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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 7:23:30 AM

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The question is WHY do you feel the need to remain clothed? What in your upbringing made you feel being naked was bad/wrong? Is it body image? I bet not. Is it something shame based like religion? That is where my money goes?

Try and capture the emotion you feel when faced with having to get naked. Not the surface fear but something deeper that drives it and then ask yourself where that emotion comes from.

Once you figure THAT out, dealing with it will be much easier.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 7:52:47 AM

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are you open and honest and "naked" with Him emotionally? Has he seen/read your profile here?

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 7:54:19 AM

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i had terrible body image and just like being clothed. but i found that doing more boring everyday things naked made it less important and i got comfortable alot faster than i ever thought i could. spend a whole day together where you sit and eat, talk, and just do whatever and it seems natural. I still perfer to be clothed most of the time, my partner prefers to be naked all the time. we compromise by being whatever we feel like when we feel like it

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 8:27:30 AM

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Think of your skin as your birthday SUIT...think of your skin as clothing. It is natural clothing to protect your insides. It's the same as the concept of material clothing protecting your skin.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 8:27:32 AM

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well Sir Michael, I truly believe it started when I was younger... was made fun of as a little girl. Was a bit chubby and tomboyish so a got teased alot when I was younger which I do believe has affected the way I handle things like getting naked with a Man ive devoted my life to. He gets so frustrated with it...just dosent understand why I would be like this.. try telling Him but He still dosent get it, but when your a child and get picked on for something like Your body it does kinda get registered in your mind... "Hey maybe it is as fat and ugly as they say".... Im slowly starting to recongnize though that what everyone in this post is saying is true, just have to have confidence.... Thankfully i did grow up and turn into a very womanly woman... *smiles*

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 8:29:43 AM

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Sir and Ma'am Mercnbeth ..... to answer your questions... no and no.. *bites a lip*

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 8:33:31 AM

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I agree you did turn into a lovely womanly woman smiles..bounty

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 8:34:59 AM

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aww thank You Sir Bounty

*cheesy grin*

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 8:36:39 AM

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I am one to get naked at the drop of a hat,I have always had a great body and love to flaunt it of course it took a lot of hard work to get there and keep it..23 years in the miltary helped as well..bounty

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 8:44:20 AM

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Tell him: "You first" :)

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 8:44:48 AM

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oooo HAWT-ness

what branch of the military Sir Bounty if I can ask??

You do look like a military man...Ya'll all are just ...Manly looking *blushes*

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 8:47:28 AM

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haha Lotus Ma'am lolllll.. good one... Only problem is he has no problem stripping loll he walks his happy naked ass all over the place

hehe!

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 9:00:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: XahleenaXkajiraX

Sir and Ma'am Mercnbeth ..... to answer your questions... no and no.. *bites a lip*

it has been this slave's experience that this is the sort of thing the psycho-analysts and relationship counselors drag out into the light for closer examination when confronted with the sort of question you are asking. Psycho-analytic theory is still theory, but sometimes it is an insight into our subconscious that we wouldn't otherwise be aware of if we had not opened ourselves to the possibility that there is more to us than we are consciously aware of.

this slave could not be in an intimate relationship with another where she doesn't bare her soul, her emotions, her vulnerabilities, her fears and frustrations....isn't that what being intimate is about?

when he demands naked, imagine if he demanded honesty and full disclosure of your activities. comparatively, that would seem to make being physically naked in front of Him rather easy, in this slave's opinion.

Edited to add from Merc:
Based upon the "no" and "no"; regarding your husband you haven't been "honest and naked" emotionally and he is unaware that you are seeking to have an on-line relationship in his absence without his knowledge.

Your state of dress or undress in his presence should be lower in priority.

< Message edited by Mercnbeth -- 4/6/2007 9:07:54 AM >

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 9:04:19 AM

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wow what an amazing post merc.. so much truth... you make an incrediable amount of sense... makes me think...

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 9:24:54 AM

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I'm glad you didn't take it as an attack. It sounded harsh while writing it, but it was the quickest way to get to the core point I wanted to make.

We get asked questions often on the profile side of this site. The most common one is how to start. Ideally you start with a good foundation of self analysis and build a good foundation of information and set some personal goals. You never know how well you did with that part until you get out and meet someone, but at least you have some basis for what you seek and the associated confidence that goes with that knowledge. But once you meet someone comes the most important part. We refer to it as "being naked" and it has nothing to do with what you're wearing.

Most of the time it is a much scarier process than being physically naked. Baring yourself requires a high level of self awareness and a similar high level of trust in the person you are getting "naked" for. Regardless of which side of the flogger you prefer, if you have a common goal of an ongoing relationship it should be a "no holds barred" reciprocal process.

Sorry - I didn't intent to drone on.

Good luck! Our best thoughts, wishes, and beth's prayers go out for the safe return of your husband.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 9:53:13 AM

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I had surgery not too long ago and i have this scar running down my belly. I had gotton over Mastter seeing me naked but then i had the surgery, and i did not want him to see the scar. He reassured me it would not bother him so i disrobed and it did not bother him a bit.

Your husband wants you naked so he likes your body try to see yourself through his eyes it may help.

Matt's littleone

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 10:26:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub

This thread might help:

body image

Thank you so much for this one proudsub! i am also one that still has an aversion to being naked because i feel my body isn't the best. i am getting over that now, but i still have those feelings of wanting to cover up at times.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 10:53:16 AM

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I was taunted and teased when I was younger for being much bigger than I am now. I think this has left me always feeling very self conscious in any scenario.
When I expose my body I always make a conscious effort to "breath in" lol, sad isnt it... I know I am loved for who I am not who I could be... lets face it, we all could be sooo different if we'd made a few different choices in life.
I too have scars from injuries and operations but these I am proud of, they are part of me and make up part of who I am.

I always make a point of remembering he fell in love with me when I was larger than I am now... he only saw me a couple of times, but spoke to me loads so it must mainly be my personality & character he loves.
If I stay true to me I stay true to him.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 11:14:38 AM

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just looked at your myspace

you name there is "sgt hales wifey - 2 weeks left"

then why are you stilll looking?

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 11:36:07 AM

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One of the very sexiest women I have EVER been with, someone who I still jerk off to images of her and I...was at least a size 16. One very VERY important difference, she loved and accepted her body. I didn't have to deal with "i'm too fat to do that" or "turn off the lights" or whatever other sad things come with body image.

We are ALL being supportive of you because you are going to need it. The man hasn't seen a real woman in a very long time, you better get ready for a lot of use!

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