AquaticSub
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I have been a Master for a long time now. I have had several long term relationships with slaves over years. These relationships were formed in a small town community. Since relocating to a larger metropolitan area,I have noticed that the so-called slaves and submissives out there seem to be mostly players or wanna-bees. They are only interested in cyber fantasy play, or are just messing around.
I believe that a M/s relationship does not happen over night, but needs a certain amountt of time to develop trust and respect on both sides, in other words based on many vanilla relationship qualities....however in the conversations with so-called subs and slaves they don't want to form these bonds....and after a few days of communication break off and move on to another Dominant to p;lay with.
Is there any true submissives and slaves to be found in this lifestyle? What are you...as a slave or submissive truely looking for, and not what you put on your profiles? I think this is a common question that should be asked....How can someone like me...who is very real and grounded find a real slave or a real submissive in a sea of wanna-bees?
In all fairness to the submissives and slaves out there....I think the reverse is true...a real slave or submissive can also get lost in a sea of Dominant wanna-bees....So how can the real deals separate themselves from the fakes?
It is my belief that anyone who calls a group of people "so-called subs" or "so-called doms" is just stung from rejection. There are many quite real slaves and submissives. However, simply because they turn you down or practice a different brand of submission does not make them fake.
As for those who seek exclusively cyber - they are merely horny people who don't desire a real relationship. Happens in the vanilla lifestyle, happens here. No need for name calling other then assigning the title "Horny Net Geek" and moving on.
In response to those who simply want to mess around, I fail to see how that makes them less submissive. In my early days I did quite a bit of messing around, sowing my wild oats if you will and now I am rather content to settle down. Who knows, things may change. However, this also happens in the vanilla lifestyle. A lack of commitment does not a fake make.
Now, if you want to attract a "real" sub/slave, I would suggest losing the judgemental attitude. When I was looking, I wasn't interested in masters/dominants who tossed around the terms "fake" and "wanna be" so easily. To me, anyone who proclaims loudly about how "real" they are just says how "real" they want to be and probably how "real" they aren't. If I were to find myself single again, I would never consider saying how "real" I am in my profile, and nor would I consider the collar of a dominant who did.
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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val
It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me
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RE: A question from a Master to any slave or submissive... - 
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. And, as you also mentioned, by the time that W/we actually met, it was so intense and amazing. The connection had already been made and cemented. And, to address the OP, Master separated Himself from the fakes i had previously spoken with in many ways. Chief among them would be His honesty, His sincerity, His desire to discuss many things other than sex or BDSM, and just basically the fact that He respected me by not starting to make demands of me from moment one, assuming that i "owed" Him anything right from the start.........slave luci
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