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littleone35 -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/18/2007 2:22:50 PM)

When i was younger i liked people within 5 years of my age  but as i  got  older (37 now) and wiser i realized at least for me that older men have a lot more to offer in terms of experience  and hey, let's face it i find older men very sexy.  I will admit my cut off it over 65 over that would be like beining with my grandpa.  My lower age cut off is anyone under my own age. Now i have my Master so it is a moot point.  My Master is older then me and i think he is the most sexy, handsome, and most wonderful man in the world (of COURSE i am biased).

Matt's littleone




bliss1 -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 7:58:48 AM)

I have the age thing because I have been involved with younger men before - bad bad idea.

I want a man I can not only share my bedroom tastes with but someone I can talk to and not feel as if I'm the teacher.

Imagine talking about JFK after seeing the movie (or Apollo 13) and saying "I remember this, I was where ever" and they come back "I wasn't even born yet". I don't know know about the other baby boomer ladies here - but really leaves me feeling ancient.

I also will not play with a Dom that could be my son. I have this thing about kneeling before a man who could be one of my boys and calling him Master. If I will not do it with my boys, I'll not do it with any other male.




IrishMist -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 8:04:58 AM)

Nope. I am an equal opportunity deleter when it comes to mail [:)]




Aileen68 -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 8:09:25 AM)

I have my search parameters set for 25-35.  I like younger men.




Emperor1956 -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 8:18:26 AM)

I don't have "age restrictions" but I have realistic expectations based on experience.  I get a lot of horndog 20-somethings hitting on my primary dyad saying "age is only a number".  She says, no, that's foolish.  Age is more than a number but it isn't, for us, the major factor in a relationship. 

As a polyamorous male dominant in a committed marriage, I appreciate the "I want someone permanent to grow old with" goal, but that ain't me, babe.  And so knowing that, women seeking permanency (as in marriage, children, etc. with me) aren't in the picture.  In selecting a partner where there is a noticable age difference, it is their attitude about age is the deciding factor:

When I was in my 40s, I had a submissive who was 15 years older.  Age was a huge issue for her in that I would hear about how:  I'd get bored with an "old woman",  I'd leave her for a younger woman, she wasn't able to keep up (not true), etc.  Guess what?  Eventually I did leave, although not primarily for any of those reasons, but her obsessive fear of her age was part of my ending the relationship.

I've had two relationships with much younger (20+ years) women.  One (me: 47/her 21) was very heavily focused on the Daddy/daughter fantasy, which I ultimately found unattractive.  One was absolutely not "age based" and a fun, fulfilling and -- dare I say? -- mature relationship, although short term (me:  50/her 22).

E




jaunty1 -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 8:21:16 AM)

Since I am not here to look for a slave, or another, age is of little importance to me. However, if I was looking, then yes, I would perfer one between the ages of 21 to 25.
 
Live well,
 
Alex




Emperor1956 -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 8:26:24 AM)

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Bliss1:  Imagine talking about JFK after seeing the movie (or Apollo 13) and saying "I remember this, I was where ever" and they come back "I wasn't even born yet". I don't know know about the other baby boomer ladies here - but really leaves me feeling ancient.


Oh, sweetheart, you have no idea:

"What do you mean, you didn't watch movies at home growing up?  Didn't you have a VCR?"  

"Well you could have watched it on cable..."

And the absolute chiller, on looking through my record (BLACK VINYL RECORD) collection:

"Hey, Paul McCartney was in a band before Wings?"

--sigh.

E.




sublizzie -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 8:36:47 AM)

Or...

"The microwave is broken. How are you going to heat that can of soup?"




MySweetSubmssive -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 9:07:52 AM)

My sweet spot is 30-45.

I had an older (27 years) husband whom I adored.  When he died at the age of 52, I took a long, hard look at the age thing.  I wondered about how that gap would affect our social and sexual life as we aged, and I knew that he was done with unmentionables, while I wanted to start a family.  When I met him, I was 22, and I just fell for him.  At this point love is tempered by a certain amount of pragmatism, and a desire for a long-term relationship.  I'm looking for someone with similar interests and desires.  I'm also excited by the energy of 30-something men.

I've played with younger men and had a really delicious time with them, but I never saw those encounters as leading to something more.

MSS




hisannabelle -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 4:34:59 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Emperor1956

quote:

Bliss1:  Imagine talking about JFK after seeing the movie (or Apollo 13) and saying "I remember this, I was where ever" and they come back "I wasn't even born yet". I don't know know about the other baby boomer ladies here - but really leaves me feeling ancient.


Oh, sweetheart, you have no idea:

"What do you mean, you didn't watch movies at home growing up?  Didn't you have a VCR?"  

"Well you could have watched it on cable..."

And the absolute chiller, on looking through my record (BLACK VINYL RECORD) collection:

"Hey, Paul McCartney was in a band before Wings?"

--sigh.

