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IrishMist -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 4:31:11 PM)

In all honesty, I wish I had never been introduced this; yet, on that same note, that also means that I would have missed some of the best times of my life.




leakylee -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 4:32:21 PM)

i can honestly say that it took along time to swallow the pill. i knew i wasnt quite right, quite in snyc with the rest of the people for a long long time, but i wasnt ready to pay the piper. so i opted for the blue one. it didnt work. i am what i am. so somewhere along the line a "to hell wid it" 'tude popped out and the red pill went down pretty easy.

there have been a few bumps and bruises here and there, but overall content. i wouldnt trade one lesson since the begining, maybe some of the teachers, but not the content.

great topic

lee



tulinwl -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 4:55:31 PM)

I wish I took the red pill years ago!



HisProperty4Life -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 4:59:30 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra

My insurance doesn't cover the purple pill...that's out for me.

juliet



Which leads us down the road to...................... OMG...................... generic BDSM!!!  [sm=hewah.gif]


laughing my ass offfffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff

GENERIC BDSM
OH WAIT! IT ALREADY EXIST'S IT'S CALLED GOR!



zumala -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 5:02:23 PM)

*idly wonders if she's toying with the red pill right now*



HisProperty4Life -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 5:08:26 PM)

HMMMM MAYBE?



dawntreader -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 5:23:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: HisProperty4Life

OH WAIT! IT ALREADY EXIST'S IT'S CALLED GOR!


Is it really necessary to discredit an entire group of people and their lifestyle because you chose to post on a thread that was specifically geared to the Free and subsequently chastised and scorned by one master in particular?
 
In this manner, you are behaving no better than he...



HisProperty4Life -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 5:26:33 PM)

no it was pure humor. generic, as in you can take a whole chapter out of one book and put it in another and it will still read the same. get it generic.



dawntreader -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 5:37:34 PM)

ok, i understand now, thanks for the explanation :-)



HisProperty4Life -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 5:40:32 PM)

thanks for laughing with me....i know i have a dry sense of humor sometimes i have to explain.

"Lucy you have some splaining to do"
 
                               Ricky



kyraofMists -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 5:54:41 PM)

A few years ago, I made the choice to explore this lifestyle out of a sense of need.  I thought I needed to have an M/s relationship so that my devotion could be accepted.  I thought I needed SM so that I could quiet my mind and maintain balance in my life.

A few weeks ago, I had the realization that I don’t need this.  I don’t need to wear the label of slave and I don’t need SM to balance out my life.  I realized that I didn’t even need my Lord and alandra.  I know that there are other people out there who could be a part of my life and I could have happy and fulfilling relationships with them.

Also, over the last couple of years I have grown to dislike the label of slave when others apply it in reference to me.  I love when he calls me by that label because I know what he means by it.  When others use it, I feel constrained by their definition and it doesn’t fit me for the most part.

In the last few weeks, I have been reevaluating my life and the choices that I have made.  I am no longer operating from a position of need and I am now coming from a position of want.  I have found ways to meet my own needs and not rely on others to meet them for me.  In deciding what I want out of life will I validate the decision I made two years ago to be with him and alandra or will I choose another path?

He and I spent several hours discussing this and it came down to I would still choose the red pill.  It is no longer a need that I have.  It is now a want to be where I am today.  I am still his slave, but it is only a useful descriptor in terms of my relationship with him and even then it is only one descriptor of our relationship together.  I will no longer approach play out of need and it will be a desire and want to experience this with him.

Our relationship is stronger because I am no longer coming to him out of need; I am coming to him out of want and desire.

Knight's kyra



MstrssPassion -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 5:55:07 PM)

ahhh but to have taken the blue pill

This would have had me continue in a world under the guise of what was perceived to be our natural reality. A reality created & controlled by a force that didn't respect our existence. A force that feed off us & derived what it needed from us in order to continue with its unscrupulous life sucking existence.

Well, in a way I took the red pill & still live in the world of the blue pill since the current administration is currently sucking the life's blood from us all. But I digress...

