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How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/12/2005 6:31:45 PM

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I'm interested to hear how much you have done for someone you met here (or on another system) before taking it beyond cyber. In other words, email only -- you never talked to them on the phone, never did a webcam session. Nothing that could 100% confirm you are really talking to who you they say they are (male/female/age/looks/various possible misinformation)

I think male subs have the reputation (I have heard horror stories) of "submitting" to online femdoms just after a few emails, or in a chatroom (especially to engage in a cybersex online chat) without ever really verifying gender even via a phone call.

So, how far have you gone? Have you:

-- Had "cybersex" (chat or did live acts and reported back on them)
-- Sent revealing pictures of yourself doing things (face not shown)
-- Sent revealing pictures of yourself doing things (fully visible)
-- Sent money/gifts

Did you ever really get proof the person was who they said they were? Did you get screwed over? Did it turn out well, or did you do it once and learn a lesson? Did you trust them, and your instincts prooved right?

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/12/2005 8:02:57 PM

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-- Had "cybersex" (chat or did live acts and reported back on them)
-- Sent revealing pictures of yourself doing things (face not shown)
-- Sent revealing pictures of yourself doing things (fully visible)
-- Sent money/gifts

Hmm I've definitely had cyber sex with people I had not met or talked on the phone with. It's something I rarely do these days, most people really suck at it.

I have revealing and non-revealing pics posted up all over the forums I belong to, but I don't have much to lose and am an exhibitionist. I share they VERY extreme pics for close friends though.

I've sent birthday cards and such to solely cyber friends, but that's about it.

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Did you ever really get proof the person was who they said they were? Did you get screwed over? Did it turn out well, or did you do it once and learn a lesson? Did you trust them, and your instincts prooved right?

Are you talking when the relationship went offline or that you eventually found out it was a liar online?

Akasha

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/12/2005 9:09:21 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

I'm interested to hear how much you have done for someone you met here (or on another system) before taking it beyond cyber.

Done for or done with? I've played around with cyber sex/cyber sceneing with people I've never met (and also have no plans to meet). Like EmeraldSlave, I don't do it too often any more, most folks can't type well with one hand.

As far as malesubs confirming MistressCyber's gender, some of them don't care, I'm sure! If it's just an online only thing, they all look like Adonis, we all look like their favorite fantasy lady in black leather....

There are no pics of me doing naughty things, anywhere. I don't even send out a vanilla pic unless I'm planning to meet someone.

For some of my online friends, I've traveled half way across the country for a weekend visit with only a couple phone calls. I've also given money to an online sub of mine, although not as something to cement the relationship, and I was not expecting something in return for it. He and I were on the phone regularly, but we didn't meet in person.

I don't feel like I've ever been really taken for a ride online, although I've had plenty of situations where people have been untruthful with me. It's a disapointment, but no a horror stories. I like to think I'm fairly cautious with who I trust, moreso than some other folks I have talked with.

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/12/2005 10:20:06 PM

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well I must say that in the past, I have had cyber sex, on line,and via cam...I agree most people do suck typing with one hand. Hell I am bad even typing with two sometimes and I did graduate from a well respected university,in the jerrasic age though....still had things like CAD computer asisitted design...I think there was pong and space invaders....well anyway my point maybe to clear here....
But cyber is well...empty......your level of anominity is preserved or protected, but in the end what does that really mean, after all you can get off with your own mind,someone elses images or mind or from any means but unless there is physical it is still a exercise in masterbation...just diffrent stimuli....and I am not saying that there are not many good things given by myself or others to stimulate someone. I prefer phone sex, because the voice is soooo....enticing,and or erotic when done well......

