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RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 12:49:52 PM   
emdoub


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ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

I love oral sex both giving and receiving.SOME subs refuse to let their dom go down on them as they feel its not the thing for a dominant to do.


Au contraire - the dom doing what they want to do is "the thing for a dominant to do".

Personally, I could care less about reciprocity - I usually enjoy cunninilingus more than I do fellatio.

So, no - it's not un-domly to go down (or do whatever else they wish) on that muff.

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RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 1:02:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		At times it is a wondeful way to tease.  I enjoy the way it can arouse a woman quickly.

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RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 5:15:27 PM   
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RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 5:41:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

You don't say.I have gotten lock jaw giving head to please,SOME women take forever ...bounty ..edited to say"HELL yes I know what I am doing"..bh


Now that's what I'm talking about!  Isn't there an old saying somewhere that if you make a woman cum, she's your slave for life?
Ok.. Maybe I imagined it but there is something to it, isn't there?

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RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 6:08:26 PM   
MsCfromMelbourne


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Status: offline 		Two factors apply to the degree of pleasure in my experience:

1)  the male - there is a definitely a big difference.  I cannot tell you how or why, but some guys are magicians down there.  And others........horrible!  I have been known to beg a man not to go down on me.  Some do not understand that direct touch of a clit can be agony.  And after discovering that fact, are a bit lost what to do next.  That might be an interesting thread actually......

2) the female - how you jump the mental hurdle.  As little girls are told it is "dirty" down there, not to touch it etc  As teenage girls we hear snide jokes that we smell like fish. Menstruation is not something people freely talk about. Growing up, we girls absorb subtle (and not so subtle) messages that it is mysterious and shameful for girls down there.  Is it any wonder some women would rather people kept their faces away from it??

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RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 6:32:53 PM   
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Performing oral sex on a woman is hard for some men because they do not understand that every woman's body is different.  I know some women who you can suck JUST their clit into your mouth, suck and nibble on it and they go mad with pleasure, other's like yourself would just get mad...

The trick is to first understand that for MOST women while pleasure is centered around the clit, that you need to discover how much sensation is right, starting soft and then slowly adding sensation till you get it right.  I start with the lightest of butterflies with my tongue, so light some women might not even notice. 

If they are sensitive...

  • only the softest caresses with the tongue direct perhaps none at all if they are really sensitive.  If so, then start soft and find the right pressure near or around the clit.  I dance my tongue most in air so that it feels like a butterfly when it just touches the high point of the clit or whatever I am aiming for.

If they like lots of pressure...

    All sorts of things, sucking the clit into the mouth can be hot, it is like firecupping/hickies, it releases endorphins AND pleasure.
    VERY light biting or not...
    Sucking the clit into the mouth and then shaking your head side to side or pumping it up and down while pressed against the clit

Misc.
      Again, depending on the woman, few really enjoy being pumped with a finger.  HOWEVER, sliding one in and playing the G spot often DOES work.
      Pulsing that or any play with the same motion as the tongue so every bit of sensation you are giving comes in the same rhythm, REALLY works on someone who has a hard time cumming, it sort of makes sorting out the sensation easier or something
      Again, women differ, some are not into anal sex but simply touching, especially when they are close to cumming, their area around or on their ass often yields yelps of pleasure, again, pulsing that with your tongue works.
      Finger in both, priceless...

I don't recommend this for male submissives but grabbing the bitches hair and lifting her head up so she HAS to look at you, especially a bit before she comes, lock eyes with her, shake your head no and slow down so they DON'T cum...

Oh, and LA, I have my red wings too so PLENTY of us dominants LOVE eating pussy!

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RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 6:44:48 PM   
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RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 6:49:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Ms C,

Performing oral sex on a woman is hard for some men because they do not understand that every woman's body is different.  I know some women who you can suck JUST their clit into your mouth, suck and nibble on it and they go mad with pleasure, other's like yourself would just get mad...

