SDFemDom4cuck
Posts: 2809
Joined: 5/23/2005 From: P'burgh PA Status: offline
|
quote:
My experience with fem doms has always been. They hate men. So they take out their daily frustrations on them...while beating them. I've met very few who actually care about the male subs they play with. Wow, It's truly a shame that this seems to have been your only experience with FemDoms. I can assure you it's not at all been my experience in the least. Personally I love and adore men, their strength, their intelligence, their masculinity. There's something about bringing a strong man to his knees that makes mine weak. LOL I've never intentionally harmed someone and I've always felt it was my responsibility as a Strong Dominant Female to help any sub I play with or consider to grow and evolve with any of their interactions with me. For everything I seem to teach I learn from it as well. Certainly that's simply my 5cents worth of opinion but it's been my experience. I can beat the hell out of man and that doesn't mean I hate him or don't care for him. I can also do it out of love and the desire for him to evolve as a submissive and grow from the lesson being learned. quote:
There are good fem doms out there but they have always seemed to be few and far in between. I imagine if someone comes out and says they are a fem dom they could have their pick. With few to choose from...it has got to be a rush of attention when male subs see a new one emerge. I think that the first line says it all. Anyone can say they're a FemDom. Any female can pick up a whip or crop and wield it with force. The difference is that it doesn't necessarily make them a FemDom. That is something that's intuitive, inate, inborn. It's a part of who and what they are (in my opinion) that makes them a FemDom. I can certainly say I'm a FemDom...I was born that way and it's part of who and what I am. I can also back up my words with action, belief and ideology as well as experience and the thought process that goes along with being a FemDom. It isn't something I choose to be it's simply what I am everyday. It isn't a role I play when convenient or when I want to do so. I'm also a blonde, intelligent, female and a klutz. Again, all part of who and what I am and not something I can stop being. If that makes sense. quote:
The questions on the Internet in the early 90s on the femdom/kink forums were more about how to define and act on desires, how to play safely, how to negotiate and communicate, how to reconcile urges and drives. Now it seems there's a contant flow of questions that really come down to, "How can I become a femdom? What do I need to do to be one? How do I "get" subs?" Akasha I agree that there seems to be more of this coming to the forefront. In some of the groups I've been involved with in the past this has become far more problematic. To the point where it seems to have become all it's about. "How can I take advantage of a submissive" rather than "how can I help him grow and deepen the dichotomy between FemDom and sub." It's become all too much more about "What can I get out of it" rather than the satisfaction that comes from control and service. Sad and frustrating when it results in experiences like sub4hires or others I've spoken with that were simply used/taken advantage of for their desire to serve and provide rather than cherished for their ability/desire to serve.
_____________________________
Ms Jo She dealt her pretty words like Blades - How glittering they shone - And every One unbared a Nerve Or wantoned with a Bone - I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.
|