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Joined: 2/12/2006 From: another planet Status: offline
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I'm not quite sure where this is going to go or even if i have a question at the end of it but the need to get this out, to feel like i've talked to someone has become too strong an urge to ignore. When i first joined cm i was extremely naive and had no clue about what i wanted, where i was going, who i really was! Over time and with help from many friends and posters on here i've grown and lived and learnt (cliche i know) and gradually i've found my niche, my comfort zone within me. I've got to know some incredible people here but three in particular really touched my heart. The first it just wasn't meant to be, time, distance, 'life getting in the way of life' as someone i know says. He's remained a good friend though and i hope he always will be. The second was right there for me after the initial 'crash and burn' of the first and we built a good strong friendship. Looking back he took my pain away, he i thought healed all the hurt i felt and slowly but surely i fell and we moved our relationship on. Over the past several months it grew and grew, i made plans to go to him and i thought nothing would come between us. How wrong can a girl be!! Plans for me to visit the USA were continually being put off due to lack of funds on my part and i was growing ever more frustrated and lonely and trying to hide from the truth that was creeping into my head. However much i thought of him i was becoming ever more sure that a part of what i felt had been the rebound of my first relationship. I was fighting with myself daily, trying to find equanimity to sift through my thoughts and hunt the truth down. In the meantime someone came along that brought the truth right home to me and no matter what happens i will always be grateful for that. He made me feel alive again, he searched my soul without any effort and i found myself being more honest with this man than i had been with anyone. Probably more honest than id ever been with myself even. And so i found myself in dilemma city, what to do? I fought with myself for days over what was the right course of action to take and finally told the second that i was talking with someone else and that we were extremely close. I didnt tell the original guy, big mistake i know. I grew closer and closer to the second guy and knew where my heart lay but i didnt have the balls to tell the first guy that 'life had got in the way of life' and things had changed. I know what some of you are probably thinking of me right now and believe me i feel crap about it. It came to a head though and i confessed all to the first guy and he reacted angrily, what did i expect in know! He was so angry and hurtful and yes i deserved it but i had honestly never had the intention of hurting anyone. He basically told me to never speak to him again and i havent since. I miss him terribly and i am so sorry for what i did but i cant change it no matter how much i wish i could turn back time and do things differently. It doesnt end there though, as if !! The second guy spoke to the first and this is where it becomes confusing and a little unknown to me. I had been honest with the second guy about the first but somewhere in their convo the second guy must have heard things he didnt like or thought i hadnt told him. He came to me saying he needed time to look at things and would speak to me sometime soon about it. I was angry and hurt as it appeared to me that the first guy must have been slagging me off as i believe i told the second guy everything he needed to know and at the time he had accepted what i said. I asked him that no matter what he was told he would talk it through with me and he said he would. He hasnt yet but i have no doubt he will, i trust him implicitly. Its become like an itch i cant scratch though and as the days go by im losing all faith that this can be resolved in any shape or form. Yes i made big mistakes in the way i handled the situations and i will always regret the hurt i caused anyone in this, but i never intentionally set out to play anyone, hurt anyone, decieve anyone. Doesnt everyone make mistakes, to err is human after all? It doesnt make me a bad person because i handled a situation badly does it? Maybe it does and maybe all i can take away from this is a lesson learned however painful and hard that may be. Perhaps i am deserving of all i get from this.
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