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RE: Subs with low sex drive - 3/3/2007 12:12:17 AM

Hime

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Does he have a weakness?

If so, try offering him just a taste of the thing he craves most....then take it away!!! *leaving him frustrated & yearning*
Occasionally tempting, taunting, and teasing until he Begs for Satisfaction.

Being the erotic creature that you are....
Self-control will be a personal challenge! ;o)

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RE: Subs with low sex drive - 3/7/2007 7:52:44 AM

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Someone mentioned getting a medical check up to determine testosterone llevels...shots can be administered to correct any problems... testosterone is also administered to women with a low sex drive. Also there is a herb that is fairly inexpensive called Yohimbe...an African tree bark extract. Yohimbe is supposed to increase testosterone levels...though I have not seen any tests to prove this. I know in my case I have taken it for a while and experienced an increase in desire including erotic thoughts not just erections...then ran out and stopped for a month or so and seen my libido decrease...then started it again and seen the erections and erotic thoughts return. One might suggest this is placebo but I have started and stopped this herb many times and seen the same results. I use Yohimbe in conjunction with Viagra with great results. Hope this helps.

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RE: Subs with low sex drive - 3/7/2007 11:39:14 AM

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Personally, I would, not only, take him to the doctor to get his hormone levels checked, but, I would have the doctor do a complete physical. In addition, I would suggest to make sure that he is getting plenty of exercise, eating healthy, taking vitamins and getting plenty of sleep as all of these areas can take a toll on someones drive. Once you rule out that it is not something physical then you will know that it is a mental or emotional block.

I cannot help but to wonder how he would feel if you stopped being in control of him and/or stopped initiating any play. Does he have a desie for play? Does he have a "desire" to serve in all things he does or is he just goign through the motions?

Just my thoughts, I wish you all the very best.

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RE: Subs with low sex drive - 3/7/2007 12:11:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne

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It's known that Mistresses in general prefer NOT to have sex with their male subs

I would say that is true of pro-dommes and their slaves/subs. They certainly maintain that air of "unattainability" to all clients. Sleeping with a client is the fastest way to lose him. However, many have rich and fulfulling sex lives at home with The One(s) They Love.

However, is it true to say lifestyle Mistresses in general prefer to be celibate? No way!!! We want richer, kinkier sex lives than vanilla women. Does that mean we all have to sleep around with numerous partners? I hope not. I love my submissive.

he likes chastity a lot - it keeps me top of mind. But I have misgivings whether it is a good idea

we are just sexually incompatible. And its a huge disappointment because its so damn hard to find someone in the same city with compatible kinks, other common interests, intelligence and dead sexy to boot.

Those of you living in big cities might find it easy to replace subs, but I have been looking for 10 years and there's not many genuine submissive men with integrity and irresistable looks.

Can I salvage this situation?

I would suggest not letting him have his chasity for awhile. Actually make him masturbate to porn. I have found that the more a man experiences arousal and orgasm, the more he desires it. Or at least the easier it comes next time. While I'm not a man, that is definately the way it works for me so it might help!

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RE: Subs with low sex drive - 3/9/2007 6:51:31 AM

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