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outlier -> The Kitchen and Food are Sexy! (3/10/2007 8:24:50 AM)
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There was recently a post here in another thread in which someone said said
something like; "There is nothing sexy about a kitchen"
Later in an email exchange with one of the bright ladies on these boards she said
"I know men find the kitchen to be erotic but I do not understand why."
This surprised me. As a dominant male I find that the kitchen is an enormously sexy place. I am certain other dominant males are not alone in this.
So I thought I it might be interesting to post this here and open the topic for comment. My only proviso is that if you lead an "Upstairs/Downstairs" lifestyle and your major concern is dressing for a dinner that is being prepared by your staff then you will possibly not relate to this. I and most of the other people I know are not burderned this way. We frequently eat at a small table in the kitchen, or a den and save the formal dining room for special occasions. If there is a formal dining room at all.
Obviously, in non sexual terms the kitchen is the most sensual room in the house
Consider this relm of the senses. Taste is first but not just taste the range and type of tastes: bitter, sweet, savory, salty, and sour comprise the known taste buds. But a taste symphony can be played with these five notes and their variations.
But taste never exsists alone. You are simultaneously involved with scent: aroma; a fragrance that triggers the anticipation and then enriches the fulfillment of the sensual experience. And once again the range and possible combinations: sweet, sour, bitter, savory, from the floral to the pungent.
And there is also the sense of touch, although it is generally called texture and is experienced with the mouth some possibilities: Crispy, crunchy, chewey, soft, gooey, creamy, one of these blending to the other as you go from the outside to the center. Or the soft outside with the hard center. Hard as ice....or....liquid.
And sight: colors, textures, dull to shiny as a glaze or a polished apple. Some things look solid and weighty, some feathery and light. My favorite crystal has minimal faceting so I can watch the wine at play with light.
And sounds: the sounds food makes being prepared, the sounds that accompany consumption. I recall taking a drive and purchasing vegetables at a stand. Once home I heard a CRACK! from the kitchen, and said "Was that the lettuce?" Once I heard "Yes" I knew I was in for an exceptional salad that night.
And don't forget the element of time. Is it something plan for in advance, start in the morning, cook all day, keeping it simmering while concentrating the intensity, then consume formally in the evening? Or do you just spontaneously grab a quick something on the spot? And is that satisfying or is it just a taste of something to enjoy at your leisure later?
Now then take these elements and work with them in all their possible combinations. Combine and or separate, focused on one aspect or diverse, blended smoothly or contrasted one with the other to offset and enrich each other by the contrast.
It seems pretty clear to me that these are the same creative elements that are involved with that other great creative pastime, sex. And this brings up another element. A truly superior chief can and will target the dish or meal to the palate of their dining partner.
This is so apparent to me that I would bet it is the real basis of the old folk saying: "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach". In a time when premarital sex was a big taboo for a "decent" women how better to judge her sensual sensitivities and ability to appreciate same? That would be an interesting study in cultural anthropology, not my field however.
And speaking of the other aspects and implications; could the symbolism of preparing and offering something be any more blatant? Sounds pretty dominant/submissive to me. And the possibilities for predicament bondage while a woman is preparing a meal are terrific. I played with someone once while they were preparing a meal and six months later in a resturant I ordered for both of us, the same dish, and when I said "The lady will have..........it is a favorite of hers." in a straight voice, she blushed. The start of a lovely second evening with that dish.
I could go on for a long time. The subject is so rich and the possibilities so interesting. But I want your input. So I leave you with this small idea as a gift for having read all this.
Have your partner plan a special meal to be served in a few courses, a course can be something as simple as the glass of wine before dinner. Have them also prepare a list of the clothing they will wear when they serve the meal, the numbers should match. Then tell them they are going to remove the clothing article of your choice with each course. Once again I encourage everyone to be creative and use your own variations.
The nice fringe benefit of this particular game is that desert actually burns calories rather than consuming them.
Outlier
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