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where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/11/2005 4:16:27 PM

babyslavegirl

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Can anyOne please tell this girl why all the Daddy/Master's that she has came across in the past 2 years just All seem to be players, jerks, abusive bastards, wannabes, etc... out of All the Daddy/Master's in this world can this girl not just find surrender to One wihtout being scared she is getting played? If You are a REAl True Daddy/Master please stand up!!!!!!!!!

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/11/2005 5:00:06 PM

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Can anyOne please tell this girl why all the Daddy/Master's that she has came across in the past 2 years just All seem to be players, jerks, abusive bastards, wannabes, etc...

perhaps you haven't found the one for you. We all have different quirks and many Subs/Slaves have different things they look for. Be patient as well as yourself and you'll find that Special Daddy just for you.

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can this girl not just find surrender to One wihtout being scared she is getting played?

It'll always be a risk Darlin. Being scared is a normal reaction. Sometimes ppl are more scared of finding what they want instead of finding a flurb. I don't know about yourself. However, you are just going to have to conquer your fears and keep trying. Since I have a fear of heights, I continue to always go to the top of buildins, climb ladders, and ride escalators.

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If You are a REAl True Daddy/Master please stand up!!!!!!!!!

Well I'm standing but I already have a sub and she's enough for me. I wish you the best and continue to advise that you be patient.

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/11/2005 5:50:13 PM

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It's a sad fact of life that the lifestyle attracts the worst, but like anything in life, there ARE a lot of genuine folk out there. There IS One for you, you just haven't found Him yet. (Or for that matter, He hasn't found you.)

And for the record, you aren't alone. I talk to subs all over the world and they are constantly telling me exactly the same thing as you. Yes, it can be scary, but you seem to have your head screwed on right, and as long as you don't "lower the bar" in what you seek, you'll be ok.

Keep on keeping on eh?

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/12/2005 11:07:11 AM

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Erm....

A couple suggestions that might help you in your search? These message board forums are a GREAT way to get to know some of the people on the website. What you say in these forums speak volumes about who you are, and -lots- of people will read what you write, possibly more then people who will read your entire profile.

When posting on the message boards, I would strongly suggest that look your post over to correct any grammatical and spelling errors. Write about topics that are interesting to you, and put your best foot forward.

Good luck!

Stephan

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/12/2005 12:21:14 PM

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You're too anxious. You want it sooooo badily that you're not holding out for the Dom you deserve. You're settling for anyone who claims they are a Daddy or a Dom. Not everyone who makes that claim, as you've found out, deserves the title. You'll do better if you can find a real time group to join. It is a pain in the butt to find anything outside of Chicago, in IL, so I can't help you with links there, as I'd usually try to do. If you can't do that, get active in the "ask a sub" forum and get some feedback on spotting players. (Hint: do a search on both "real Dom" and "find Dom" first so you're up and running with what has already been discussed. You can learn a lot from reading older threads)

Do not rush into things. Ask plenty of questions. Do not feel you need to do more than show basic respect if you do not wish to until you accept someone as your Dominant. Do not believe all you are told. Ask for references. Educate yourself on the different aspects of BDSM and learn enough that you can spot the easy fakes from 100 paces. Figure out what YOU want out of submission and make sure you communicate that to a Dominant up front. I know a lot of Daddy's girls can be shy about that, but it is very important to find your right Daddy. Not all of us Daddy/Mommy Dominants are the same. What being a Maternal Domme means to me doesn't mean what it means to most other Mommies. Most other Mommy/Nanny Domme are into age play instead of the caring/nurturing relationship dynamic of general parent/child interaction I prefer. I find with Daddy Dom, it is the other way. Most of them are into the caring/nurturing dynamic instead of the age play. Unless you discuss things with them though, you'll not know where they fall on the scale of things. If you are not totally up front at first, how can he judge if you're for him. You can make your needs known in a cute or shy way.. such as writing them down and giving them to him if you can't speak them. You also have the right to have him be totally up front with you.

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/14/2005 1:17:36 PM

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Daddys, Doms and Masters are quite different creatures in many important respects. Knowing which kind you need will reduce the number of "players, jerks, abusive bastards, wannabes" you encounter. They may have been entirely honest about what they were but you lacked the knowledge to tell the difference.

