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RE: You: Minus the kink - 4/2/2007 8:45:24 AM

LaTigresse

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I am what I am regardless of the physical activities.....meaning no relationship, no kink.

Sure there are times I wish I could just be happy being "normal", boring straight lil wifey. It would be alot easier in many ways. It definately would be for some of the people in my life.

For whatever reason I am the person I am, and to pretend otherwise would just be wrong on so many different levels. Obviously I handle it differently at this point of my life than I may have had I come to understand it all 20+ years ago. While the kink colours all aspects of my life and how I view the world I don't feel the need to make it a dramatic part of my days. I am by nature a very reserved private person and don't need to be a drama queen about anything. Note, I said dramatic part. I say that because it does reflect on how I deal with issues in life, friends family and work issues. It affects every single part of my life wether it is obvious or not.

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RE: You: Minus the kink - 4/2/2007 8:53:16 AM

crouchingtigress

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me with out the kink....wow great question....and a great answer....i will keep it to myself because it really inspired some long drawn out self examination, but the cruxt is i would not be the person i am right now, i would still be married, i would not live in maui, i would have kids, i would not be an successful artist, i would be a differnt whole...facinating question...thanks for asking.

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RE: You: Minus the kink - 4/2/2007 10:26:47 AM

BondageTopJere

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Very tough question. Looking back on it, I suspect life would have been much easier. Like a lot of people here, I had BDSM desires at an early age, but I was not able to reconcile them with teenage life enough to be able to go through the motions. those desires created too big of a gulf to cover so I shunned most of the normal teenage stuff.

While life would have been easier, I suspect it wouldn't be dramatically different in regards to anything but relationships. I'm not a dominant person in regards to work, family, friends etc. so that aspect would have been litle changed I think.

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RE: You: Minus the kink - 4/2/2007 12:08:40 PM

WhiplashSmile

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I have learned to accept the fact of who and what I am. For me seeing woman bound and gagged on TV or the movies always arroused me. It is who I am. I can not fully picture not being arroused or being something other than I really am.

It's amazing though, how self denial can become your own personal prison of sorts. I have tried to live in denial, it simply does not work. However, if one were to take away all the kinks, I would not be the same person. I know for a fact I would be a different person, but I don't know how different.

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