hisannabelle
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Joined: 12/3/2006 From: Tallahassee, FL, USA Status: offline
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except for a lot of people, hard limits don't enter into the negotation. i wish beth were here :P her wisdom would be so appreciated in this thread. i don't go into a bdsm relationship looking to put limits in, sorry. i mean, i wouldn't ever kill someone, so i guess that's a hard limit, but that's why i'm intelligent enough to beg a collar from a master who i trust never to require that of me. for a lot of people, they do not keep a laundry list of things they don't feel like doing, because they are not comfortable with that definition of submission. what would i be worth as a slave if every time my master turned around, i told Him i didn't feel like it? by the same token, He's very conscious of my health issues and my personal inclination on things and it's rare that He requires something of me that i truly dislike...but that's not for everyone, and those times DO happen. i'm in this because i want to submit, i'm not in it because of me me me. i'm not saying that hard limits are bad, but saying that everyone should have them is kind of silly to me, or even that if i don't like something, it's acceptable for that to be a hard limit. at this point in my life, electrical play and knife play would send me into a very bad headspace. He enjoys knifeplay, but He hasn't broached that subject too far at this time because i'm not ready for it. that said, if He required either of those of me, i'd do it in a heartbeat. now, things like that i can understand -being- hard limits for some in my situation because, like i said, they would trigger very psychologically painful reactions, but making housekeeping a hard limit because you just don't feel like doing it cheapens submission, imho, and that's how it feels to me that you are approaching the subject, based on the phrasing in your posts.
< Message edited by hisannabelle -- 2/18/2007 10:57:02 PM >
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