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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/18/2006 10:52:56 AM

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I'd tell myself "He's a great guy, you're lucky to have found him".. and in my head I'd be thinking "But he's not Mark".

Man O Man can I relate to THAT issue ('cept her name wasn't "Mark")

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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/18/2006 1:26:02 PM

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Me i would cry then pump my ego by saying well i was too good for them anyway it alway help me feel better. Also i wouls splurge and pamper myself a little maybe a manicure or a massage just a thought.

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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/18/2006 1:59:48 PM

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Junecleaver,

I will take a stab not at giving advice, but asking you a question... Is your attraction to this dom because you feel he is a challenge for you? Perhaps because he is a challenge you find him more desireable, as if by "winning" him that will somehow make you more attractive and desireable yourself? Or perhaps you are not truly ready for a deep committed relationship so you do not limit your dates to men that show they will be emotionally available to you? I have found myself in this situation on varying levels a couple of times. I now only date men that can be emotionally available to me, and are capable of loving me. I do not try to earn anyone's love anymore, either they are capable of going to that level eventually, or they are not... either they are into me, or they are not...

Many have warned you not to waste your precious time, I echo them wholeheartedly.. I would add, it is better to be by yourself pursuing your dreams than chasing an impossible one...Just a different perspective.

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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/18/2006 2:04:24 PM

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Junecleaver,

I will take a stab not at giving advice, but asking you a question...

julia, this is a resurrected post written in April, 2005.

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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/18/2006 2:07:08 PM

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Junecleaver,

I will take a stab not at giving advice, but asking you a question...

julia, this is a resurrected post written in April, 2005.

OMG i hate it when that happens...lol

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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/18/2006 3:46:30 PM

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Junecleaver,

I will take a stab not at giving advice, but asking you a question...

julia, this is a resurrected post written in April, 2005.

OMG i hate it when that happens...lol

Yeah. lol It would be nice if we could just put that info somewhere, like MoGa did, because the issues can still be relevant even though the original post is older.

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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/18/2006 4:16:05 PM

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You are angry. Try not to take things so personally. So what? This relationship didn't work out... move on and learn from it.

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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/18/2006 5:11:17 PM

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I know it is hard for you not to take personally but you have to. Also, if you are always finding Mr. Wrong Dom then you need to search yourself and maybe educate yourself on the signs of Mr. Wrong Anything, or why you are attracted to him.
I can do the whole drama queen thing when rejected, listen to sad music, doubt myself, cry, cry and cry some more, but soon I make myself get up and go look in the mirror-ugh! I decide, get over it, life is short and damn did Mr. Right Dom just buzz me while I was at my own pity party?
You'll be okay, pick yourself up and dust yourself off, you deserved better anyway, now you just need to know that.
Good luck!

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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/18/2006 9:06:09 PM

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Rejection is a perfectly normal part of life. I accept it for what it is. Does it hurt? Ofcourse it does. But I find it totally depends on how deep the relationship was to start with. For instance if a guy rejects me after the first date. No big deal really. Not everyone is going to love me or even like me. Such is life.

My soon to be ex husband, after acting wierd for about 4 months, came home after spending a week with his mother and said he wanted a divorce. I asked if we could discuss it. As that seemed like the reasonable thing to do. He said no. I asked if he wanted to try counselling. He said No. So I said ok, give me a couple weeks to get out. (Oh note here that he informed me he had already made an appointment with the realestate agent to sell the house so not moving was not an option lol had i stayed till the house sold he would have expected me to clean it for him)

I called my mother told her what happend, cried for about half an hour. She showed up the next day, we packed my stuff and I was gone with in 10 days. I was over the rejection in about 3 weeks. The anger of being evicted with almost nothing pissed me off but The fact that he no longer wanted me I seemed to be fine with in short order.

Some people say I'm cold and unemotional. But really I just don't see the point in beating a dead horse. If someone doesn't want you why would you try and change their mind? If they deem you unworthy of them, then realize they are most likely unworthy of you.

Just my thoughts anyway.

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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/18/2006 10:54:35 PM

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I take a look at how things went, and why it didnt work out to learn from the mistake. Typically its just becuase they knew we were not a good match, that doesnt mean I'm a less valuable person. I actually have a harder time dealing with telling others I'm not interested.

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RE: Rejection. Oh no. - 6/19/2006 3:08:18 AM

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Definately sounds like time to move on as quickly as your feet will let you move! I think ignoring them is a soultion I would use -- rather than being an all out psycho-bitch. Sometimes it gets the word out louder than yelling it.

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