As for gifts,many people are terrfied to give you an address for fear of the worst case scenario or to perserve their anominty(sorry failed in spelling damn public school system...)when you may wish to send them a nice "pressie" could be a card, a new toy, a article of clothing. I for example import scaves from Nepal, in addition to my Job. I have meet some nice people and would sometimes offer to send one...but there is that idea that instead of the scarff a Pyscho shows up at your door with a vengenace. It is understandable though,as tales of tragedy and terror are not figments of peoples imagination....
The most common deciet I have found is peoples weight....No pics and they say (of course there is no pic in my profile I will try to change that) I am this or that and are totally diffrent. I myself do not find this a issue but there are many out there who do,as these ideas of truth are foundations to begin any relationship, in any RT world

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/13/2005 9:38:42 AM

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Akasha, i have had several relationships of this nature, and they have generally gone nowhere and ended quickly, either because a real-life meeting killed off the interest, or because the interest died even before a meeting could happen...but i do have one great exception:

i met a very dominant Woman on alt.com about two and a half years ago. She was living on the east coast at the time (i am in california), and She has since returned to Asia, where She is from. i have never met Her live, and never spoken to Her on the phone. i have, however, spent countless hours with Her on instant messenger having *very* intense D/s exchanges and interplay. my instincts told me She was real from the very beginning, and i trusted Her rather quickly...but my trust has always been rewarded. She has written me freely, gives generously of Her time, and has beamed me Her Presence via webcam a few times and sent me dozens of photos during this relationship, all of the same Woman (meaning She is either sending me real cam-shots and pics of Herself, or She has been very diligent and convincing in gathering imagery of some hot acquaintance to fool me). and She has *never* asked me for money -- She engages with me because She enjoys the interaction, and that makes me feel fantastic!

and yes, i have obeyed commands, and then been interrogated in detail about them so She can verify if my reports are true...and i have sent Her quite a few photos of myself over the course of the relationship (most -- but not all -- with my face not shown). overall, it has been a profound relationship for me, despite the fact that i couldn't get physically farther away from Her without going off-planet. it can be sad to have this connection and not be able to fully actualize it with Her...but the good news is that i might be making a voyage overseas this year, and may finally get to meet Her!

s.

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/13/2005 6:09:38 PM

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I dont do cyber-sex.

I furnished plane tickets to two people to come see me. One worked out well, one didnt.

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/13/2005 9:56:11 PM

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I have had cybersex, and I have sent people inexpensive birthday or holiday gifts on the order of a paperback book or costume jewelry which I thought befit them.

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/13/2005 10:55:49 PM

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Well, honestly, unless they are willling to pay for a cyber session, I don't do that. Cyber sex just does nothing for Me. And cyber domination does little more. With a web cam, maybe...but it is not something I seek or offer.
BUT...I always talk to someone on the phone before arranging a F2F. And there is usually some time spent emailing, so I have an opportunity, along with the other party, to make some determinations.
I used to chat, but I found it taking up way too much of My time, and never getting anything constructive accomplished. I really am looking for My boys, and chatting seems to invite everything except a committment for a trial visit. I am sure this works for some, but it hasn't for Me.
My instincts are pretty good, and so far I have not had a problem. Local boys are the easiest. W/we can talk on the phone, and meet in a public place for lunch, dinner, coffee. I always drive Myself. And I am always dressed appropriately.

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Had "cybersex" (chat or did live acts and reported back on them)
-- Sent revealing pictures of yourself doing things (face not shown)
-- Sent revealing pictures of yourself doing things (fully visible)
-- Sent money/gifts

No to all of the above, but I have received unsolicited gifts through wish lists. That is always nice!

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/14/2005 5:13:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha
So, how far have you gone? Have you:

-- Had "cybersex" (chat or did live acts and reported back on them)
-- Sent revealing pictures of yourself doing things (face not shown)
-- Sent revealing pictures of yourself doing things (fully visible)
-- Sent money/gifts

I tried cybersex a while back and it really does nothing for me. (If it does something for someone else, then enjoy!)

AAkasha, you say male subs have the tendency to do all this. But in my experience, they offer it up. How often have they sent me revealing pics of themselves without me even asking. Sometimes I wonder if they have any notion of self-preservation. Or perhaps they are looking for the ultimate humiliation of having incriminating pics of them circulated (not that I would do this, but then I'm sure some would).