The trick is to first understand that for MOST women while pleasure is centered around the clit, that you need to discover how much sensation is right, starting soft and then slowly adding sensation till you get it right.  I start with the lightest of butterflies with my tongue, so light some women might not even notice. 

If they are sensitive...
  • only the softest caresses with the tongue direct perhaps none at all if they are really sensitive.  If so, then start soft and find the right pressure near or around the clit.  I dance my tongue most in air so that it feels like a butterfly when it just touches the high point of the clit or whatever I am aiming for.


    If they like lots of pressure...
      All sorts of things, sucking the clit into the mouth can be hot, it is like firecupping/hickies, it releases endorphins AND pleasure.
      VERY light biting or not...
      Sucking the clit into the mouth and then shaking your head side to side or pumping it up and down while pressed against the clit


      Misc.
          Again, depending on the woman, few really enjoy being pumped with a finger.  HOWEVER, sliding one in and playing the G spot often DOES work.
          Pulsing that or any play with the same motion as the tongue so every bit of sensation you are giving comes in the same rhythm, REALLY works on someone who has a hard time cumming, it sort of makes sorting out the sensation easier or something
          Again, women differ, some are not into anal sex but simply touching, especially when they are close to cumming, their area around or on their ass often yields yelps of pleasure, again, pulsing that with your tongue works.
          Finger in both, priceless...


      I don't recommend this for male submissives but grabbing the bitches hair and lifting her head up so she HAS to look at you, especially a bit before she comes, lock eyes with her, shake your head no and slow down so they DON'T cum...

      Oh, and LA, I have my red wings too so PLENTY of us dominants LOVE eating pussy!


      Michael,
      Question #1: What are red wings?

      Question #2: Any trips planned to the South Florida area? 



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      RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 6:49:19 PM   
      SimplyMichael


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      What might earn "RED wings" when we are dealing with a woman's vagina...

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      RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 6:55:18 PM   
      puella


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      You bite???

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      RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 7:28:19 PM   
      outlier


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      Status: offline       		Michael and Puella,

      I am not as familiar with the jargon of the scene as Michael is but
      I don't think Michael could earn his "red wings" all the time, only at
      certain times of the month.

      As far as the things Michael described  I would endorse all of them
      especially paying close attention to the woman in question and letting
      her reactions guide me.  One nice thing about this activity, it is the one
      set of lips that you can believe almost all the time.

      Another thing to add is that when you probe inside you are still playing
      with the clitorus:

      http://www.abc.net.au/quantum/scripts98/9825/clitoris.html
      http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/5013866.stm

      Two news stories about Dr. Helen O'Connell's pioneering research into the actual anatomy of the clitorus, a widely ignored subject in anatomy texts and knowledge. Her conclusions are that the clitorus is about the same mass as a penis.

      I have found it pays off to stay current on subjects that interest me.
      Outlier

      < Message edited by outlier -- 4/7/2007 7:38:04 PM >

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      RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 7:30:37 PM   
      puella


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      RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 7:35:32 PM   
      CuriousLord


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      ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne
      Two is a small sample.  This is Ask a Master so I am asking you guys: do you perform cunnilingus and if not, why not?


      Oral sex has always seemed, to me, to be a submissive act.  I have no interest and performing, and a slave has no say to the differ.

      And, to be blunt, hun.. vaginal sex is something of a hotdog to many of us.  You enjoy it, but you really don't need to know what's inside of it.  Or, a better analogy: anal sex.  It can be fun to stick it in, but you don't want to spread her cheeks and stare into her ass.  (Unless, of course, you're into that kind of thing.)

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      RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 7:43:25 PM   
      N4SDChastity


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      Status: offline       		By "Red Wings" he means he's visited when his partner has had another "visitor" of a, let us say, "cyclical" nature.  To which I say "Ewwww."  But, hay, to each their own. 

