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BeachMystress -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 12:44:27 PM)

While I agree that it should be your choice, I will say that I highly value that I was the first person who took my subhubby anally. Some forms of virginity do count to some people. I doubt that gang bang virginity falls under that catagory for most people. My personal feeling is that if you want it, do it. Your future Dom may not be into the idea. (Not all men share well.) The chance may not come around again.



Sinergy -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 1:05:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: afraid

Thanks farglebargle! lol! 
Julia, I'm totally and completely torn.  Maybe I should have posted in the "ask a Master" section.  I just mostly wanted to get a view on how important it is to a Master that their slave is "new" or if it matters at all?



I have been with several virgins (sexually and BDSM) in my life, and I have to agree with George Clooney when he says "Who wants 70 virgins anyway?  Give me 3 professionals."

It does not matter to me in the slightest.  She is with me today, and we make our tomorrow.

Sinergy



FirmhandKY -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 1:36:45 PM)

Excellent advice, CD.



DoctorDubious -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 1:54:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: afraid

Thanks farglebargle! lol! 
Julia, I'm totally and completely torn.  Maybe I should have posted in the "ask a Master" section.  I just mostly wanted to get a view on how important it is to a Master that their slave is "new" or if it matters at all?



Jeez Louizzz (I mean ms. afraid and all)

It's just fucking, ya know?

Some dudes make a big deal outta it,
and some don't.  Your BongoDude seems to get off on the idea.... eh?

I assume you've heard about contraception and safe sex, right?

>>Julia, I'm totally and completely torn.
Now that brings to mind a much rougher
gang-rape kinda scene, so you might consider
your options a tad on that little number... so to speak....

heh heh

DD, punning away in Hollywood.



porthuronsub -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 5:32:36 PM)

I feel the most important advice you received was from Madame Shy.  You don't know everyones sexual history, don't risk the rest of your life for one night of fun.  Be safe, use protection. Have your playmate make that a clear rule for anyone participating.



somethndif -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 5:47:50 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: afraid

I need some help and guidance.  I have a man that I play with on a repeat basis.  He is not my owner we're just playmates.  He's recently asked that I perform a gang bang for him.  Although, I'd like to, it's one of the few remaining activities that I haven't done yet. 

Should I wait to perform this activity until I have an owner?  Kinda like save my gang bang virginity?


Like others have said, the decision is really yours, and yours alone.  As a Dominant, it would not matter to me if you had been gang-banged before you met me.

But I do have a question.  I looked at your profile and you say that you "hate" swinging.  I am just wondering how you square hating swinging, with your willingness (eagerness?) to be gang-banged? 

Dan 



porthuronsub -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 5:55:39 PM)

You also might want to check out the size of the crew...hate to have the insurance company come out the next day and declare your goods totalled



SusanofO -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 7:34:46 PM)

Do you get any say-so as far as who these guys are? I mean, can you request cute ones, or "big" ones, or whatever turns you on? I know that sounds very un-sub-like to mention (most probably). Hmmm - maybe not, but, my point is: Really, if you're gonna do it, may as well enjoy it a lot (of course I am a Switch, which may explain my thinking here, to a degree).

- Susan



jadein -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 7:37:31 PM)

Wow, i think you got some great responses here .... but the ones i find the most important are the ones about saftey ... Not just physical saftey (using condoms and contraceptives and latex gloves if anyone's going to be sticking fingers anywhere and making sure it's not like 20 guys) but the emotional saftey of it all ... since you are torn about it as you said.  Your aftercare could go on for quite a bit if you are emotionally messed up about it all afterwards.   If it were me and my fantasy (not one I have, but can see the allure in it deffinatly), I would wait untill I was in a more perminant relationship and when you are speaking with someone this could be one of the things that you could say I deffinatly want to experience this someday with someone who's willing to take on the responsibility of it.



sensualmagirl -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 7:57:30 PM)

~fast reply~

I have never done this, have fantasized about it, but am far too chicken... lol... will more than likely remain strictly a fantasy for me, who knows, may come to fruition one day.

My main concern always is when it comes to the idea of a GB is safety, safety, safety.  So, I thought I'd pass on my questions I have for myself to you, maybe you can ask yourself the same things before you make your decision.

Do you trust your mate to watch out for you? Will he be able to make sure everyone complies and uses protection? Will he make sure your interests are protected (whatever it is that you find appealing about men)? That you are satisfied as well as unharmed?

I mean, I know you are not completely defenseless, but, let's face reality, we are women. You appear very demure by your photo  (that's not an insult though, mean it as a compliment) but, even myself as a big/tall woman, if I were surrounded by say 5 or more big men, I don't think I could fend them off if I needed to. This could quickly turn into a nightmare of a situation for any woman.

Personally, I would need to have the utmost trust in my partner to protect my life, interests, and health. Aftercare is also a big deal... I've been involved in a 3some before, there is not a lot of intimate moments after, something I very much missed in those relationships. It's probably why I turned to finding my Dom who truly fits my deep need for intimacy.

