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ORIGINAL: magiqnapa

I had an orgasm without the "yes" and was punished *sigh.....a very frustrating two days in forced chastity.....no sleep, wanted to break things, wanted to explode....I will never forget to say "yes" or "ask" again.

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

It's odd that your profile says you're a dominant female.






Lordandmaster:
I consider myself an Alpha Sub....I know most don't agree with that term. I am in a Poly relationship and I am a sub/slave to only one: Master Mitch. I am a Domme to all else....including my subs.

< Message edited by magiqnapa -- 7/4/2005 9:14:47 AM >

(in reply to Lordandmaster)

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Learn your body, orgasm a lot, by yourself and with others, see what works and what doesn't, see what your triggers are, feel the approach, take your time.

Me? I'm very difficult to orgasm and if someone manages to get me there, I either have to push it through or push it down. And if it gets pushed down, it's gone for a very long time. It's just how my body works.

See how yours works.

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ORIGINAL: SophiaBelle

I feel that your Sir should be helping you more in this arena. I am still pretty new to this stuff but (and I know this might offend some people) I am a dog trainer, and to me, what a Dom/me does to their sub appears to be a lot like condition training. If this is the case he is going to have to condition you to be able to stop yourself from reaching orgasm. I suggest using a cue word that you relate to a very strong image in your mind. You can either go about it with positive reinforcement, where when you even psuedo-succede you get rewarded and your body will start to associate word-action-reward, or (and I believe this is more in the style of bdsm) you can use negative reinforcement. I feel 'punishment' is ineffective- it is not used quickly enough after the 'mistake' to allow your body/subconcious to start associating which would help you. I recommend a very unpleasant sensation directly after you fail to stop yourself from coming - be it smell, pain, whatever.

I hope that is of help (though convoluted.)

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ORIGINAL: SophiaBelle

I am a MISERABLE failure at getting my posts to be in the right place, and I'm kind of dippy right now-- I can't even remember who I was replying to! To amend for that failure, I would like the whole bit to be considered "general informational rambling" that is to be used if anyone sees fit. Sorry.

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ORIGINAL: pandoravampire

er, vibrator?
hard solid cheap as chips type = more effective at transfering the vibes from plastic to clit.

then for the desparate days, ram something up your arse, something in your pussy, put chain nipple clamps and bend over a candle which heats the chain then the nipple clamps, put vibe on your clit, stand in front of the Dom/me/mirror and show them/you what a fucking slut you are!

works for me