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Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/1/2005 3:01:55 PM   
slaveanwyl


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can a slave tell a Master off if he is impolite to her especially a master whom she does not know ..

IE a guy comes on and says hello slave you are respectful in your answer but within secinds he is trying to abuse you or use you i am collared and not allowed to do this without my owners consent it is so hard because i am expectecd to be polite /resepectful always..

how does i remain respectful but tell them NO thanks you when they are rude to me

with respect
slave anwyl
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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/1/2005 3:33:40 PM   
lacyann


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Status: offline 		personally, this girl identifies her position as in training with a Master, and that she is not allowed to ____ what ever behavior. suggesting that the individual contact her Master if he desired any further contact with the girl.
good luck
lacyann

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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/1/2005 4:11:07 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		just tell him off along with a kick in the balls. He's not your master so you really don't need to submit to him.

But if you're into proper protocol, you can still say "I'm sorry syr but I am collared and anything you want to do with me needs to be approved by my owner. Good day sir"

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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/1/2005 5:37:44 PM   
TahoeSadist


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Status: offline 		I don't know if I'd use the word "can" in answering your question. I would say *SHOULD* , as in "Of course you should as anyone who'd say that doesn't deserve any sort of respect as he isn't showing you any"

Eric



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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/1/2005 6:42:32 PM   
Overlord218


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Status: offline 		Just say something along the lines of "Sorry, but I'm owned by Another and I wouldn't disrespect Him by allowing someone to enjoy me."

Then, click "Ignore" and delete. No need to wait for a reply because it won't be worth reading.



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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/1/2005 7:38:39 PM   
MrKite


Posts: 94
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Status: offline 		Personally I think that any so called Dom/Master who starts trying to use a slave/sub with out asking if he/she is available and willing to consent, is a jackass. It shows a complete lack of respect for the sub, the SSC creedo and the lifestyle in general.
I'm often conflicted with wether those types should be put down harshly or given the benefit of the doubt and educated in their erronious ways. My slave has standing orders, Try to be polite once, failing that, take him down.

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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/1/2005 9:37:16 PM   
Tempestspet


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Status: offline 		I shouldn't think that when you are dealing with issues like this online you would have to do anything other than let the other person know ( with apropriate tact and manners) that you are collared, and that you would apreciate his keeping that he is dealing with your Master's property when he's being rude with you. That you are not permitted to play with others outsideyour Master's knowledge, and goodbye. Then you send and click ignore. This is online after all. It's not as if you are feeling threatened by this person face to face.

I think sometimes people forget that online isn't standing in front of you. If you don't like it. Don't read it, delete, or ignore it. It can't hurt you, offend you, or actually do anything to you unless you let it. They can't abuse you....unless you are letting them. They can't touch you after all..... and if it's suppose to be mental..... then stop reading... at that point, if you keep reading because they said too..... you are abusing yourself.

Now, should this ever happen face to face..... deal with it according to how the other person is acting. Should you need to be forceful, drop kick his ass across the room.... then do it to remain safe.

Take care.....

Tempest's pet

< Message edited by Tempestspet -- 4/1/2005 9:39:01 PM >

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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/1/2005 9:58:33 PM   
Archer


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Status: offline 		Not only should you tell the person off, but my girl is required to do so.
This is not to say she is to return rudeness for rudeness, she is though required to stand up for MY RIGHTS in my absence. She belongs to me, her hands feet mind and voice all belong to me and are to be used for my benifit.

Now the requirement is to be "AS POLITE AS POSSIBLE" and still get the message accross.

In Leather

Archer

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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/1/2005 10:06:29 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		Treat dominants exactly the same as you treat everyone else...because that's exactly what they are- the same as everyone else.

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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/1/2005 10:23:19 PM   
SirKenin


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Joined: 10/31/2004
From: Barrie, ON Canada
Status: offline 		My subs are not allowed to call anyone else Sir, Master or Mistress, and they are told that they are not allowed to submit to them in any fashion. They are instructed that if anything they are to tell the poser to take a flying leap off a bridge, although just blocking them is preferred. My subs are not their playtoys because they are too lame to get laid or get their jollies somewhere else.

What is it with some people that can not grasp such a simple concept as being a sub or slave does not mandate that they are automatically the object of your abuse or subject to your every whim and desire (the lack of capitals demonstrates My disdain for these people)? These lamers in some of the chatrooms I visited in gave Me all the wrong ideas about BDSM at first. I have since learned that their "style" of BDSM is the equivalent to wearing plaid, coveralls, corduroy and spandex in the fashion world.

Feel free to tell them where to go and how to get there, but if I was you I would just immediately put them on block.

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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/2/2005 2:51:48 AM   
Oumae


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Status: offline 		I'd suggest you talk to your Master about this..... as his slave you should be following his wishes on it.

Oumae

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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/2/2005 8:34:48 AM   
krikket


Posts: 1183
Joined: 11/17/2004
From: Washington, DC Metro Area
Status: offline 		i try so hard to be polite and pleasant to those i meet face to face, over the phone, or through the Internet. It used to drive me to tears when someone was rude. In the 8 years i've been on-line, however, my skin has toughened up some, and i'm not nearly as thin skinned. i'm of the old school of reaping what ya sow, soooooo...someone's rudeness is usually greeted by a smile, informing that while i may be a sub, i'm not HIS sub..and then i laugh and walk away. When i was owned the ONLY one i wanted to, or had to, please was my Master...the rest -- friendships, etc., was the icing on the cake, and rudeness just isn't something i have to put up with in my life..

cheers
jimini

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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/2/2005 12:57:09 PM   
Voltare


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From: Santiago, Chile
Status: offline 		From what I have read, it sounds as though you are already collared. Your owner/dom would be the first person to ask regarding this issue, as this thread shows Doms have very different expectations. Personally, I don't think rude behavior is acceptable in either direction. If someone is rude to my girl, that doesn't automatically give her the right to haul off and kick him in the balls. She should simply try to extract herself from the situation and let me know what happend. If I think it merits a good ball busting, I'd prefer to do it myself - in my view of a D/s relationship, that's the Dominants responsibility. Of course, this applies mainly to BDSM situations, I can't very well police every vanilla person she encounters in her daily life - in which common sense applies. If I thought she was rude to someone 'vanilla' I would still hold her accountable for her actions. There are lots of ways to handle people without stooping to their level.

Stephan




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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/2/2005 4:28:16 PM   
terah


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Status: offline 		If he doesn't know protcol don't expect him to understand your position, just block him. Don't waste your time and send the PM to your Master so he can handle it.

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RE: Talking to Dominants/Masters - 4/3/2005 1:53:28 AM   
slaveanwyl


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Status: offline 		Slave anwyl would like to thank you all for your replies and say you ahve helped. i spoke to Master and he said

to tell them i am collared and if they take no notice tell them to XXXX off ..
i have now learnt all Doms are different in everything my Master is a high protocol Master and has very high expectations of his slave ..

thankyou for your help
with respect
slave anwyl(LG)

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