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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

RWable: That's very generous, and I see your point and mean no disrespect, but: What if the relationship breaks up, and you are stuck with car loans, home loans, etc., that you no longer wish to pay for? The length of the average bdsm relationship is something like 3-6 months. I agree it does pay to be optimistic and generous, but not un-thinking (unless someone is a "money slave", which is a whole 'nother ball-game).

Maybe I'd have to be married to the person first, to give them all-out control over my funds, beyond spending money and saying what portion of bills I'd pay if we lived together (I have amended my answer, I guess). Maybe not (am undecided I guess).

Married folks do have some legal recourse that merely co-habiting couples do not. There are also some legal draw-backs to being married (hard as that might be to believe), but on the whole, I think it might pay to be married, if one has a substantial financial amount to lose or gain. And of course, one could always have a 'pre-nuptial agreement' (unromantic as that sounds).

- Susan