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lkg4rldomme -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/18/2005 3:33:43 PM)

Believe me it goes both ways. A lot of Domme's expect you to lay your whole life out there, for who knows who too see, with the the reason being to see if your serious and not just another pain in the ass wannabee. Then when you really sit down and reply with a well thought out and informative response(that usually takes alot of time), answering all thier questions and being very polite, you never get a response.
Just a "Yes I'm interested" or "No I am not interested" or even a "Maybe" would be enough for me.
Almost every Domme has complaints about the submissives they have dealt with online. It seems alot don't believe they have to show the same respect that they themselves require. I myself am not going to act like I am someone's slave without ever even meeting them.
Yes, I do realize it is all of the bonehead subs out there that have ruined it for the rest of us. If we all keep that mindset though, we'll just keep running in circles. There are many unscrupulous(sp) Dommes/Doms out there also, that us subs have to deal with.


"Treat the Earth well. It was not given to you by your parents. It was loaned to you by your children. - Kenyan Proverb




SweetDommes -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/18/2005 3:43:56 PM)

I reply to just about anyone once - the only exceptions are those messages that are obviously cut and pasted.

It may be "perhaps you should read our profile a bit more closely" or "because of x y and/or z, you are not compatable with us" but there is always some kind of a reply - otherwise, I wouldn't complain about the submissives doing it, because well ... just because we are Dominant doesn't make us better than them.



lkg4rldomme -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/18/2005 3:57:09 PM)

That's just because your one of the good ones(smile)
Keep it up!



SweetDommes -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/18/2005 4:00:26 PM)

We try - some days we are much more successful than others ... but then again, we are human.

I have been known to be downright nasty to some of them - especially if they send 2 or 3, one right after another asking why they aren't compatable - when if they had read the profile they would know. But in general, I do try to at least be civil, if not polite.



Oumae -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/18/2005 4:32:22 PM)

I also make a point of answering mails ...unless they are rude.

Oumae



LadyAngelika -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/19/2005 9:24:14 AM)

I answer all email. It's just the way I am. If someone writes me a one liner or something rude, I answer back with a "no thank you" usually. Nothing more. They don't get a free humiliation session from me ;)

Those who put a little more thought into their letter to me will get a more thoughtful response.

Often times, I find people do not read my profile before writing to me. My profile is relatively long, yeah. I've had a guy write to me once saying that he didn't read my whole profile because it was too long but that the pic of my legs & my interest checklist gave him a hard on. The world is full of morons it seems.

The first paragraph of my profile says: "My objective on this network is simple. I am looking to connect with likeminded people. I am not actively seeking out submissives at this time but I am open to making online friends or local (Montreal area) friends and under special circumstances I may take on another submissive. Note that I will not entertain an online or long distance affair." I indicate afterwards that if people want to engage in dialogue with me, to come meet me on the forums.

You cannot imagine how many mails I get of guys saying "Mistress please dominate me". I wonder if they are purposefully being jerks of if they are genuinely morons.

I go on to explain how I want to be addressed and even what I expect from a first email. Usually what I end up getting is someone’s sexual history and list of desires. Why do they assume I want to know all this? When I want a story, I’ll open a book or rent a film.

I have a technique at the very end of my profile. I saw it on another profile on another network once and I thought, what a brilliant idea so I snagged it. It’s adding a keyword at the end of your profile and tell them to mention it. You’ll have to read through my whole profile to see what it is! <weg>.

- LA



MistressWoulf -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/19/2005 10:02:25 AM)

Very clever idea. ;) I never would have thought of that.

I was in a rush and very tired when I wrote mine (didn't even realize I could use HTML). I need to redo it, but probably won't be able to get to it until tomorrow at the earliest.



SweetDommes -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/19/2005 11:00:32 AM)

We start off our profile saying "there is a test at the end" and at the bottom, there is a set of 4 requirements that we wish to see in any first e-mail ... if they don't read the whole thing, they fail the test.



LuvSponge -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/19/2005 3:46:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

I have a technique at the very end of my profile. I saw it on another profile on another network once and I thought, what a brilliant idea so I snagged it. It’s adding a keyword at the end of your profile and tell them to mention it. You’ll have to read through my whole profile to see what it is! <weg>.

- LA


I like that.

I generally just offer cash and cars.



ablackwall -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/21/2005 11:35:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

We start off our profile saying "there is a test at the end" and at the bottom, there is a set of 4 requirements

Your profile says, and I quote, "caucations only". Which is funny because you've managed to excise "asians" from the correct spelling. Good job, Eva Braun.



onceburned -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/21/2005 12:02:41 PM)

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Good job, Eva Braun.


That is really uncalled for. There is no reason to turn sour grapes into vinegar. There are plenty of dommes in the San Francisco Bay Area... I don't think you need to to go hunting halfway across the continent.



SweetDommes -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/21/2005 4:11:35 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ablackwall


Your profile says, and I quote, "caucations only".


Eh, I never said it was a spelling test at the end. You are honestly the only person to have caught it (or at least the only one to mention it) - and it's not like every other profile on the whole website is free of spelling/grammar errors. However, just to make you happy (please note the sarcasm as I roll my eyes) I did fix it ...

For those of you who aren't determined to make me out to be a horrible person just because I have no need to see my admittedly insane father shoot our boys - I honestly didn't realize that I had typed it wrong, I have mild dyslexia and don't always catch these things. For those of you who don't know what dyslexia is, that does not mean that I only see letters backwards, or that I flip equivalent letters (i.e. k for d or so forth) it means that there are some wires crossed in there somewhere and it seriously screws up spelling abilities.



