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LadyEllen -> RE: Dominating a TV/TS? (3/7/2007 4:51:02 AM)
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As a pre-op TS woman, I'm not sure I understand what youre saying? That I live as female 24/7 has nothing to do with anything erotic at all - its an entirely separate thing for me, allowing me to be myself and be treated for who I am in my daily life. There would be little point in anyone trying to feminise me either, as aside from the obvious, I dont see how I could be, having gone so far already under my own power, for entirely different reasons, and it wouldnt do anything for me either! Although, if anyone wants to contribute towards the SRS fund, then they are entirely free to do so LOL!
Now, apparently at least, everyone sees me as female in my daily life, even those who knew me before all this were not overly surprised at my transition, since there was always something "wrong" with me before which now seems to have been put right. From what I understand now, I was always feminine - not effeminate mind, which is a different thing, so crossing the border has resolved that disparity. Given what I said on the sissies & partners thread about femininity, (response to your post), it should be no surprise to you to hear that all through my former life, I had no idea that I was "wrong" in that way; I was being me as far as I was concerned, and even when I was told to stop "acting like a girl" and was forced into "being a man" by way of "man's work" etc, I was still me and still picked on for being feminine, despite my best efforts to take part in whatever it was. When I transitioned, I did so easily and to great success - literally, it was natural to me. I've been living as female now for four+ years, and have come across plenty of others in my position for whom it doesnt come naturally, though I dont doubt their conviction that transition is right for them.
This, along with my post on the other thread, indicates to me that you cannot make someone feminine - they either are, or theyre not. Sure, its possible to make someone look feminine according to a certain idea of femininity, but you can never really change their character and personal identity on a long term basis by such a degree, even if theyre willing to take part in such a process. You can put them on hormone treatments, pay for surgical interventions and so on, but in the end, even with willingness, its not going to work out well if there is such a disjoint between what they end up looking like and who they are as a person. In fact, its going to be a disaster.
But as a periodic/temporary thing, then assuming SSC you can do whatever. This is where eroticised transformations belong after all, in the periodic/temporary world - they cease to be erotically charged when they are once and permanent I would argue, since they become thereby the mundane and lose their effect. Its from the change that the crossdresser derives his enjoyment too - for most, it would be a nightmare beyond belief to have to actually live as the alter-ego despite their fantasies.
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