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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 10:51:37 AM

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Susan, for Me I don't see nor ever do see Myself as a Daddy Dom. There is something about it that doesn't suit Me. I am a rather strict but caring Dom but not a Daddy type. That is why they make chocolate and vanilla, I guess.
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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 10:52:49 AM

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lateralist1: I appreciate your insightful response. Thank you!

LordVelvet: Well, it's not for everyone. I am not sure people even know what they are referring to sometimes, there is so much misunderstood terminology flying around in bdsm-land. But generally, Daddies are supposedly nurturing.

But, as was pointed out, there are plenty of nurturing Doms who just don't refer to themselves as "Daddy". Even if someone isn't particularly nurturing in a D/s relationship, I have no doubt that there is a suitable partner for them out there - because, as you pointed out -everyone has different needs.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:12:18 AM

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i believe daddy doms are more nurturing, i have some of the same needs mentioned above, which have been completly met/complimented by daddy. i disagree about the lack of a physical symbol, however, this pink diamond will atest to that.
as for bad kissing, why bother to begin with? eew
the before menmtioned daddy was/is trapped in a dead relationship, and i think we both provided the other with the trust/patience/emotion/saticfaction needed to be happy in the time we were allowed

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:16:37 AM

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domahpet: I, too, disagree that a Daddy-daughter relationship is simply transitional toward some other relationship. I'd consider it something good for the long-term. I can see why some wouldn't want that, but I don't see it as necessarily transitional - and that's not how I'd view it, certainly.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:26:21 AM

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**In general, what do you think is the biggest difference (if any) between Daddy Doms and Masters? What has your experience been, if you are Master or a Daddy, or a submissive or a slave who has dealt with both (or either) kind of Dominant?

The answers you've received thus far have been very good. I distinguish between the two based primarily on the Daddy's desire to parent, as opposed to a Master or Dominant that may only desire to guide. Relating to one another utilizing a parent/child dynamic is dramatically different from being instructed in other ways. This does not imply that one cannot be both a Daddy and play another role, much like the submissive can also be a little girl. However, the overlying attribute found in both parties is typically their desire to relate to one another in some capacity as Father and child.

The extremes that the relationship progresses to are largely dependent on their desires. Having lived in this manner in the past for a long duration, I found that it is usually inherent and ever present even if a relationship of this nature is not in place. Those that are Daddy's or little girls have distinguishable characteristics that are evident outside of the power exchange. It is merely one aspect of their personalities that they opt to share with another in one particular way. But they will manifest themselves in everyday relations too.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:30:21 AM

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porcelaine: Thnaks for the very clear and detailed repsonse from one who has been in this kind of relationship.

Now you've got me curious - what cahracteristics do you think females who are prone to be "daughters" (as in Daddy-daughter) exhibit in their daily lives (even when not in a Daddy-daughter relationship)? Just wondering.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:31:28 AM

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Sorry for the typos (I am a really lousy typist). I usually go back and edit my stuff, but my PC isn't letting me in to edit today, for some reason.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:36:38 AM

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Not nessisarily, My dominant told me he's not comfortable french kissing because he in his own mind is not a good or skilled kisser.

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People who are bad kisser never realize it. Just saying.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:37:24 AM

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I believe daddies can and should be nuturing but I also see daddies as a master as well as a dom. So I really don't distinguish any difference between the two. Any older man be he a dom, daddy or master offers or should offer a younger woman some nuturing.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:39:52 AM

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MrRodgers: Thanks for the reply.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:40:48 AM

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I believe daddies can and should be nuturing but I also see daddies as a master as well as a dom. So I really don't distinguish any difference between the two. Any older man be he a dom, daddy or master offers or should offer a younger woman some nuturing.

But not all Daddies are older than their submissives, some are younger. My Daddy is closer in age to me than anyone I have dated since I was in my early 20s, my last dom was old enough to be my actual father... so while I understand the sentiment of the post, it does not describe other people's realities

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:43:32 AM

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juliaoceania: Good point - all kinds of "Daddy Doms" are out there (includingfemale, I guess. Although I've always thought of thyose as Mommies, maybe it's a whole different dynamic). Maybe it's because I consider myself to (probably) be a Switch - but I was kind of intrigued when LA posted that some male submissives have been Daddy Doms - that never ocurred to me, and it's kind of a turn on, really.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:44:07 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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I believe daddies can and should be nuturing but I also see daddies as a master as well as a dom. So I really don't distinguish any difference between the two. Any older man be he a dom, daddy or master offers or should offer a younger woman some nuturing.

But not all Daddies are older than their submissives, some are younger. My Daddy is closer in age to me than anyone I have dated since I was in my early 20s, my last dom was old enough to be my actual father... so while I understand the sentiment of the post, it does not describe other people's realities

Julia,

I agree.

How did you and your daddy find each other?

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:45:12 AM

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juliaoceania: Good point - all kinds of "Daddy Doms" are out there (includingfemale, I guess. Although I've always thought of thyose as Mommies, maybe it's a whole different dynamic). Maybe it's because I consider myself to (probably) be a Switch - but I was kind of intrigued when LA posted that some male submissives have been Daddy Doms - that never ocurred to me, and it's kind of a turn on, really.

- Susan

Maybe we should start a thread to see if anyone on CM is a submissive daddy dom??

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:48:09 AM

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I could go for a submissive Daddy Dom. My Dominant doesn't mind if I have a male submissive, either (he already said that very clearly, in fact. Several times).

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:49:25 AM

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Make that a male submissive Daddy Dom (no offense to any lesbians).

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:55:04 AM

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Susan - Master is both. In Daddy mode - he is sweet, loving, caring, playful.. easy going i guess. Like this weekend, he was teasing me and said i had a fat ass. I become mockingly insulted and started beating him with a pillow. Evetnually i switched to a rolled up newspaper and was trying to take swipes at him when ever possible. Leaving me MORE frustrated as well i wasnt doing a great job. It all ended with me collapsing on his lap - out of breathe - and everyone laughing. THAT was Daddy.

I equate Master with a more cold, formal, no mercy, less easy going attitude. Its the look in his eyes that signals it to me. I can almost see his view of me change, his thought process change. His eyes become colder as if he is merely observing me. He's stricter, no games, no play, no BS, no leniency, definetly no mercy.

i get in most of my trouble mixing the two. Generally i am very good at reading him, but at times i jump the gun alittle bit. i'm feeling playful, or bratty, or moody, or like a snot nosed little girl who has too much fun for her own good....... and he isnt. Luckily after knowing him all this time i am better apt at reading him and knowing what he wants.

so to answer the thread topic - in my r/s most absolutetly fricken yes.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:56:07 AM

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submissive daddy dom - an expression I've never heard of. Please clue me in as to how this dynamic works.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 11:58:39 AM

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i would like to add that i like having a DaddyDom because in my own childhood, i missed out on having a loving and nuturing father. not saying, he didn't show any love towards me. he didn't know how to show love or be a nuturing father. i had a military father and we weren't close as father and daughter. it was more like sergeant and private.

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RE: Are Daddy Doms really more nurturing than Masters? - 2/13/2007 12:00:56 PM

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Julia,

I agree.

How did you and your daddy find each other?

He emailed me on another BDSM personals site

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