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MadameBette -> RE: Stepping out (4/7/2005 10:02:00 AM)
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Ms. C,
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In truth, right now I don't have a lot to give. Perhaps in feeling so powerless over the events in my life, I'm now feeling that I can't muster it up where I need to.
It sounds like you are making a very wise decision.
Nothing is forever. You can always come back when you are ready.
I did something similar about a year and a half ago. I was not (thankfully) in a relationship at the time, but I needed a ‘break’ from everything, including casual play for a while. I didn’t want to, but it felt like the right thing to do. I needed to work not only on myself, but also how I approached problems.
Realizing that we are powerless over many things is the first step. From there, we can see we have a choice. We can either bitch-and-moan and stay miserable, or we can make changes.
A simple example: If your clothes don’t fit because you’ve gained ten pounds, you have no ‘control’ over their size. But you can take control of how you deal with it. You can try to squeeze yourself into them and stay uncomfortable. Or you can either work at losing that weight or buy clothes that fit. Your choice.
I don’t mean to trivialize whatever your problems are. You may be dealing with difficult work issues or have a loved one with cancer or other problems. I don’t know.
The fact that you realize that you can’t spread yourself so thin is major. Give yourself a pat on the back and don’t feel guilty for doing the right thing, which in this case seems to be to take care of yourself first.
Find some peace and serenity for yourself. Accept what you can’t change. Change what you can. Pray for the wisdom to know the difference.
When you are ready to come back, you’ll be surprised to see how learning those lessons has changed not only your life, but will carry over to your play as well. It worked for me.
Just take it one day at a time.
Bette
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