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RE: Privacy - 2/16/2007 3:19:54 PM

MzMia

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ORIGINAL: Isaidnow

I think as a safety issue especially for women be they Dom or sub to do a background check especially if you are going to be living in the same home even more so if there are kids living there as well.
Also if a sub is chained, tied etc, they want some degree of re-assurance that they are not putting themselves in the hands of an axe murderer.

As for telling each other, that is a matter of personal choice, but to have such a close 'relationship' trust would be an important factor, therefore honesty would be the way forward for me.

I agree with this 100%, my mother asked me to do a background check before I married my ex-husband, it is the way to go!!!

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RE: Privacy - 2/16/2007 7:02:51 PM

Celeste43

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Checking up on each other before even meeting for coffee? Sounds foolish as you don't even know yet if there's any click in person. But afterwards when you're seriously considering a relationship with them is a good idea. Not telling them is not smart because eventually it will come out and then the person you lied by omission to will distrust you. Be forthright about it and offer them the same right to check on you because if you don't the assumption will be that there's something you're trying to hide.

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RE: Privacy - 2/16/2007 7:42:36 PM

porthuronsub

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ORIGINAL: all4yourplsr

Greeting, Mistresses and thank you for reading my question.

Is it acceptable for a Mistress to check out a sub behind their back or should she always tell the sub that she is checking into this or that about them?

On a different line from my earlier posting I don't think it is good for a Mistress to go behind your back once you are together. As in any solid relationship you should have open communication, if you don't you have deeper issues. I would think that if a Mistress has done this, or is doing this to you that you must have done or said something that really concerned her.

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