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heartfeltsub -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/19/2007 5:35:29 AM)
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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
Defiant, I think this is going waaay beyond the thread here and may require therapy.
I don't need therapy to realize that what happened with the jerk I married was in no way my fault. I was concerned that many of the male subs might be lying about their sexual orientation. Not everyone on this site reads the forums. Therefore, not everyone knows that many male subs engage in bisexual activities. I didn't want to see someone else go through a similar experience.
You may couch it is as you don't want anyone else to go through the experiences that you have, but it doesn't make it any less of a unhealed experience of your past. i used to say the same type of thing about events of my past, trying to warn others so they didn't have to go through the same things that i did, but that didn't change the fact that i was walking around still incredibly and deeply wounded from a past experience, carrying baggage that was destroying me and i needed to let it go. It was coloring how i saw and heard everything, the same as it is doing with you.
i know that this post is probably a collosal (sp?) waste of time, as you have not shown much willingness to actually "hear" any one else who has taken the time to post on this thread, but apparently i am more of a masochistic than i would like to admit, as i seem to beat my head against walls repeatedly.
Sexuality is about desire, not about action and an obedient action, even repeated more than once, does not change someone's sexual desires. If doing an action or pursuing a course of action is as a result of being obedient alone, with no desire to do the action, it does not make someone a bisexual, it makes them obedient. If pursuing the same action, using the fact that they were ordered to do something as a cover for their own desire to do it, would make that person a bisexual, something they may not want to acknowledge to themselves. The important item is personal desire not what actions have or haven't been done. A person (who is repressing his or her desires) could never actually have sex with a person of the same sex, but be filled with desires and fantasies of doing so, and although no action had been done, that person (imo) would be a bisexual or homosexual.
All that aside, someday, i hope that you will finally start healing from the wounds that your past relationships with men have caused, otherwise, the probability is high that you will be one lonely woman.
heartfelt
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