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suberic -> Strange reaction (3/20/2005 12:07:05 PM)

I don't know if this is the proper place to post this, so if the mods move it I won't be upset.

First off, let me state I'm a switch. That said, my lady is also a switch. I like being the bottom half most often and she likes being the top most times, but last night, we switched roles. I flogged her, restraints and the whole thing.

A couple reactions happened to me that are confusing. First I got horny as hell, fully erect while she was tied and I was flogging her. Is this normal?

Second, the second she took off her restraints, it deflated, but once again, when they were back on her, I got hard again. What is up with that?

She was in a wierd place. I'm not sure how to explain this accurately, she was very deferential and it seemed she was drunk. I think she was in subspace, even though it was only about 15 minutes of flogging. And she got there instantly. I don't think it would have mattered to her what I did, she was not only willing but wanting it.

And I, that was the strangest... I was .... gah, I can't describe it. I wanted her to be red, and then I wanted to make her shreak when I finally mounted her.... but at the same time I wanted to keep her safe and happy. but I don't know how to describe it.

Is this normal? Or am I just screwed in the head?



liotk -> RE: Strange reaction (3/20/2005 2:25:50 PM)

I think what you experienced was perfectly normal and expected. She was most proably in subspace and you probably could have done just about anything to her as long as you kept the stimulation going. As for the feelings of arousal and power - welcome ot the club my firend!



MidnightWriter -> RE: Strange reaction (3/20/2005 2:38:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: suberic

A couple reactions happened to me that are confusing. First I got horny as hell, fully erect while she was tied and I was flogging her. Is this normal?

Not at all - it's perverted, kinky, and sometimes sick.

Ain't it fun? There's thousands of folks who enjoy just this - and many of them hang out here - you're in the right place.

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Second, the second she took off her restraints, it deflated, but once again, when they were back on her, I got hard again. What is up with that?

If you were getting turned on by the control aspect, then the turnon would fade when the restraints came off, and return when they were back on. Nothing to be worried about at all, unless they outlaw rope.

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She was in a wierd place. I'm not sure how to explain this accurately, she was very deferential and it seemed she was drunk. I think she was in subspace, even though it was only about 15 minutes of flogging. And she got there instantly. I don't think it would have mattered to her what I did, she was not only willing but wanting it.

There's a helluva turnon available in the loss of control with someone you trust - I'd guess she got there. Some call it subspace.

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And I, that was the strangest... I was .... gah, I can't describe it. I wanted her to be red, and then I wanted to make her shreak when I finally mounted her.... but at the same time I wanted to keep her safe and happy. but I don't know how to describe it.

Welcome to that mindset that some call topspace or domspace.

Congratulations - it's wonderful when that happens.

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Is this normal? Or am I just screwed in the head?

Nope - it's not normal, if you use western civilization's social norms as a guide. It's not exactly rare, though - and the folks who practice such activities are usually found in bdsm-oriented venues, just like this one.

If it doesn't cause problems for you, your lady, or your relationship - then you're not screwed in the head. Enjoy, and welcome aboard!



CitizenCane -> RE: Strange reaction (3/20/2005 2:39:37 PM)

How about perfectly normal screwed in the head? Sounds like you really got the dom/sex connection for the first time- nothing wrong with that. Perhaps before this you were 'service topping'? And her hitting sub-space in 15 minutes may well be just her visceral response to your 'dom-space'.

As for wanting to hurt her, make her shriek, and still be safe and happy- I don't see a contradiction. But then, I'm probably screwed in the head.




Overlord218 -> RE: Strange reaction (3/20/2005 8:57:27 PM)

In the words of that ancient Chinese philosopher? Whatever floats yer boat. A couple I know switched one night. After about 40 minutes of "play", he asked to be released from the chains so he could go throw up.... literally! Apparently, she had a similar experience to you... Unlike your partner though, he didn't. Be careful what you ask for and all that. [:)]



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Strange reaction (3/21/2005 6:58:21 AM)

I agree with what's been said and just caution to go a bit slower next time so you can guage and measure responses better, it's easy to get caught up in the emotions of things, but in the beginning it's best to stop short to process before going on.



sweetpettjenny -> RE: Strange reaction (3/28/2005 7:11:55 AM)

no ...it is completely normal...its seems to be she was in space.. For me i go there then i pass out...maybe you found your niche.



nella -> RE: Strange reaction (3/28/2005 8:00:44 AM)

i know my Dom think it is sexy as hell to time me up and spank me, and i think it is sexy as hell to be on the other side of that. [:D]



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