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That being said....I too think he should have at least called to let you know he wasn't interested, but I'm wondering if there was a 'meeting of the minds' so to speak, as to where both parties wanted the 'relationship' to lead.

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I'm probably going to be on someone's list for this post, but I've been sitting here thinking about it for 24 hours and can't get the questions out of my mind....Please understand my comments are not meant to attack, but to raise questions for others....

Why would a sub meet someone they don't really know yet (spoke with on the internet or phone) at their home, and be sexually active( yes, oral is sexually active) with them, at a first meeting? I do hope protection was used ( I have a safety fetish).

Isn't this sort of like picking someone up at a bar, going home with them and then never seeing them again?

I realize one is 'vanilla' and one 'bdsm', but why do we expect humans to be any different depending on the way they chose to be sexual?

That being said....I too think he should have at least called to let you know he wasn't interested, but I'm wondering if there was a 'meeting of the minds' so to speak, as to where both parties wanted the 'relationship' to lead.

just some thoughts...

indigo