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ORIGINAL: srahfox I think playing the first time can work and a lot of that depends on the people and how you connect. Kool, we agree... quote:
But I always keep in mind the sub who thought everything was clicking and desided to play the first time out. They had talked and she thought everything was understood and her limits would be followed. Then she was raped and every limit thrown away. I don't think that's clicking; I think that is "I think he's hot, I'm not completely sure he isn't psycho, but I'm going to try him out on a 1st date"... I have no idea why people violate others that way. I never fully trusted my instincts and judgement before... I do pretty well now, and think it's important to my happiness to make choices and live with consequences, after all that's what life is about for me; I definitely don't feel I was put on earth to live like a porcelain doll, than die (not saying I mind that kind of treatment from others). Obviously I'm more careful about riskier things. M
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