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ThorsHammer -> Miracles Do Happen! (4/18/2005 12:34:31 PM)
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I hope I have posted this in the correct forum. If not, I'm sure it can be moved by the moderators to the correct one.
MIRACLES DO HAPPEN!
I met a great submissive lady. She is not a member here. I met her through a follow Dominant and his slave who I met at a local Munch. She is 22 years younger then I am but that is not a problem for either of us. We are looking only at the quality D/s relationship we can build for us.
Over the past several months we have been meeting often, discussing in great detail and at great length what each of us wants and needs from our D/s relationship. We also wanted to see if we could also just enjoyed each other's company. After all, you do have to be able to have a conversation over dinner on topics other then D/s. At least we do.
In order to move the whole process along more easily, I printed off a copy of my profile. It seemed like an easy way to start the discussion process .... to see if we had similiar D/s objectivies by starting with mine. My lady did not have any kind of very firm idea of exactly what she was seeking.
We talked about limits (both soft and hard), types of play we enjoy and don't enjoy, discipline if it should become necessary, behavior expectations, etc. I think we met several dozen time for coffee, drinks, and dinner before we even began to seriously discussing "play time." To put it succinctly, we have agreed to pursue a D/s relationship. No collar .... just begining to seriously see if we are truly compatible.
Permit me to address all the BBW's who have written to me personally and taken me to tast for my preference for a submissive lady who is height/weight/body proportionate or, that the submissive lady who enters my life, must become so. My submissive lady, at this time, does not fit that requirement. She is 5'5" tall and weighs 170 pounds.
During our discussions I did bring up my preference for her to become more body proportionate. I must admit she had some reluctance to meet my standards. I just asked her a simple question. "If I wanted you to get a piercing or a tattoo, would you do it?" She answered immediately, "Of course, if that is what you wanted and it would please you." I then asked her then what is the difference between getting a piercing and loosing weight? She had no logical answer. Hence, she is going to begin to lose the weight to get to my preference for her to be height/weight/body proportionate.
Now before anyone jumps my frame, we are planning to do this carefully and logically. We have already had her see a physician for a complete physical, met with a nutritionist and physical trainer. A logical and simple plan has been laid out as well as measureable goals. Just, as in our play, we will use the "Safe, Sane, and Consensual standard," we will apply the same to her weight lose plan. Our plan has her dropping an average of 2-3 pounds per month. Our plan will take anywhere from 13 to 20 months to achieve our goal. I'm in no hurry .... the end result will be worth it.
So, a new and exciting phase of my life is now beginning.
Donn
AKA Thors Hammer
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