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24/7 - 2/22/2007 8:23:38 AM

Unrepentant1

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I hear a great deal about living the life 24/7 etc, but is this really possible and are there any who have actually lived 24/7 as a sub/slave, do Domme's really seek this?

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 9:25:06 AM

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There are those who have the sub/slave work and bring in money. The Dom/Domme stay home resting and awaiting the return. Though I've heard of different ways of going about it, I only know a few who have actually tried it.

There are Domme's who seek this, some have more than one sub/slave.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 9:27:23 AM

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Yes and yes.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 9:45:42 AM

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" There are those who have the sub/slave work and bring in money. The Dom/Domme stay home resting and awaiting the return. Though I've heard of different ways of going about it, I only know a few who have actually tried it. "
I am one of those who wish to try it.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 9:50:22 AM

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24/7 does not mean that the submissive is kept in shackles and chains when not 'in use,' it doens't mean that he/she lives in a cage, and it doesn't mean that the Dominant wears leathers all the time and carries a whip everywhere he/she goes.

24/7 means that the power dynamic is always there, whether the submissive is at home, at work, out shopping, or out to dinner with friends. It means that the dynamic is always there, whether the Dominant is at home, at work, asleep, watching tv, etc.

It is definitely possible, and we are just one family among many who live it.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 10:05:13 AM

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24/7 is how I've been living with Fox now for over 7 years.

You have to separate your fantasies of Ds from the realities of it.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 10:14:32 AM

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I also live in a 24/7 lifestyle. Seems weird to try and explain it that way because just call it normal. lol...

All this means is that like others who have posted, there is always a power dynamic. John is always the final say in whatever goes on. I actually own my own business, he works 50 to 60 hours a week. Could he order me to stay home from a show? Yes, but would he? No, because that would seriously jeopardize my business. That would be an incredibly irresponsible thing to do, and as the Dominant...and just a smart responsible adult... that would actually make him, well, NOT the dominant.

We don't live in a fantasy world where I am always in a collar, leash, bound, etc... We have daily lives, and we also have the power dynamic to enhance our lives. I hope that made sense.

Not everyone is "suppose" to live this way, it's ok if a person never wants to live this way. Basically, to me... "it's all good."

Have a great day!!

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 12:10:24 PM

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As every several have articulated, in a round about way, it really depends on the relationship. I’ve had slaves live-in 24/7 that did not work outside the home or have any social life. Their world literally evolved around me. This was their choice. I’ve had others that were like Tammy Jo’s where we had a somewhat normal day to day partnership with serious D/s undertones.

I prefer a balance, so to speak. I want it on all the time, to some degree but I also want more. I like to be able to go out to dinner, have good conversation, laugh, etc. Still I want to know that any time, no matter when or where, I snap my fingers he/she will drop to their knees.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 12:40:47 PM

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Dear Unrepentant1, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I can only speak for my own personal experiences. My first Master/slave relationship (back in the 1980s) I was a military dependent where a parent was the bread winner and deployed and family living overseas; so wasn't really pressed to have a job but, I went on a tour researching Medieval Crimes and Punishment, which also a dual interest for me.

When back in the USA, I was employed and earned my own pay check and my slaves earned theirs. In my household, the slaves got an allowance and spending money for special expenses. I took the remaining funds and put it into a high yield percentage savings account with their name as First owner and I was joint.

I'm retired now but, I have a pension so, what funds are made and or contributed to the running of the household will be reasonable. Now if we can all get the cost of living to go down. [Smiles]

I have lived the lifestyle myself. I am a Dominant woman who doesn't see a slave for just their money support or free labor. I see them as gems and individuals that make my life all the richer for their company, companionship and bringing their talents and abilities to make progress in the pursuit of happiness, furthering knowledge, uplifting our spiritual wealth and our emotional wealth. I do my best to leave someone in a better shape in many respects then when I found them.

Like a strong wall, slaves can lean on me, rest against me, depend on me to shield them and invite their efforts to scale up, over and down through life's journey. I stand there with them.

I will say that 24/7 is a label to describe as consistant and living together, not weekend M/s relationship and or distant, cyber and or phone D/s relationship. Same house living. As a 'home' in the practice of M/s and or BDSM; there are times where there is sleep and times having to go to work and deal with life. Just like a family with parents and kids, a parent might leave the house and do what they must to earn money and kids do their growing. But, regardless if the parents are outside the house they never give up their title of parent and or in this case Master/Mistress, Dominatrix, nor does the slave. It is private behind a home's walls and its individualized.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 1:22:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

As every several have articulated, in a round about way, it really depends on the relationship. I’ve had slaves live-in 24/7 that did not work outside the home or have any social life. Their world literally evolved around me. This was their choice. I’ve had others that were like Tammy Jo’s where we had a somewhat normal day to day partnership with serious D/s undertones.

I prefer a balance, so to speak. I want it on all the time, to some degree but I also want more. I like to be able to go out to dinner, have good conversation, laugh, etc. Still I want to know that any time, no matter when or where, I snap my fingers he/she will drop to their knees.

This is what I dream of, but feel it is all it will be , a dream. In Reality unless The Domme is loaded(not that I don't work for a living), I do not see how it is at all possible.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 1:41:51 PM

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I know MANY who do and have. However, you have to realize these are real RELATIONSHIPS. It's not role play and these couples/families don't play 24/7.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 2:14:06 PM

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Oh, its a relationship I seek, without any shadow of doubt.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 2:23:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressCal

There are those who have the sub/slave work and bring in money. The Dom/Domme stay home resting and awaiting the return. Though I've heard of different ways of going about it, I only know a few who have actually tried it.

There are Domme's who seek this, some have more than one sub/slave.

There are also dominants that prefer to be the breadwinner, control the finances and the submissive doesn't work so they can devote their time and energy strictly to the pleasure and comfort of their dominant. That's the way I live, and I wouldn't trade it for anything. If my submissive had a job, I wouldn't have him at my beck and call and I would have to compete with a career -- my urges don't work well with that. When I want it, I want it.

That doesn't mean he sits around all day watching tv. He's extremely busy managing the house, the errands, the domestic duties, supporting my work as needed and also volunteers part time. But I'm not interested in having him get a job, even if it would mean more money for us. I prefer the quality time we have together.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 2:48:27 PM

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For 24/7 you have to check out the profile of aslaveslife.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/22/2007 5:15:31 PM

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Yes, I have a 24/7 relationship: because it's not play but real life, and things like being polied and servile to other woman count as well to be a sub-attitude, it's very well possible. But nobody can be the severe Mistress all the time. If your slave really feels slave, he'll have the attitude to improve. He won't be 100% perfect, because he will get tired or he won't be focussed at a certain time.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/23/2007 5:29:20 AM

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I use the analogy of marriage.

Just as a married person is a "husband" or "wife" 24/7 (whether you like it or not!), you are Dominant or submissive 24/7 if you commit to a full time D/s relationship.

You may (or may not) wear a branding, cockring or collar, instead of a wedding ring, to symbolise your ownership,.

Does that mean you get to play all day? No. No-one has the (mental) energy for that in real life.

Do you necessarily feel submissive every minute of every day? Probably not.

But that does not stop you being a submissive until you are released (or die!)

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RE: 24/7 - 2/25/2007 4:15:30 AM

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My husband and I live 24/7/365. The easiest way to describe our relationship to people is that we have a traditional 1950's marriage, with him in the wife role. The only difference is that my "wife" doesn't wear girl clothes and does go to work.

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RE: 24/7 - 2/25/2007 6:18:31 AM

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I would not want a 24/7 relationship with a sub/slave.

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