I too have had a case of the blues when it comes to this "lifestyle" but you know what there are hoards of people that have never ever even had fantasies of many of my realities. At least when I have my moments of ho-humm I have those realities to reflect upon. I'll take that over the blandness that they seem to exude when they are suffering a case of the blues.



soultoshare -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 6:35:26 PM)

i agree, this is a great topic!  I was one of the people that didn't realize that there was even a pill to choose from, so i went through life much like you did girlie, thinking i was wierd for wanting the things i desired so badly, taking the submissive role, even when he didn't know what it was.  It was only about 3 years ago that i found out that there was a whole alphabet soup of a lifestyle that i could finally embrace, and it has only been recently, VERY recently, that i was finally chosen to be somone's.  There were years of frustration trying to be vanilla in relationships, and once i found out what i was, there were still times when the search left me feeling as if i was doomed to wander alone. 

But regrets?  Nah, life is to short for regrets.  Submissive is what i am at my core, and submissive is what i will be, for as someone mantioned, one must be true to oneself before you can be true to anyone else.  And i am a very selfish person when it comes to my own needs......i must be happy doing whatever it is i've chosen, be it in my personal or professional life, and i can say that for the first time in a long time, i have finally reached the balance of happiness in both. 

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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 6:49:13 PM)

I remember feeling relieved when I realized there was an acceptable place for Me and My feelings of Dominance.  And I am not just talking about BDSM play, I am talking about the actual Domination and submission in a relationship.  It is not the norm.  At least not from the FemDom side of things.  We are more upside down according the the typical view than the Male Dom/fem sub that is more common.  So, although I sometimes wish I could go back to being *normal*, I have to realize that I was never *normal*.  I was trying to fit into relationships in a way that was not working for Me.  Now I am confident in who I am, and I know I would not be happy in a traditional relationship, so I am okay with not latching onto one just so I have a partner. 
Am I making any sense? 



akisha -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 7:24:08 PM)

LOL I fought against taking that little red pill for years, finally realized if i didn't I would essentially starve to death while sitting at the buffet. For the food with out the red pill could not sustain me.



lilsubl -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 7:24:53 PM)

thank god that i finally took enough of the red pills to get over the thinking that blue pills were the way to go...it's been over 20 years of flirting with this lifestyle, until i finally accepted that this is who i am & that's why i was soooo miserable in my previous relationships...not that the D/s relationships have been 100% perfect, just that allowing the submissive in me free rein has brought me a sense of well-being & contentment that i had never experienced before...after my release, i have continued to live as my former Master had taught me to live & i feel i am a much better person now...i have become the me i always wanted to be...what a journey this has been & continues to be.......



stockingluvr54 -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 7:28:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold
  So, although I sometimes wish I could go back to being *normal*, I have to realize that I was never *normal*.  I was trying to fit into relationships in a way that was not working for Me.  Now I am confident in who I am, and I know I would not be happy in a traditional relationship, so I am okay with not latching onto one just so I have a partner. 
Am I making any sense? 


I understand completely! Took me awhile to figure out that I was wasting everyones time trying to be happy in a "normal" relationship. Haven't completely nailed it all down yet but one thing I know WON"T happen again is that I won't waste anyones time, including my own, in another "normal" relationship!

Honestly I wished I was normal.....  Probably have a partner if I was normal.



mnottertail -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 7:37:08 PM)

ok................



dinosaur victrola, listenin to buck owens............



mnottertail -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 7:39:45 PM)

pack my bag and lets get movin=---



soultoshare -> RE: red pill or blue pill... (4/8/2007 7:49:41 PM)

Just one quick thing.....why do so many people want to be normal?  That's just being a little cookie-cutter person!  One of the things i love about this life is the diversity of personalities.  I have always been an individual, was labeled the wierd one in high school.....my nickname was Snake, i kept them as pets.  "Normal" is boring....take it from one who never was!  I've privately always gotten a kick out of the surprise on some people's faces when they find out little bits of my life or some of my habits.  I used to own a big dodge ram pu w/a 5 speed manual transmission.....one day a guy at a gas station couldn't believe it when i told him it was mine!  And that's a mild example.

just my .02.

m



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