:54 AM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

Lotus you made your point quit haranging your disaproval at her over and over again. you don't like it, YOU don't think it's cute, you think it's age apropriate we know that by now. We already know how YOU feel, you don't need to keep broadcasting YOUR disaprooval at her.


Actually, I'm TRYING to help.  Obviously she sees it as a problem.  Visualization techniques can work.
 
The only people I get upset with are those that post giving excuses for a behavior from those that have given up on themselves. 
 
My "block" option is located to the lower left of my post here.  Feel free to employ it. 

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 10:26:05 AM   
kate


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Status: offline 		ok, please don't fight....i hate confrontation and i don't want to be the reason anyone is upset with anyone esle....

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 10:30:21 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		trying to help by continually directing disaproval her way? by continually pointing out how you think it's inapropriate and you know people who're in their 40's who still has part of a baby blankie and you disaprove?

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 10:34:29 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		kate, it's just that I don't think it's helpful  not completing anything or doing any good to keep pointing out that people know people who're much older do this and the person pointing it out disaprooves. I think that the people who've contributed examples of how to wean oneself have been more benifitial than continually  projecting disaprooval, and how you know people much older and disapprove of it.

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 10:35:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

trying to help by continually directing disaproval her way? by continually pointing out how you think it's inapropriate and you know people who're in their 40's who still has part of a baby blankie and you disaprove?


You are reading "disapproval" when I was simply stating a fact.  She should to know that something like this can be onging to an extreme.  If she is upset, SHE can tell me.. OK?  buh-bye

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 10:44:03 AM   
kate


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Status: offline 		what EVERYONE has said has helped in some way....except the guy who told me to suck more dick, lol.....and i have takes something from what everyone has had to offer....thanks again

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 11:09:26 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		kate,

Do you feel badly about sucking your thumb on occasion...and why?

Did you feel badly about it before you dom mentioned it?

Did you want to stop before then, and why?

agirl






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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 11:16:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I have sucked my thumb since I was litterally a child, and I am not buck toothed, my teeth are not crooked, nor any of the things parents threatend would happen.


i do not have buck teeth nor crooked teeth either.  Strangely enough, none of my children sucked their thumbs yet my oldest had crooked teeth and ended up with braces....and my oldest son had some crooked teeth but refused to get braces.  So i don't think thumb sucking on it's own makes for crooked teeth.
 
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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 11:24:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: agirl

kate,

Do you feel badly about sucking your thumb on occasion...and why?

Did you feel badly about it before you dom mentioned it?

Did you want to stop before then, and why?

agirl



i think this is part of the point agirl.  The OP obviously has a desire to quit to please her Master....that is why she came here.  But others (such as myself) are not looking to quit and although there has been some helpful hints on how to quit, there has also been some derogatory comments toward thumb sucking in general....and i'm not sure why that has to be.
 
On the occasions that i do it, i happen to enjoy sucking my thumb.  i just don't have any negative feelings toward it.  But if i were looking for suggestions on how to quit (such as the OP is), i would welcome such suggestions sans the insulting comments.
 
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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 12:32:20 PM   
kate


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Status: offline 		i did not want to quit before He asked me to....i actually quite like it...that's what makes it hard..... but i DO want to do it to please him

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 2:12:33 PM   
agirl


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ORIGINAL: kate

i did not want to quit before He asked me to....i actually quite like it...that's what makes it hard..... but i DO want to do it to please him


I think it can be very hard to give up something that isn't obviously *damaging* ..ie smoking, drinking, over-eating, eating badly or taking drugs etc......especially when they are formed as habits over a lengthy time. How much harder is it to abstain from something that has no obvious point other than being *pleasing*?

As awful as it might sound, I'd have to have a sound reason to try so hard to stop doing something that I unconciously do in my sleep, that no-one sees, that harms no-one........Maybe I have rather more obvious flaws that require attention.

I also suck my thumb sometimes, I have a doll , a cuddly and a teddy that's had his fur *loved off*.......they are private things, exist in my room and are scattered around my bed. I don't traipse around with them, they are just there when I want them and easily tossed aside when not appropriate.

agirl

















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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 2:31:52 PM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		I suppose thumb-sucking sits alongside many innocent pleasures, for me.

It's likely not terribly *grown-up* to splash in puddles, roll in leaves, wade in rivers, squelch in mud, spin on a roundabout, use a see-saw, climb trees......... There's a time and a place......but give them up?

agirl

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 2:34:47 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

quote:

ORIGINAL: kate

well, He asked me to do it today....and i have just started...and i caught myself 4 times already :( i am just so worried about it


Got to a pet shop and buy some "bitter apple" and slather it on. 
 
Or you can look in mirror and reflect that you are 21 YEARS OLD!  It's not cute anymore and it's affecting your relationship.


Lotus, I sometimes wake up sucking my thumb and I am far from cute. INFACT I have seen grown ass men do the same thing on occasion. We don't give into the habit because we want to be cute. We do it because we have always done it.

To the OP.
I find that when I am totally awake I can curb my desire to suck my thumb. When I am asleep it's a diffrent story. I have yet to find my cure. But good luck to you :)



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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 2:36:12 PM   
nyrisa


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Status: offline 		When I wanted to stop biting my fingernails ( a lifelong habit) I got my nails done, with some pretty acrylic nails......that were too hard to bite. *L* It worked very well for me. I was thinking....you might consider something like that, long acrylic nails would uncomfortably poke your soft palate and interfere with your usual sucking pattern and feeling. And since you want to stop, all you really need is a reminder to yourself, so you can catch it and stop. You have not failed if you forget and put your thumb in your mouth. That is just years of habit, which will take a long time to break. The nicely manicured nails will a positive reinforcement every time you look at them......visual evidence that you are working to do your Dom's will.

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 5:36:26 PM   
kate


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Status: offline 		i'm so pleased that i am still getting responces from people...and useful ones at that...the nails thing dosen't work..i have tried it...but thnks for the suggestion

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 5:45:24 PM   
bludemonn


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Status: offline 		Just getting off the 'scene' for a sec, can i ask you Kate if your Master was say your boyfriend and he asked you to stop would you see it as him trying to mould you into someone else or would you see it as though you need to please him to keep him happy? Just a question. 

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