What turns people on or off can be highly specific in this life and just because our tastes don't jibe with someone else's doesn't necessarily put them at fault.

Learn what you really are first - behave in a manner befitting that nature and your choices will become much clearer.

Oh, and have fun doing it.

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/14/2005 3:14:12 PM

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First the good news, there are many more jerks players and abusive bastards in the vanilla world then there are in ours. Now the bad news. In the vanilla world no one expects you (and you don't expect yourself) to bare your most intimate secrets and make yourself the most vulnerable that you can possibly be before you find out they are players jerks and abusive bastards. In the vanilla world they just want to f*ck you. In our world you f*ck yourself while the assholes are just trying to f*ck you.

Lastly, listen to everything Beach says and memorize it.

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/14/2005 4:10:37 PM

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quote:

Can anyOne please tell this girl why all the Daddy/Master's that she has came across in the past 2 years just All seem to be players, jerks, abusive bastards, wannabes, etc... out of All the Daddy/Master's in this world can this girl not just find surrender to One wihtout being scared she is getting played?

Dear BSG-

Nope- none. there isn't a soul that you can surrender to without being scared that you are being played-

but that's your fault, not theirs.

If you are looking for a no risk relationship, I'd suggest you local animal shelter. But if you want to interact with humans, there will always be risk.

as for where to find these 'Real True Daddy/Masters'? The good news is that there are plenty out there. The bad news is that the ones that aren't taken are likely to be found in trauma wards, due to self inlicted head wounds, incurred by banging their head against wall after dealing with one too many players, jerks, abusive bitches, wannabes, etc.

Stay warm,
Lawrence

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/14/2005 4:40:45 PM

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quote:

Dear BSG-

Nope- none. there isn't a soul that you can surrender to without being scared that you are being played-

but that's your fault, not theirs.

If you are looking for a no risk relationship, I'd suggest you local animal shelter. But if you want to interact with humans, there will always be risk.

as for where to find these 'Real True Daddy/Masters'? The good news is that there are plenty out there. The bad news is that the ones that aren't taken are likely to be found in trauma wards, due to self inlicted head wounds, incurred by banging their head against wall after dealing with one too many players, jerks, abusive bitches, wannabes, etc.

Stay warm,
Lawrence

Damn, man... bit bitter are we? ;)

Still... a decent "throw the shit in the fan while standing in front of it" reality check. *grin*

Like Lawrence here says, there's always going to be fear, doubt, etc... your best bet is to keep looking, keep your expectations low and your hopes high. And, of course, don't rush things... there's no hurry. Best of luck to you!

DK

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/14/2005 5:11:57 PM

topcat

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M. DK-

Bitter? nah- I just used her own words- you make the world you interacting with your word choices- i was wondering if that would be apparent to anyone.

Stay warm,
Lawrence

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/16/2005 4:26:31 PM

subcheryl

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Well I hope the Doms don't mind I answer here, as I am a sub. But I wanted to encourage babyslavegirl. I am an owned slave to a Master/Daddy. He first is my Master, and that is how we entered into our relationship. Then one day I became sick and Master did really nice things for me to make me feel comfortable and better, well when He came home from work I was feeling better but needing cuddle time with him and our dogs demanded his attention too, and I made the comment to the dogs,"I need daddy's attention too," and Master looked at me and said something to the affect of "I didn't know you thought that way<" and our daddy/daughter relationship began, he first reminds me he is Master in my life and then he is my daddy and I love it. It allows me to act up, when I feel impish without fearing that he will think I am trying to top from the bottom, So take heart find a Dom/Master that you share interests in and if you meet and get along and things go farther and you are honest from the beginning of these feelings of needing a daddy, who knows he may surprise you and be your Daddy. Safe hunting and keep looking

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 3/27/2005 11:35:18 AM

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There is good and bad in every lifestyle...ive been lied to, stolen from...but in my heart of hearts i do believe that there is a true owner out there for me ..who will accept me and my family. I am sometimes also too experienced for some, and scare people .

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 5/15/2005 9:20:16 PM

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babyslave girl...
i kow that this is a delayed reply...but hey let me add my two cents worth havign been in a seemingly successful Daddy/little girl relationship....I found my Daddy believe it or not via searching aol and looking for a DOm...and i lucked out he was one of the few Gents i have been involved with....and i was by no means seaking that sort of relationship....but i brought myself as the soil and he planted the seed and our relationship grew from there...and it grew unfortunately due to needs of us both our relationship was cut short...but he is still the one i run to when the chips are down...and he is still the one that comes to my aide after all this time. I continue to seek his approval even though we are no longer together...and it has been a very long time...but I respect him and i assume that he feels the same.