I tend to refuse all 4. I do not cybersex. I generally refuse revealing pics from people I have not engaged with in real life and I do not accept money or gifts.

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/14/2005 5:37:31 AM

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Some years ago, I helped relocate a woman I met on the Internet to San Francisco from Texas because of problems she was having there. I never actually met her in person until she showed up at a femdom organization to which I was a long standing member. We became really good friends after that and partners off and on. We would have become much closer, but at the time that started to happen, another woman took ownership over me, and that lasted 5 years, during which she ended up marrying someone else. We still remain good friends to this day.

On the other hand, I don't trust too many people these days, so that was an event ten years ago that might be a one-time only event. I wouldn't consider doing "cyber" or anything like that, and I certainly wouldn't send money to someone I met online because there are way too many predators on the Internet these days.

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/14/2005 6:00:25 PM

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I went through a point at 14 where I had cybersex with anyone who asked, that I met online... and even "text sex" with one man, his little sister gave me his phone number as he was in the military, and not getting any action... When he found out how old I was, he was very angry with her, told me to call him back when I was 16 *smiles* Never did though... At that age I'd discovered the real thing was so much better! But I made the mistake last year of trusting someone I never met (again, in the military) and sending them extremely naughty photographs, videos, and letters... as well as having cybersex with them. I really trusted them, and it turned out that the whole time they had been playing me. Luckily none of that footage has ended up on the internet... yet... I'm seriously keeping an eye open, I don't trust them at all anymore.

And yeah, most people seriously are bad at cybersex... after a certain point they don't seem unable to move beyond "ohh yeh baby ur really hot.. *fucking you hard with my massive cock*"

When I was 16 I did have a "sugar daddy" in the US, and he sent me a diamond necklace for my birthday... even though we'd never met, and never did afterwards. I was astonished, completely amazed. And my current Master bought me my collar before meeting me too. And a leash to go with it *grins* I also had a friend in Australia who copied a ton of CDs and sent them to me, when I was living away from home and had no money to buy my own... In thanks to that I made him a dream catcher and tie-dyed something pretty for him (14 again - going through my "I wanna be a hippy" phase!)

These days, I am much more careful who I trust... and really, anything like the stuff mentioned above would have to go through my Master first.

With respect,
A much more sensible and reserved lil Minx

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/16/2005 12:36:45 PM

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I sent my slave a collar about three weeks after I met her here. I don't recall, though, if that was before or after we started talking on the phone. Had some cybersex...again, not sure if pre- or post-phone. Some cybersex with others, but not much...not a big priority with me. I sent a girl a plane ticket so she could come out for a visit, but that was after a bit of phone contact. Still, sending a plane ticket to someone I knew only minimally should qualify for this discussion.

That's about it for me. I've been pretty cautious....and cheap! LOL

Bob

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 4/16/2005 12:46:46 PM

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several different doms over a space of several months wanted me to kneel nakie in my den and serve them on my knees with a big dong.....

LOLOL

click, ignore!!

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 5/14/2005 1:43:14 PM

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about what ive done for Masters/Dommes online without haveing seen/met Them,
ivecybered, emailed but never sent gift or money. i have however found a Woman in Romania, who is a Domme/friend who ive send moneygifts to, but only after ive talked with Her online on cam, and gotten Her address.
i only wish She lived closer to me, id serve Her well, and She knows this, She keeps on tesaeing me about being Her slave.

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 5/14/2005 2:16:33 PM

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About four years ago when I was totally new to IM's, chat rooms, and the scene online, I applied for and was accepted into a group. The group owner stated she was seeking about a dozen submissive men to create a cyber classroom where we could learn how to be proper, well behaved, subs. When I emailed my request, she told me to meet her in a certain chatroom and we would go to a private room where she would conduct an interview.

