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"Do me"? - 3/2/2007 9:20:55 PM

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In reading one of the threads I saw something that sparked a question. I have heard of "do me" submissives. Are there such a thing as "do me" Dominants? If so, how would you define them?

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/2/2007 9:23:07 PM

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There is, but thats sort of the right of the Dominant. When a sub is refered to as a Do Me sub, its becasue they are wanting everything to revolve around them and what they like or want. If a Dominant does that, they are just being a dominant... Thats why do me subs are looked at in the light they are, they are not being submissive, they are topping from the bottom.
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RE: "Do me"? - 3/2/2007 9:54:44 PM

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Thank you.

I am not a "do me" type of submissive wanting the entire focus to be on me. I have had conversations with Dominants, however, who were only interested in me doing them with no other return except my providing them with pics, erotic IMs and emails, or a one-time meet for sex. I would tend to think of them as "do me" Doms. I suppose other people would be more apt to think of them a HNGs, wankers, or not "real" Doms. Not sure if that is an appropriate definition though.

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/2/2007 10:14:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

There is, but thats sort of the right of the Dominant. When a sub is refered to as a Do Me sub, its becasue they are wanting everything to revolve around them and what they like or want. If a Dominant does that, they are just being a dominant... Thats why do me subs are looked at in the light they are, they are not being submissive, they are topping from the bottom.
My opinion, of course

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 4:22:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: sublizzie

Thank you.

I am not a "do me" type of submissive wanting the entire focus to be on me. I have had conversations with Dominants, however, who were only interested in me doing them with no other return except my providing them with pics, erotic IMs and emails, or a one-time meet for sex. I would tend to think of them as "do me" Doms. I suppose other people would be more apt to think of them a HNGs, wankers, or not "real" Doms. Not sure if that is an appropriate definition though.

A submissive DOES have the right to have her (or his) own set of wants, needs and expectations, though, because we are still human, after all. There are plenty of dominants out there who do take pleasure in a submissive's happiness along with their own. If that is the type of dominant you want, then go for it, and hold out for it!

Just because a dominant has a 'do me' attitude doesn't mean YOU have to 'do' him (or her!)

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 6:26:32 AM

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 7:27:35 AM

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 7:27:46 AM

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Are there such a thing as "do me" Dominants? If so, how would you define them?

Yep. I define them as men who want a lot of sexual service but don't really care about the sub's wants/needs.

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 7:32:14 AM

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Are there such a thing as "do me" Dominants? If so, how would you define them?

Yep. I define them as men who want a lot of sexual service but don't really care about the sub's wants/needs.

You are turning me into a dittohead... that is a hard limit!

But I do agree with this... so ditto.

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 7:35:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: sublizzie

In reading one of the threads I saw something that sparked a question. I have heard of "do me" submissives. Are there such a thing as "do me" Dominants? If so, how would you define them?

Yes. There are some who identify themselves as dominant who are not so much dominants as men who want no emotional entanglements and are looking for receptacles for their penises. You can almost see the lightbulb above their heads: "Hey! If I call myself a dom, I can get endless guilt-free blowjobs, I can get my house cleaned, etc., etc., and I don't have to do one damn thing in return." Sure beats whatever experience they are having with the wife or had with the ex-wife.

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 7:37:10 AM

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Are there such a thing as "do me" Dominants? If so, how would you define them?

yes - i was a "submissive" to 2 of them. the 2 "do me" doms i've had are married and didn't see it as cheating behind their wife's back - it was like satisfying a need that she wouldn't meet. when their sex drive reached its peak, it was time for the "come hither, fuck me and leave" sessions and it didn't matter when or where i was expected to be ready for them. one of them recently contacted me for a "session" however was very upset when i told him i was collared by a loving Daddy. don't see why, he had other women doing him as well.

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 7:47:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: sublizzie

In reading one of the threads I saw something that sparked a question. I have heard of "do me" submissives. Are there such a thing as "do me" Dominants? If so, how would you define them?

Yes. There are some who identify themselves as dominant who are not so much dominants as men who want no emotional entanglements and are looking for receptacles for their penises. You can almost see the lightbulb above their heads: "Hey! If I call myself a dom, I can get endless guilt-free blowjobs, I can get my house cleaned, etc., etc., and I don't have to do one damn thing in return." Sure beats whatever experience they are having with the wife or had with the ex-wife.

They ain't so guilt free, sometimes I have the devil of a time ignoring my conscience.

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 7:49:40 AM

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Then I guess you aren't one of the type I was describing, huh?

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 8:00:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: sublizzie

In reading one of the threads I saw something that sparked a question. I have heard of "do me" submissives. Are there such a thing as "do me" Dominants? If so, how would you define them?

this slave has always considered a "do-me" submissive to be a slang term for "bottom" a compliment to the "do-me" Dominant, aka "top". neither one is looking for the "One" or into romantic entanglements, just some sensation play for a time being. they submit to each others desires for that session and then go on with their day, or lives, as the case may be.
entering into a D/s or M/s relationship structure with one of these types and expecting them to all of a sudden grow submissive or Dominant proclivities outside of that particular negotiated scene is where, in this slave's opinion, the negative attitudes stem from on both sides of the slash.

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And what, if anything, is wrong with that? Hell, I spent 20+ very happy years in the company of, and as a personal practicing "Do-Me". If you desire the activities commonly practiced in this 'lifestyle' and had to wait for a deep personal relationship, we'd be waiting more than doing, if we got to 'do' at all.

I know some speak of experiencing, or the hope of experiencing, a deep spiritual catharsis in the hands of their "one". But in the meantime, have some fun with a "do-me". Its not a bad thing.

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 8:04:53 AM

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Okay, I am guilty......I am a do me domme(play on words, I actually do not like domme

).

In my best faux british accent.

I want you to do me dishes after I cook.
I want you to do me laundry.
I want you to do me weeding in the garden.
etc etc etc.......

Bad british accent I know but twas the only way I could see "do me" fitting in there. Maybe a faux irish accent would have worked better.......hmmm

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 8:15:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Okay, I am guilty......I am a do me domme(play on words, I actually do not like domme).

In my best faux british accent.

I want you to do me dishes after I cook.
I want you to do me laundry.
I want you to do me weeding in the garden.
etc etc etc.......

Bad british accent I know but twas the only way I could see "do me" fitting in there. Maybe a faux irish accent would have worked better.......hmmm

Thanks for the giggle!

Good way to start the morning.

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 8:24:24 AM

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joy, you are most welcome. I am glad someone other than myself thought it was funny. Now I don't feel quite so looney.

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 8:36:46 AM

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LaT,

Now you've got me singing "Do me, do me, dooooo!" ala Frank Sinatra. How am I going to get through the rest of the day without giggling?

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RE: "Do me"? - 3/3/2007 8:38:01 AM

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