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MadRabbit -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/25/2007 4:29:10 AM)
Well...you know...you gotta hurry up and buy all the rubber dolls before they go off the market.

saseblubutrfly -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/25/2007 11:42:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub I read a very interesting journal blog a moment ago..it goes something along the lines of although I am submissive and a bbw does not mean I am naive, gullible or vulnerable...strong words to live by. Yes, those are my own words. Those I've started living by once I saw the reactivated post.

saseblubutrfly -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/25/2007 11:46:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHugs Dominants out there that are kind, good and very patient I would like to know where these are because as my luck has it I've yet to run into but two like this and we're all very good friends.

losttreasure -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/25/2007 4:03:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: krikket What the old saying "Too think old self be true". The Bard is rolling over in his grave. [;)] "...This above all: to thine own self be true..." ~ Hamlet, Act I, scene iii

rmanrr -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/26/2007 4:25:52 AM)
My two cents....is there some sort of race going on here? I mean it has taken Me 20 years for My girl to have found Me. I must have really lost the race not having had 5000 subs in that time! (sarcasm for those who don't know) As I see it, the dynamic for Me is not about how fast, how many, or any such thing. To be sure, to know without doubt....that takes time. Obviously something the Dom of the OP has a very short supply. Be Well, Be Careful Jarl Rmanrr

nookie -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/26/2007 5:41:43 AM)
I'm probably going to be stepping on toes here. I'm not suggesting in any form that this applies to you, your Dom or, your relationship. I do believe that the more information we have, the better the decisions we make. http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/Abuser/wheel.htm

MasterC38 -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/26/2007 7:40:59 AM)
ANY good relationship grows best slowly. flowers dont bloom overnight. you dont marry someone after a few dates, and especially before you have seen them,met with them, gotten to know them. A collared M/s relationship is just the same. if He is pushing you that hard, he is desperate, fearful, insecure, or all of the above. If He was really interested in a great slave, and not just an easy collar,He would wait. Don't let him hang you. Trust your instincts on this one.

slave4One -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/26/2007 1:49:03 PM)
Greetings sasebluebutrfly, This girl has read some and just couldn't go on before sincerely urging you to follow the advice given... please, trust your instincts. This girl is speaking from personal experience and wouldn't wish for anyone to go through what she herself went through as a result of not listening and watching the warning signs. Good luck to you. ~slave4One

Kana -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/26/2007 3:23:51 PM)
Aye Caramba, run for the hills girl. Quick collars are a recipe for disaster. Talk to some people here, find out how many submissives rushed into something and then regretted it deeply down the road, usually not so far down the road either. Isn't the line fools rush in where angels fear to read applicable here. Trust your instincts. I personally don't see how I could fall for someone I had never met yet. It just won't work for me. Its all an illusion till then. I don't know the dynamics, I don't know the chemistry, I don't really know her.I would be very hesitant to leave my family until I was sure of something and would not ask that of a girl unless I was sure about her and the direction we were going. For me, and this is just for me, collaring is a serious thing. Its a commitment on the deepest of levels. It implies so many things, but has to be built on a solid foundation. How can you have that without interaction? Without nuance?

hawkwolf7 -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/26/2007 7:57:37 PM)
The way I see the world, which is no-doubt twisted, is that a M/s relationship encompasses all of the elements of a marriage plus all the BDSM elements. In that context, insisting on collaring you on his first live visit is equivalent to someone demanding that you marry them while you are on your first date. I simply cannot envision a situation where complying with his desire is wise, smart, or appropriate for you. I cannot even see a situation where his behavior is to his advantage, unless he is expecting a big tax bill or something in April!???

saphiradraca -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/27/2007 8:06:44 PM)
If your gut is saying "Hell no" then go with your gut... It is too fast. You wouldn't rush into a marriage, why rush into a collar?

azzmaster -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/27/2007 10:57:18 PM)
he sounds sneaky as fuck and probably just some lonely horny guy posing as a dom to find a girl without having to do the dating dance

azzmaster -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/28/2007 12:38:11 AM)
of course i was excited when i saw the title of this thread... thought ' hard n fast" had to b about assfucking... which of course can't b 2 hard n fast 4 me or Thor the wonderdick

crouchingtigress -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/28/2007 10:54:22 AM)
You are being seduced. It looks like being courted but they are not even in the same ball park.

sunfleur -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/28/2007 12:55:20 PM)
it sounds like you already know what the answer is.

azzmaster -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/28/2007 2:55:58 PM)
comment on shakespere... that quote" to thine own self be true" i used alot in the literal sense ...but it was satire at the time... laertes ( hamlets pop) soliliquy to his son was full of cliches of the time and meant to point to him as an old windbag , not a wise old man.... we use different cliches now so that meaning is lost unless u study with a teacher who is a shakesperian scholar... just think how many idioms today that seem droll will be misinterpreted when we are all dust?

losttreasure -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/29/2007 6:12:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: azzmaster comment on shakespere... that quote" to thine own self be true" i used alot in the literal sense ...but it was satire at the time... laertes ( hamlets pop) soliliquy to his son was full of cliches of the time and meant to point to him as an old windbag , not a wise old man.... Ummm... actually that particular quote was the character of Polonius preparing his son, Laertes, for travel abroad.

mnottertail -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/29/2007 6:15:36 PM)
Oh, and while on the subject ass is sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeet but blowjobs are da bom. lol

Slavetrainer2007 -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/29/2007 6:32:09 PM)
I am one who believes in "pushing" but in "performance" not in steps in a relationship. IF you have red flags going off then you are not comfortable with how fast the situation is progressing and you should not let it progress faster than at a pace you feel comfortable going at. Dont take the next step until your ready. If he is sincere he will wait and try to help you resolve any issues you may have with taking the next step, he should lead you into the next step not force you into it. If i was the dom in this case and you were hestitant i would wait and probably suggest a smaller step. Such a step might be: How about you come for a meeting for a weekend and stay in a hotel( your choice on whether i know which hotel) and then we can do something a few public things togather such as go out to dinner, a movie, shopping, a show or something of that nature where you are in public with me and get a feel for me without having to be alone. However, i typically dont have a problem with a sub throwing red flags upon meeting and the sub being worried or nervous about it. If you are throwing flags his attitude is not making you comfortable and its making you untrusting. I would persue it more online or end it, to be perfectly honest. Remember their are just as many doms in the sea as subs. Dont try to settle for someone your not comfortable with.

Totalmaster4you -> RE: Too hard and too fast (3/31/2007 3:25:11 PM)
Many wise people have told you this does not sound like a true Dom/Domme. The real Tops go at a pace that allows the sub/slave to get comfortable with them. But the really big RED flag is he lied to you over something small which he asked for. There is no doubt he's a fake dom and I suggest you stay away.

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