It was all very professional in content and approach. The questions were all relevant and reasonable. I watched as new members were added to the group and eventually reached over a dozen. But now three weeks had passed, so I politely asked for word on when things were going to start. She told me she was still putting the course materials together. In the long run, the class never really got underway.

But we started talking nightly online through IM's and in chat rooms and after about two months, I finally was told we would meet. To make a long story short, she turned out to be a compulsive liar, an alcoholic, and cocaine user. That was my baptism. Since then, I met a Dominant women who lives about 300 miles from me.

We talk every night and I've helped her immensely with her computer and software needs, as well as conducting online research on all sorts of topics at her request. I've known her now for over three years and we have clearly become well acquainted. About 6 months after first meeting, we started talking on the phone and now communicate that way exclusively. About four months into our relationship, she discovered she has a serious heart condition and decided the relationship we have will remain as friends only. She also lost her ex-husband over a year ago and I helped her through that with as much support as I could provide.

Beyond this, I will not engage in anything cyber. As many of the Dominants here say...it does nothing for me and it's not what I'm looking for. I will spend some time to get to know people but that's all. If it's not moving forward, it never will.

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 5/14/2005 2:26:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha
-- Had "cybersex" (chat or did live acts and reported back on them)
-- Sent revealing pictures of yourself doing things (face not shown)
-- Sent revealing pictures of yourself doing things (fully visible)
-- Sent money/gifts

Did you ever really get proof the person was who they said they were?
Did you get screwed over?
Did it turn out well, or did you do it once and learn a lesson?
Did you trust them, and your instincts prooved right?

Akasha

Yes and I adore cybersex, find it totally hot and think it is a fetish of mine.
Yes both still and live on webcam.
Yes on webcam.
Yes sent money/gifts.
Yes, I got proof when we met in person.
No, I have never gotten screwed over.
In all cases it really turned out great, I have made some wonderful friends from online.
It was not so much that I trusted them , I think it was more the fact that I placed no expectations on the relationship.

I actually know alot of couples that are now happily ever after having met online. To me it has always been a way to know someone from the inside out.

Sincerely,
kiss

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 5/14/2005 7:36:00 PM

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I've been reamed before and I knew him for well over 2 months we talked online and on the phone all the time exhanged pics whole 9 yeards. He talked me into flying out to newyork for a month I got there and he failed to mention his aunt said not to invite me and he did anyway. I got to his house and she started yelling about get that girl out of my house, and I ended up staying in a hotel put up by his uncle the SOB Wasn't even gonna stay with me but I twisted his arm into it. I had 3 days he left I thought I could find a shelter to stay at so "I didn't let his uncle pay my whole trip and I couldn't and I couldn't get ahold of siba again so I ended up staying in a junk motel with a slime ball manager who tried to propisition me for sex a ton of times came banging on my door trying to get in at 11 oclock at night.

Oh yeah his idea of transportation was to tell me to take the bus to the station, I came unglued and I said no you dragged me out here dumped me in this motel I don't know the bus system and I have a huge suitcase YOU ARE TAKING ME TO THE STATION.

He did but left me on the doorstep to find my way in.

I never spoke to Dominqe again

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RE: How much have you done for someone you never met? - 6/7/2005 3:35:59 PM

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quote:

Did you ever really get proof the person was who they said they were? Did you get screwed over? Did it turn out well, or did you do it once and learn a lesson? Did you trust them, and your instincts proved right?

Akasha

did i ever get proof? usually i try to, yes Ma'am.
did i get screwed over? a few times, yes Ma'am.
turn out ok, or learn a lesson? both.
trust them? sometimes? instincts? sometimes.

i have to say, i am not the brightest crayon in the box, and have made some foolish mistakes, but, it comes from being taught to trust someone's word because i want them to trust mine.
ah well. i used to get worked up over it. i do not anymore.
i have, yes, sent out pictures. and sent gifts a few select times.
sometimes it was ok. others it was a bad ending.
ah. i live and learn.
just be more careful with the next one.
but it is really sad a few bad ones spoil it for all the good ones.
thank You
asissy

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