Aswad
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ORIGINAL: SunNMoon But I think of being a switch is like being bisexual. I'm personally bisexual and I'm with a guy, yet I have no desire right now to be with a girl. Nor in the near future. Well put and insightful, SunNMoon. This matches well with my own experiences. I suspect I'm bisexual as far as physical contact is concerned, with a preference for female or intersex partners. I still have some male social conditioning issues about it, and some theological issues that I haven't had the time to resolve, so I doubt I'll be having sex with another man, but I have no problem saying that some guy is hot if I see one, and I appreciate being told the same by gay/bi men. Similarly, I'm symmetrical around the D/s axis, with a preference for submissive partners. My wiring from early childhood has been primarily dominant, and the symmetry was a later development, just like the (later) potential bi orientation was. Many of the switches on this board appear to be the kind that originated the term; that is, they can switch from submissive to dominant or vice-versa in the context of a scene. That isn't me at all, and I'd not respond well to someone trying to "turn the tables", so I can understand LadyPact's reluctance to take on a switch. If the switches in question are like me, however, it shouldn't be a problem. And I don't think closing off one side of yourself is a problem, any more than being monogamous is problematic for a bi person. Similarly, though, I see some otherwise non-poly switches that have both a Dom and a sub as being an expression of the same thing that causes some bi people to go out and have affairs when they realize they are bi. These might have a problem with closing off one side of themselves. As always, talking about it in detail, and negotiating an agreement that will serve both of the parties well, is paramount. If these are the "wrong" (for her) kind of switches, then it just wouldn't work. If they are the "right" (again, for her) kind of switches, then it would probably stand as much chance as any other relationship with a sub.
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