With all that said, and that food for thought if you will, if it is something you really want, trust your partner, if could even know the men involved, and all possible safety precautions are in place, you only live once! 

I would think your Owner when he comes along would be excepting of you for who you are not what you've done. That's where compatability comes in to play anyhow -- IMHO.

But, if you think you want to hold off until you meet your compatable Owner, then, there's nothing wrong with that either.

It's your decision and your life. Enjoy what ever decision you make for yourself.

Hope that helps.



SusanofO -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 8:05:27 PM)

That's an excellent point. Just what does "gang banging" in this instance involve? I'd want details, before I agreed. I'd also want some kind of say-so over how the scene was to "evolve".

- Susan  



DominantEngineer -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 8:15:14 PM)

Please be safe, above all else, physically and just as importantly, emotionally. I would think you would get better emotional care from an owner than with a play partner both after and during the gb. Someone needs to be able to read you, to tell if you are getting in too deep, and be able to stop it. I doubt your play partner is able to read you that effectively. That would be the only reason I'd say to wait.

To me a gang bang virginity would not matter.



domiguy -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 8:15:36 PM)

There is nothing  that states you have to be totally honest with whomever you might meet in the future.....So Gang bang away!....But you might want to post some nice shots of your body out here (tits) "Pre-bang" in case your body gets all fucked up or something.

Hope all goes well and may your holes never heal....(that's the saying commonly used to wish someone good luck before they get the snot banged out of them...Similiar to saying "break a leg" before someone takes the stage)



toservez -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 8:36:49 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

That's an excellent point. Just what does "gang banging" in this instance involve? I'd want details, before I agreed. I'd also want some kind of say-so over how the scene was to "evolve".

- Susan  


I think this was good to bring up.

Personally I try at almost all cost to avoid safety comments of health nature for many reasons and will avoid the topic here for the most part as well. This by no ways makes light of safety. I just have my reasons.

I do though think the term “gang bang” rises up images of a woman on a bed and complete strangers lining up out the door. I think this image is used for people lost in fantasy or people who have little experience in scenes of this nature or something they clearly would never do it helps portray the “gang bang” in a bad light instead of to each there own thing where it has risks just like most things we do in life.

As a person who has been active in swinger/hedonists lifestyle and been “gang banged” both for sexual enjoyment and by an owner(s) wishes in various ways, this has not been my experience at all. Most gang bangs do not have a lot of people and are not total strangers.

One of my reasons not to discuss safety is that I do not like my intelligence questioned and therefore try not to question others. I just think as a string of people concerned about safety that I would at least point out gang bangs have a broader definition then from the fantasy cliché. Control and safety are of course important.



sensualmagirl -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 9:22:52 PM)

thank you for that toserv. I liked reading your viewpoint as someone who actually did experience such a thing

I am one of those people who had the really bad cliché image in my mind... as I've never been involved in anything larger than a 2 men at once (MFM 3some or a MFMF 4some).

I didn't mean to question anyone's intelligence by bringing up safety, wasn't my intent. I just wanted to present the things that went through my mind when the opportunity had presented itself to me a couple of years ago.  

Ultimatley, the fear of it being a lot of strange men, lack of intimacy, as well as being totally afraid for my health and safety, made me feel it will just remain a fantasy for me. I would need a lot of trust first for me... but, was nice to read that you did it and enjoyed it [:D]



azzmaster -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 9:35:05 PM)

altho i like to train a sub, gangbangs in particularr somethin dat get betta with xperience



domiguy -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 9:36:23 PM)

God Dammit!  You leave you women to your own devices and you can suck all of the fun out of something as Christ like as a Gang Bang!!!!

Will it be safe?... What  about those icky germs?....Who's involved?....How big are their cocks?....Will they actually care about me?...Will they call me the next day?..

It's a Fucking gang bang!...If it is done correctly the bangee has but a twenty five percent chance of complete recovery.

I agree with azzmaster....Yuz hoes gets on yo neez and be show to allows axsess to boaf of ya holes and evens yo' mouf duringz da gang bang.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 9:38:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: somethndif
But I do have a question.  I looked at your profile and you say that you "hate" swinging.  I am just wondering how you square hating swinging, with your willingness (eagerness?) to be gang-banged? 

Dan 

While I can get into an occasional swing party, it's really not my thing.

However, I adore gang rape scenes and orgies.

Swinging is its own culture and just because you don't love swinging or its culture doesn't mean you can't get into other forms of multiple partner sex.



MistressDolly -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 10:02:20 PM)

I think you should not do a gang bang per se but rather get 4 or 5 guys you know really well and have then all fuck you, instead of a bunch of "mindless"  unmoving strangers.

If that's what YOU really want to do. :)



ElectraGlide -> RE: Gang Bang (2/21/2007 10:44:12 PM)

Quick get the Duke Lacross team on the phone. Only kidding..



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