GentleLady -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/21/2005 5:59:41 PM)

ablackwall

Contrary to what you assumed, SweetDommes are not being racially prejudiced with that restriction. They have a valid reason and are being upfront about it so that submissives do not waste their time applying when they will have to be turned down for safety reasons.

Gentle Lady



LadyAngelika -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/21/2005 6:22:10 PM)

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For those of you who aren't determined to make me out to be a horrible person just because I have no need to see my admittedly insane father shoot our boys


Now here is an interesting twist I didn't expect to this post.

You know, I've dated perhaps every shade of skin possible. Easy to do in a cosmopolitan city such as Montreal. My mom once asked me if I was going to start my own branch of the UN. ;) Race was never a big issue in my family. Neither was gender. So when I brought home a Chinese girlfriend, it was all good!

I do have a friend who has been dating a black man for the last 5 years. When she met him, her brother threatened to shoot him. Five years later, it's all talk still. Is it one big happy family? Nope. Does she care? Yes. Is he worth it? You bet.

I have no idea of the mental state of your father and it's really none of my business, nor do I expect a report. Except for the fact that you posted it on the boards and now it's up for public discussion. Is there no way to set boundaries with him? Then again, if you are not attracted to people outside your race, that's fine. No need in broaching the subject with him.

It's not a prejudice to have a preference. If your profile would have said "<insert prejudicial word for blacks>. <insert prejudicial word for hispanics>. <insert prejudicial word for arabs>. <insert prejudicial word for asians>. <insert prejudicial word for any other nationality or race> need not apply", then I'd call you a bigot and I’d be dead on. But to specify what you are looking for is not prejudicial. It is up front.

Which got me thinking… I was going to modify my profile for it to say "no morons". Perhaps I should say "enlightened people only" ;)

- LA



SweetDommes -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/21/2005 6:46:04 PM)

It's mostly an issue of making my life a little easier - and with all the guys out there, there has to be a guy that is acceptable to my parents out there that is ALSO acceptable to us. Should we run across someone outside our age range, or of a different race - yes, I will bear the brunt of my father's displeasure, but since there are 100s upon 100s of guys on this site who do fit our qualifications (at least the basics) why shouldn't I narrow our search to those instead of the 1000s upon 1000s that we could be sorting through?



LuvSponge -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/22/2005 3:10:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

It's mostly an issue of making my life a little easier - and with all the guys out there, there has to be a guy that is acceptable to my parents out there that is ALSO acceptable to us. Should we run across someone outside our age range, or of a different race - yes, I will bear the brunt of my father's displeasure, but since there are 100s upon 100s of guys on this site who do fit our qualifications (at least the basics) why shouldn't I narrow our search to those instead of the 1000s upon 1000s that we could be sorting through?


Looking everywhere won't insure you ever find what you seek.

Under every stone may be a diamond or a slug.

Very often we look right past what we seek.

So often we stare directly into the face of desire, and lose sight of the very thing that eludes us day to day.

Perhaps a rethink on what you desire most?

Only when you insist upon honesty within yourself, can you ever expect to truly find what you've probably already stumbled across.

No one ever gets out alive...enjoy what you have, and don't put so many restrictions on "what's good" (and what's not).

Great things don't happen...you demand them. You'll never find what you seek, unless you stop clouding your mind with other peoples opinions.

Everyone has a preference, but if you never try asaparagus...how will you ever truly know what you believe...and what someone else has conditioned you for?


OMFG !!!! This post is like the Davinci Code or sumpin!!!!! The first letter of every line....it's like a secret code!!!!! The perfect sub is....LUVSPONGE!!!!!

(This may be the right time for me to buy a lottery ticket)




SweetDommes -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/22/2005 10:15:39 AM)

All I have to say is - I know that asparagus is disgusting because of the smell, I know that other things are wrong for us for other reasons - I don't have to try everything to know that it's wrong for me/us.



FelinePersuasion -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/23/2005 12:28:33 AM)

There's really no such thing as a perfect intro for every one. What you think is perfect, will be diffrent from what I think is perfect. and so on and so on. The "perfect" intro is one felt from the heart written sincerly and with best foot in polightness grammer and all things proper well in place and heeded.



LadyAngelika -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (3/23/2005 4:33:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion
There's really no such thing as a perfect intro for every one. What you think is perfect, will be diffrent from what I think is perfect. and so on and so on. The "perfect" intro is one felt from the heart written sincerly and with best foot in polightness grammer and all things proper well in place and heeded.


I think you mean grammar. I guess spelling isn't so important ;)

I jest, but I'm trying to prove a point.

You know, I expect proper spelling and grammar in English from a anglophone and in French from a francophone. I do however make exceptions for people with learning difficulties and/or who don't have either of these two as their first language.

In the end, it's all about being tolerant.

- LA



Westernboy2534 -> RE: The Best Intro you've encountered from a slave (4/1/2005 1:53:32 PM)

Yes, I do agree that there some Dommes and Doms who are bad examples of the lifestyle. There was a Domme who contacted me for a possible meet and after a week of not being able to reach her, I moved on. I also agree that a courtesy"I am not interested or I changed my mind would be nice. Yes there are some subs out there who do not have true intentions but Dommes and Doms should realize that their title comes with responsibilty. They need to realize that subs do have feelings and should be respectful of them. The last Domme I was under believed there was no room for negotiation on anything and that she should be catered to with no middle ground for consideration for her sub. Dommes and Doms should also realize that submission is a gift of respect and love. This one did not and that is sad. thanks for the opportunity to vent.



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