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RE: A strong sub - good/bad/indifferent? - 3/21/2007 3:09:25 PM

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Thans everyone!!! I have so much to think about....

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RE: A strong sub - good/bad/indifferent? - 3/21/2007 3:42:12 PM

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I am the same way also. That is one reason I like to have the presence (be it r/l or online) of a Dom in my private life.
I just plain get tired of being the boss and enjoy the fact that I have a Dom who is willing to take over.

Also, after studying the workings of a partnership - be it personal or business - someone needs to have the last word or both end up fighting for power. One way to insure fights and one up manship.

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RE: A strong sub - good/bad/indifferent? - 3/21/2007 5:45:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Surrender and obedience have nothing to do with personality, in particular with meekness that is often associated with submissiveness. For example, look at our armed forces. How many soldiers, who obey order without question, are meek?

They are indeed not meek... but they are Situational Submissive... Which is not to equate it as a Submissive Personality.

the two are very different.

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RE: A strong sub - good/bad/indifferent? - 3/22/2007 4:36:03 PM

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Two cents:

I was afraid of this, afraid of being put in a catagory of "not interesting" because I am an independant and opinionated person. Or even worse, the idea that I would fail as a submissive because I very much have internal strength. It was all silly fears, mostly fueled by some of the bizzare things I had encountered online. When I started to interact with the local community and spread my little wings I discovered I was fine. Service was fine. People to serve were fine. It was all good. I would encourage any submissive who has ever heard online, ( or anywhere) You are too strong to be a submissive, to jetison that from their head. Whoever is willing to say that to you, just simply isn't the person you should be even considering following.

If it's in your heart to serve, there are Dominants in the world who will find that service a delightful adventure.

Well, I hope Sir thinks my service is a delightful adventure, whatever he thinks about it, he wants my service, and I want to give it to him, and that settles out fine. On really good days, he tells me I"m cake, and that makes my heart get all shiny and golden and happy.

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RE: A strong sub - good/bad/indifferent? - 4/24/2008 10:21:59 AM

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Hi folks, I read this thread because of Dead Starzz entry. I'm one of those Doms that adores strong subs and slaves. I thrive on power exchange, I like to be in charge. My pleasure is derived from controlling another strong person, it is a display of my own power within my life. I do know that some Doms prefer the weaker type of sub, I personally don't. Submission is not about how strong you are or how weak, it's about finding your counter-part and the roles will develope on their own. Book

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RE: A strong sub - good/bad/indifferent? - 4/24/2008 10:23:37 AM

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Depends on how you view strong.

I stay away from the ones who think it means behaving like a ten year old asshat.

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RE: A strong sub - good/bad/indifferent? - 4/24/2008 10:37:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: dawntreader

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ORIGINAL: DeadStarzz

I have a question I am new to this and was wondering I am very strong willed,stuborn,hardheaded, and i have to have the lst word in always.Will I have to change everything about me to do this???

i can only say if you must always have the last word in a discussion or argument - i would contemplate on why that is...in the dynamics of D/s and M/s, that is not a desirable trait.

I'd go farther than that and say anyone who absolutely always has to have the last word will have difficulties in any relationship.

If you get caught speeding, do you talk back to the ticketing officer? To your boss when given an assignment that doesn't appeal? To your mother if asked to make a dish to bring to the big Thanksgiving family dinner?

I would think that the level of defensiveness shown by always having to have the last word would sabotage any relationship. And that all of your future relationships, interpersonal, familial and career would benefit from you removing that chip from your shoulder. Remember the walls you build around you to keep you safe are at the same time prison walls that you build to keep yourself jailed in.

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