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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/10/2007 9:31:18 AM

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Sadly, some think of toiling slavery and love as the same thing, yes.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/10/2007 9:36:05 AM

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OH, you go to far in your definition:

To hold spellbound; captivate, charm.

To enslave.
Not necessarily toiling slavery:

as you know, it comes from 'put in'.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/10/2007 9:38:12 AM

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And this should be different from a vanillia relationship because??????

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/10/2007 9:39:27 AM

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Literally the word means to put in thrall... thralldom was a life of toil and strife, not that of being a pleasure slave being fed figs and sorbets on balmy afternoons whilst enjoying the delicious langour of sexual release.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/10/2007 9:41:09 AM

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And this should be different from a vanillia relationship because??????

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For some it is different. For others, it is not.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/10/2007 1:02:02 PM

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Why did this submissive fall in love with her Master?

Why... Because he's just the best man I've ever met - on every level I can think of.

It's that simple.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/10/2007 1:26:36 PM

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I was smiling because I hope that's wired in a good way ..
You made a very valid point, just because as a submissive, we dont "fall in love", it doesn't mean we go without feel or feelings.
"The powerful emotions" you state, I understand. I love the feeling of intense power of emotions and am a very responsive person.
It is my personal belief some submissives equate those powerful emotions as love because they don't know how else to define it.

Quite right, curious. Being in love is not a requirement of incredibly intense emotions. I do think a lot of submissives who experience the powerful sensations of a D/s relationship do associate it as love, because the two are so similar. There are those who truly are in love, some who think it is love (which makes it love to them, I guess), and some who know enough about themselves to distinguish and separate the two. So you are wired juuuuuuust right.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/10/2007 2:30:52 PM

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it has only been five months that He has claimed me as His and i've fallen in love with Him. does this happen frequently? why does the relationship between a Dom/sub cultivates an overwhelming love?

I'd like to thin its because my owner is so wonderful.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/10/2007 6:10:37 PM

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Daddy and i share a bond and love in which no one will ever separate. we connect on so many levels that i sometimes have a hard time dating other men because of what we (Daddy and i) have. yet i'm slowly learning that it's possible to have Daddy in my life as Daddy and "sir" whomever he may be.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/11/2007 8:42:57 AM

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So you are wired juuuuuuust right.

Namaste, Sir Dominic

Greetings SirDominic

That must be the Goldilocks wired

I'm still waiting on the Papa Bear of all bears to fall deeper than deep in the forest of love

When it does happen, I will no doubt be one pea porridge mush and lush...

not too hot, not too cold,
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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/11/2007 9:30:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: SirDominic

So you are wired juuuuuuust right.

Namaste, Sir Dominic

Greetings SirDominic

That must be the Goldilocks wired

I'm still waiting on the Papa Bear of all bears to fall deeper than deep in the forest of love

When it does happen, I will no doubt be one pea porridge mush and lush...

not too hot, not too cold,
~curious~

I remember one very special person who years ago asked me if it was OK to be in love with his Mistress (me). I had strong feelings for him as well. But in order not to disrupt his personal life I told him no. The feelings I have for him remain to this day. I find solace in wearing the white gold necklace that he gave me. I'm sure he will always have a sense for my feelings from afar, just as I do for his.
Hence I remain, Cinderalla Wired, Mistress V.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 4/12/2007 9:49:12 AM

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I'm still waiting on the Papa Bear of all bears to fall deeper than deep in the forest of love....

Ah, but that brings up that age old question; If Papa Bear falls in the forest, and there is no-one there to hear it, does he make a sound?????????

And my favorite variation on the above, "If a man makes a statement in the woods, and there is no one there to hear it, is he still wrong?

But I digress.........

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 5/31/2007 7:19:10 PM

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IMO it would be because you feel such closeness and trust and all the other feelings that come with being in a relationship, only much deeper.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 5/31/2007 7:38:44 PM

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I have said this before, does a bear shit in the woods?
shit happens, so does falling in love, in this life style or not. that is like asking how come you love your children as soon as you see them or if that bond does not come strait away it comes pretty quickly.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 6/1/2007 9:36:15 AM

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Do you feel this is a problem?

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 6/1/2007 10:49:45 AM

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My D is the only man I've ever loved... and though everything in that respect is very new, I know I will adore him for as long as I live. We connect on far more than just a D/s level, which I really enjoy. In my opinion, you would ha--
What the smeg is all of this about pet rocks?

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 6/2/2007 4:30:41 AM

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My Sir is the third man in my life who I have loved. But I do feel that this will last forever. He has the missing piece for me, the part of my life I craved and could never find. In submission I am free. I am totally loved and protected, my needs are met by him on every plane. Giving myself so totally with no limits would not be possible unless I loved him.

I think submissives only fall in love if they have found the right man, as with vanilla relationships.

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 6/2/2007 4:37:46 PM

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Being in love is ultimate, Being a submissive..to someone who masters you is also ultimate. enjoy it all and all is well.
masters abilities to control, help subbies love for them to grow. We crave love 24/7 from our Sirs. i hope your getting yours.

Trinity

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 6/2/2007 8:19:36 PM

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i have one peice of advice if you fine yourself starting to fall in love with your Master run away dont look back dont turn around
for once you fall in love you will do stupid things such as trust the master to care about your feeling and respect your boundries and limits, Two you might be talked into doing something stupid like being tattoo that wont go even long after the realationship ends. love only leaves you empty lost and cold inside wanting to die
plain old java property and slave to no one

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RE: why do submissives fall in love with their Doms/Mas... - 6/3/2007 4:02:00 AM

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bitter much

heartfelt

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