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Nature of relationship. - 3/3/2007 10:00:28 PM

SLAVEBOY32

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Hello to everyone out there, I have been on and off Cm for the past few years, recently just joined again, and am usually more of a thread reader then a thread poster. I was wondering something the other day though as I was reading through profiles on here. There is no right or wrong answer to this question which i am posing to anyone who wishes to respond. I am simply wondering what the majority of Dommes are looking for as far as the dynamics in a relationship.
I will give some examples.
Are you looking for someone to "play with only" and you keep your Dominant side seperate from the rest of your life?

Are you looking for a boyfriend/best friend who happens to be submissive? If so do you prefer an aplha male, someone who was more of a typical guy's guy, handling the typical male duties and your relationship appearing as typical to anyone else outside of the BDSM scene yet still knew his place in the relationship when called for. Or would you want someone who was always sub?

What about 24/7? and if so does he work? Or maybe you want him avalable to you at ANY time you desire so by your choice you do not want him to work?

Cuckold?

What about marraige applying to any scenario?

Put your own spin on this, nothing is hard and fast and quite obviously i have only stated a few examples of possible dynamics for a relationship. Of course if you are bi or gay that could introduce a whole new aspect.

Would love to hear anyone's feedback on this, and whether you are still looking for a certain type of relationship, OR if you are living a certain type of relationhip, and if you are, the pros and cons to it. Thanks-John

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RE: Nature of relationship. - 3/3/2007 10:28:39 PM

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Ok, one, you're assuming Dommes are ONLY looking for men. We're not all het.

In my partners of either sex, I have to have some kind of connection and the role they will fill in my life will depend on that connection and their talents. My girl is "the companion". The relationship is heavily non-sexual service and spirituality based. A man I've just reopened negotiations with is more like "the bodyguard". That relationship is service, including sexual, based. I have a houseboy where we are more like friends and he serves by cleaning, doing laundry and mowing the grass. I have different expectations from each, but at the core of each is service.

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RE: Nature of relationship. - 3/3/2007 10:41:43 PM

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Put your own spin on this, nothing is hard and fast and quite obviously i have only stated a few examples of possible dynamics for a relationship. Of course if you are bi or gay that could introduce a whole new aspect.

How am i assuming all Dommes are looking for men or are all het? I specifically made the above comment in my opening post so that i would not receive a response that started like yours did.

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RE: Nature of relationship. - 3/4/2007 12:10:14 AM

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I started out looking for play partners. I wasnt sure if i could mix my bdsm lifestyle with my vanilla lifestyle. Im now with my partner, ive known his a year know and been in a relationship with him for 6 months. Its hard to say how it works we are vanilla when we need to be but i'm always his mistress. We arent anywhere near talking about marraige. I have been there done that !!! But i dont see how it would change the dynamics of our relationship other than be a symbol of what we are to each other.
When he moves in with me he will have to work we both need to provide for our family. Fortunatly he works from home in an I.T job. So i knida have him 24/7 at my beck and call. I think this will work becasue whislt i love him dont want to spend every waking minute with him and he has a good social life so it will balance it all out.
Its funny i definatly got more than i was looking for when i met him

And a lot of my veiws have changed now too, one of my previous limits being monogamy lol . Now I'm completely oppositeits monogamy all the way he is all mine and I am all his.

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RE: Nature of relationship. - 3/4/2007 11:08:27 AM

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slaveboy32,

Your post was an honest objective question written from the submissive male point of orientation.

MFM is an exceptionally fascinating individual who has earned My respect on these boards (but She is sometimes a teensy weensy bit overly sensitive to anything she percieves as gender orientation specific when it might not necessarily have been intended to be!)

Don't take her response as a personal affront, She didn't intend it to come across as huffy! ; )

Be who you are, post from your own perspective and let everyone else cope in their own way!

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