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Hind sight - 4/4/2007 4:30:57 PM

Liiaa

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In your Eyes after you senced that there was some thing missing, you felt the urning for more out of life.
you explored your inner self while observing others fail and at that point or some point way before you knew that you were born to lead,Rule your nest as you see fit.

what is your opinion of what and why subs/slaves are releast or wonder away..

and the same question can be for them..why did you leave the safty of your Master.

did you just fall out of love,lack of communication,got tired of each other?

and second, im reading about so many of you that have trained and cared for your subs/slaves....what is the average length that you were with them.

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RE: Hind sight - 4/4/2007 4:52:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Liiaa

In your Eyes after you senced that there was some thing missing, you felt the urning for more out of life.
you explored your inner self while observing others fail and at that point or some point way before you knew that you were born to lead,Rule your nest as you see fit.

what is your opinion of what and why subs/slaves are releast or wonder away..

and the same question can be for them..why did you leave the safty of your Master.

did you just fall out of love,lack of communication,got tired of each other?

and second, im reading about so many of you that have trained and cared for your subs/slaves....what is the average length that you were with them.

Greetings,

I cannot offer anything from a Master's perspective, however, for me, my relationships were a progession of my submission and my needs deepening to surrender.

I had 3 major relationships, lasting approximately 2 years each.

I left each one on good terms as a need to grow in areas that they were not interested in or not prepared to go.

The relationships were defined as follows;
1) Top/bottom- only bedroom submission
2) Purely S&M relationship.
3) More balanced D/s relationship.

All of the relationships were what I needed in my life at that time.

I now patiently seek a 24/7 TPE relationship.

~curious~

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RE: Hind sight - 4/4/2007 4:57:42 PM

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I was never "in love" with my first Master. I loved Him dearly, but we were not really romantic. I left by mutual consent, because He taught me as much as He could. I was able to explore the things that I wanted and some things that I didn't. I enjoyed the times we had together and look back on them fondly. He truly taught me to embrace myself and my submissiveness, but I was 17-20...what else could I have asked from Him that He had not already given?

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RE: Hind sight - 4/4/2007 5:41:07 PM

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I sent them along their way because the relationship just wasn't what I wanted. I never collared or owned anyone because in the end there was something lacking in the relationship for me.

I never wanted a primary relationship that was strictly M/s. I found my current partner and everything changesd she will always belong to me, but we have also developed a side of our relationship where we function very well as equals and a Dominant couple. Our relationship falls along the lines of what I have always wanted. Now the two of us owning someone is an easy reach, but by myself I always wanted more.

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RE: Hind sight - 4/4/2007 6:19:06 PM

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greetings liiaa,

my previous dominant and i were in an ldr for about a year, and my dominant and i have now been together for over a year. with my previous dominant, we grew apart because our relationship was stiflingly codependent and i got very frustrated because i felt that he wasn't working at all towards us eventually being together, and i felt we both had a lot of growing up to do before we could be together. we are still very good friends and talk every day, and i love him like a brother, can't imagine my life without him, but we were not at all good for each other within a relationship.

respectfully,
annabelle.

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RE: Hind sight - 4/4/2007 6:38:38 PM

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Ds and Ms relationships end for the same reasons that others do, ranging from poor communication and emotional betrayal to death of a partner and a simple change in life directions.

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RE: Hind sight - 4/4/2007 7:49:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Liiaa

In your Eyes after you senced that there was some thing missing, you felt the urning for more out of life.
you explored your inner self while observing others fail and at that point or some point way before you knew that you were born to lead,Rule your nest as you see fit.

what is your opinion of what and why subs/slaves are releast or wonder away..

and the same question can be for them..why did you leave the safty of your Master.

did you just fall out of love,lack of communication,got tired of each other?

and second, im reading about so many of you that have trained and cared for your subs/slaves....what is the average length that you were with them.

because it wasn't safe.

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RE: Hind sight - 4/5/2007 2:14:37 AM

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Oftentimes, the student learns to exceed the teacher. Both must grow in a balance, or become distant by an imbalance.

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RE: Hind sight - 4/5/2007 7:13:20 AM

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Well said adlompdx. And I would add that successful Masters remember that it IS a two way street when it comes to learning. Some Masters think it is their position to teach, the slave's to learn. But whenever anyone stops learning, that leads to stagnation. My slave teaches me as much as I teach her (though she would probably be surprised to hear that. lol.).

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RE: Hind sight - 4/5/2007 7:49:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Ds and Ms relationships end for the same reasons that others do, ranging from poor communication and emotional betrayal to death of a partner and a simple change in life directions.

Master Fire

Perfectly said!

My first relationship ended because all of us knew and wanted it not to be a long term relationship and had put an end date up from the beginning. My second one ended because the difference in our life stages became too great. None of the root reasons had anything to do with this life in specific.

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RE: Hind sight - 4/6/2007 6:51:31 PM

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We grew apart inch by inch when he punished me severly emotionally, and then NEVER told me what I had done, then deceiving me, deceiving others. It took 2 years for me to literally cut the mental bond, as the invisible string between us was about to snap and snap back at ME, not HIM in the face and gut.
The last communication I was received was an attempt for him to not take responsiblility again and he said "you decide....." What he didnt know is, I had decided already....just as he was actively decieving the one he is with now.

I learned alot...a whole LOT !! About me, about what I needed and wanted in regards to relationship boundaries and limits, core values, characteristics and virtues in me and the one who I might find to submit to. I also took some essential principles with me that I learned from him. He did have some redeeming qualities.

< Message edited by myobedience -- 4/6/2007 6:53:16 PM >

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