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What Am I? - 4/20/2005 7:08:17 AM

dovemagic

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Or even more important, is there any hope for me? I have been talking to a lot of subs and slaves. RT ones that I know are living the lifestyle 24/7 and they all say that being a sub or being a slave "comes naturally to them" that the feeling was general, they submit easily and from there on it was just a matter of submitting to the right master.

For me, submission is an act of will, of determination. I am a very strong, independent woman who wishes to submit to one man and one man only. Compare it to a falcon who has been trained to return to her falconer, or a wild horse, that can be ridden by the one that she trusts or chooses. I choose to allow my training Doms to train me and to discipline me, it is not my nature. I choose to learn the proper protocol so that I may represent my Dom in the best light. Now, on a different note, My Dom could instruct me to be submissive to another and I would do so, for a time; but I would only obey him because My Dom said so, just as now I am learning to play with other Dom's because my training Dom said I could trust them and that they were good at certain things. I don't trust them ontheir own. I trust them because he said I can trust them and that I need to learn from them. I give them respect because I want to do well by him, not because I personally respect them.

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RE: What Am I? - 4/20/2005 7:14:23 AM

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Remember, submission isn't an act, it's an orientation. What people usually mean is that they feel their submission comes from a very permanent natural place from within them.

Your submission seems to do the same, it just doesn't express itself as easily or in ways as are standard to most submissives. This is fine, EVERY submissive has times they don't WANT to obey, times they STRUGGLE to obey, times they FORCE themselves to obey.

As long as you are being true to who you are and know that your relationship will be on in which you do not have the authority, then you're good.

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RE: What Am I? - 4/20/2005 7:34:32 AM

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Or even more important, is there any hope for me?

sure there is! there are plenty of men who want a "challenge" and there are also plenty who don't want their authority challenged--it is all about finding someone who is willing to accept you and at the same time your willingness to be his falcon.

there are those who are strong-willed, independent and won't submit to anyone who hanker to be submissive to their man. nothing wrong with that. just as there are those who are submissive in just about every situation life throws at them and it does not make them a "doormat". try not to get too bogged down in absolutes....

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RE: What Am I? - 4/20/2005 10:04:02 PM

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Or even more important, is there any hope for me? I have been talking to a lot of subs and slaves. RT ones that I know are living the lifestyle 24/7 and they all say that being a sub or being a slave "comes naturally to them" that the feeling was general, they submit easily and from there on it was just a matter of submitting to the right master.

It took me year's to find the right dom that I was looking for. To some he may not even seem dominant. Other's have told me he scares them. People are different.
Most see me as being dominant, to me that is fine. It only tells me they haven't gotten to know us as a couple. I do not submit to anyone but the chosen one. Why cheapen a good thing? Most people do not understand that.
It did come very easy for me when I found him. Although I knew what I was seeking and knew he was what I was seeking.
I would'nt stress it. I'm sure when you do find whom you are looking for things will just fall into place. It doesn't have anything to do with struggling. Don't be in a rush and good things will come to you.

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