E.


rofl. we've actually never had that problem - at least, he's never expressed that that's an issue for him. the shared sense of time/culture issue hasn't ever really been an issue in our relationship, although occasionally things that bug him and don't bug me, or things that bug me and don't bug him, are definitely age-related. (p.s. we had a vcr when i was growing up, and i can cook better than he does so i sure as hell know how to make a can of soup without a microwave, hehehe.)

as far as the "i want someone to grow old with" thing, yes, i mean, i expect that we will be together for a long time. i hope until, you know, death do us part and all that. but considering the fact that he's healthy for his age and i'm not particularly healthy for mine, i don't have so many issues with the whole when-i'm-40-he'll-be-75 thing. at least, that to me hasn't ever seemed like a reason to give up a good thing. then again, i really wasn't looking for anyone when we got together, so all those things seemed sort of superfluous. now, it's not necessarily the "love conquers all" idea, but that there's no age-related issue in our relationship so compelling to make us want to seek partners closer to our own ages (we don't want kids, so losing him when we have young ums is not an issue, we would like to grow old together but if one of us passed the other one would eventually be okay, etc.).

i think it's interesting to see how these issues have played out in other people's relationships, though :)




ncmaster75 -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 4:45:43 PM)

I have no restrictions, I'm 32, and I think that all levels of experience are possible at any age. BUT....in my experience meeting younger people online is less predictable.  They are prone to dissappear into thin air at any time and for no reason.  Also respect and manners is not as important these days.  Usually the younger the more rude and inconsiderate.  Just my experience so far though....

Some older people I have found to be too apprehensive and paranoid.  Past experiences make some older people bitter.  Older slaves sometimes have more limits.




sexyslave4daddy -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 11:23:46 PM)

I have an age restriction only because I do get along with older men way better than guys my age.  I think older guys that keep themselves groomed are really sexy and hot.




michaels4evr -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/20/2007 11:41:43 PM)

I just can't "do this" with anyone who reminds me of my oldest dependent who is graduating high school this year..25 and up is generally what I look for. I want someone who preferably is not still living at home.




mons -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/21/2007 1:12:56 AM)

greetings

i have age problems i think a person 18 to 25 is to young for me. i remember as i young 18 i thought i wanted to be submissive but i had not ideal what it meant then but i wanted someone who would be stronge and tell me what to do all of the time ect so as a grown i found out that i did not want or like the ideal at all. so i think many fo the younger people well change their minds not all but many will like i did so it is importnat that they know what they want. and 18 is just to young they will change their mind very soon




akisha -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/21/2007 8:22:52 AM)

For me I look between the ages of 30 - 47.(i'll be 33 soon) I will expand beyond that if the person is really interesting and we get along well.  I seem to have trouble accepting anyone too much younger then myself or around the age of my parents.

It might not always be that ridig, but I have to go with what I'm comfortable with so that's what I do[:)]




latexbound2b -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/21/2007 8:36:59 AM)

I think people today put to much emphasis to age.You are not dead after you pas the age of 30!Sure when you are in your 50ties,you don't look the same but inside you are as young as you want tobe.
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bliss1 -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/21/2007 10:59:18 AM)

That one brought a smile to my lips for I've also heard that.





littlesarbonn -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/21/2007 11:03:55 AM)

I generally do have age restrictions, but they're only from the lower level up. I've discovered that I'm usually not comfortable with women under the age of 27, and even that is stretching it. I've dated lower than that before, and am not completely against such a lower age, but my experiences have usually found me facing an immature person who believes she's mature. Also, I'm a strong, lifestyle submissive, which generally means someone who doesn't have a few years exploring the scene is probably not going to be the right person for me. I really have so little desire these days to "train" a dominant. I've been down that road, and let's just say that I've learned my lessons the hard way on that. Therefore, I tend to focus on 27 and up. I don't have an upper age limit, but I tend to focus around my age, give or take a bit when we're talking the higher end of age limits.




MsKatHouston -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/21/2007 12:09:11 PM)

I don't have an upper limit.  My hard limit lower end is 21 strictly because if I want my sub to go shopping and get some beer, or go to a club with me, we can do that.  The reality, however, is that (in general) those who are 30+ likely have more in common with me so I tend to gravitate toward those people.  I've dipped lower than that before and it did not work out well because we simply were in different places in our lives.  When I have relationships with those closer to my own age or older, they tend to be more successful.




junecleaver -> RE: do you have age restrictions? (3/21/2007 12:11:09 PM)

I don't want to date someone who has one foot in the grave.  That foot in the grave time occurs at different ages for different people.  I wouldn't date someone as old as my grandfather, but I would consider someone as old as my father.  I have always had a thing for older guys.  I wasn't interested in guys younger than me.  My Dominant is 2 years older and the youngest guy I have ever really been involved with. I played with someone who was 16 years older.  I found the differences in our ages to be quite funny.  He once said, "Oh I haven't seen her since 1986." in passing conversation .  It made me laugh hysterically for a good five minutes as I was born in 1986. I think I could make any relationship work as long as my partner and me were compatible.




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