My advice is to be the soil and keep your mind open becasue who you are today determines what you truly need...and what you want isnt necessarily what it is that you need. ANother way of looking at things is "it's not having what you want....it's wanting what you've got" and if it takes looking through a pile of resume's to find the one that is not necessarily fully developed that has the potential for growth then do that!

Just my humble opinion....and just for the record...I too would love to be in the same type of rrelationship....but its just not in the cards at this juncture...i have want what ive got...

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 5/16/2005 7:29:44 AM

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Well if it helps it cuts both ways. When you are speaking with that special girl and she drops the ole ' I really want to come and see you..but don't have the money from the plane ticket....." "I will be there next friday...had to work that weekend"....yadda yadda yadda.
It happens in the vanilla world as well.
I met my slave online but not till after some bad experiences..we are looking for a 3rd, and have run into some flakes, but hey when it works there is nothing better when we have been frustrated or played again it seems like its always that way.
Cheer up there are real people out there.

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 5/17/2005 10:45:38 AM

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I'd point out that the one thing all your relationships have in common is you.

You said:

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Can anyOne please tell this girl why all the Daddy/Master's that she has came across in the past 2 years just All seem to be players, jerks, abusive bastards, wannabes

If everyone you meet is wrong for you - you are doing something to enable that.

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 5/19/2005 8:10:58 AM

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There's been some brilliant responses on this thread. Hopefully a lot of people can learn from the responses.

I think there is one other aspect to highlight from babyslavegirl's profile:

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Thi girl has learned that a REAL Master wouldn't ask this girl to do things at first but to stop and get to know her as well as her soul.

If he isn't going to gently start asking you to do things for him, or for yourself, from quite early, how do you think he is going to know if you are REAL? As has been indicated on this thread, it works both ways. You quite possibly have already met a few good men but they have been turned off and are banging their heads, feeling that you are yet another unreal lil girl who wants them to be just like your last Daddy/Master and won't spend time getting to know them and showing that you are serious.

I also think VERY few men would identify as both Daddy and Master and even reading your profile it isn't very obvious what you are really offering, only what you want.

Sometimes it is hard to stay positive and the best advice I have is to take a break from searching for a while because you will never find someone right without a good, positive attitude.

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 5/22/2005 9:21:41 PM

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Because unfortunately BSDM and in specific a Daddy/daughter relationship (NOT a blood one but a "scene" one) iI so full of perverts and "wannabes" that there are indeed very few out here that can handle completely such a relationship.
They are out there you just need to weed out the crap.

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 5/23/2005 6:57:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: babyslavegirl

Can anyOne please tell this girl why all the Daddy/Master's that she has came across in the past 2 years just All seem to be players, jerks, abusive bastards, wannabes, etc... out of All the Daddy/Master's in this world can this girl not just find surrender to One wihtout being scared she is getting played? If You are a REAl True Daddy/Master please stand up!!!!!!!!!

it's simple; men forgot how to be men. so in turn, just forget how to be a woman. it works out.

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 5/23/2005 7:13:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: Voltare

Erm....

A couple suggestions that might help you in your search? These message board forums are a GREAT way to get to know some of the people on the website. What you say in these forums speak volumes about who you are, and -lots- of people will read what you write, possibly more then people who will read your entire profile.

When posting on the message boards, I would strongly suggest that look your post over to correct any grammatical and spelling errors. Write about topics that are interesting to you, and put your best foot forward.

Good luck!

Stephan

yeah, CAUSE EVERYONE HAS THE TIME TO WHIP OUT AN OLD TEXT BOOK AND SEE HOW THEIR GRAMMAR IS. goddamn.

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RE: where is a Real True Daddy/Master - 5/27/2005 4:56:06 PM

Voltare

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I would think if you don't have the time to do something right, you probably don't have time to do it. I can't imagine any slave or submissive enjoying a half-assed spanking or a scene where the Dom doesn't 'have the time' to learn how to use nipple clamps.

Then again, I could be entirely wrong.

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