      And, FTR, my own is to, YES!!!  Go down.  Like a few others I enjoy the act.  I liken it to playing an instrument, such as a well-made violin.  Much like a violin you must first warm it up, if you want it to give you melodious sounds.  Once properly warmed, if you know how to "play," you can bring beautiful sounds from up and down the register.  For me, I enjoy it most when I can keep the music cuming for extended sessions, with multiple crescendos.

      Of course, when I want to be mean  I have been know to either keep my "victim" on the brink, without lettinng her fall.  But, for that, you need to know how each  plays and responds.  You have to be able to hear and feel what it's doing in response to what you're doing.  You have to know the other person well enough to tune-in, if you will, to how their body is reacting.  Other acts of  also include staying TOO LONG with the man-in-the-boat AFTER the ship has sailed (we've changed metaphors, here, OK?)  Of course, I only do this when my pet is well-restrained, or else I could get hurt!  Usually I stop when the REAL screaming starts, but, ONCE, just to me extra mean, I kept going until she passed tha fcvk out...  That was fun.  She later described it as "pleasure to the point of pain," as opposed to pain to th point of pleasure.  Like I said, FUN!

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      RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 7:46:36 PM   
      spankmepink11


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      ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

      Ms C,

      Performing oral sex on a woman is hard for some men because they do not understand that every woman's body is different.  I know some women who you can suck JUST their clit into your mouth, suck and nibble on it and they go mad with pleasure, other's like yourself would just get mad...

      The trick is to first understand that for MOST women while pleasure is centered around the clit, that you need to discover how much sensation is right, starting soft and then slowly adding sensation till you get it right.  I start with the lightest of butterflies with my tongue, so light some women might not even notice. 

      If they are sensitive...
      • only the softest caresses with the tongue direct perhaps none at all if they are really sensitive.  If so, then start soft and find the right pressure near or around the clit.  I dance my tongue most in air so that it feels like a butterfly when it just touches the high point of the clit or whatever I am aiming for.


        If they like lots of pressure...
          All sorts of things, sucking the clit into the mouth can be hot, it is like firecupping/hickies, it releases endorphins AND pleasure.
          VERY light biting or not...
          Sucking the clit into the mouth and then shaking your head side to side or pumping it up and down while pressed against the clit


          Misc.
              Again, depending on the woman, few really enjoy being pumped with a finger.  HOWEVER, sliding one in and playing the G spot often DOES work.
              Pulsing that or any play with the same motion as the tongue so every bit of sensation you are giving comes in the same rhythm, REALLY works on someone who has a hard time cumming, it sort of makes sorting out the sensation easier or something
              Again, women differ, some are not into anal sex but simply touching, especially when they are close to cumming, their area around or on their ass often yields yelps of pleasure, again, pulsing that with your tongue works.
              Finger in both, priceless...


          I don't recommend this for male submissives but grabbing the bitches hair and lifting her head up so she HAS to look at you, especially a bit before she comes, lock eyes with her, shake your head no and slow down so they DON'T cum...

          Oh, and LA, I have my red wings too so PLENTY of us dominants LOVE eating pussy!



          I just about thought myself right into an orgasm with this one...

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          RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 7:58:35 PM   
          KatyLied


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          Status: offline           		It surprises me that people view oral sex as a submissive act.  To me it's a sex act.  I enjoy receiving it because in my estimation it is one of the more intimate acts.  Having a man down there, controlling whether I moan or writhe or have an orgasm, it is highly erotic to me (whether the guy is dom or not).  

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          RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 8:02:45 PM   
          SimplyMichael


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          quote:

            controlling whether I moan or writhe or have an orgasm,

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          RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 8:06:24 PM   
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          RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 8:20:48 PM   
          N4SDChastity


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          RE: Oral sex taboo? - 4/7/2007 10:23:58 PM   
          TheHeretic


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          Status: offline           		     Don't forget placing the tongue flat across the clitoral hood, and humming.  I'm partial to The Star Spangled Banner, but hey, I'm a patriotic kind of guy.

             (The first time I did that, she laughed for 1/2 second, then gasped, then told me later I was a GOD... like I didn't already know that.)

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