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Just Me - 4/14/2007 8:17:48 PM

earthycouple

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I flip my switch. I am Dominant though. My profile states such, I am not out searching for a Dominant I am searching for a slave or a sub *that's a whole other topic - since I want some conglomerate of both, not simply a sub or simply a slave. {simply...HA!}* Back to the topic...

So while I want a slub *slave/sub*, I enjoy, every so often, being on the bottom. And this is why there are so many terms. Slave, sub, bottom. Dominant, top. They all define something different. I am not a slave, I am not a submissive, I enjoy bottoming on occasion to someone I trust and with whom I have a connection. My beautiful husband occasionally practices and explores his potential dominance and I bottom for that. I am not his submissive I am not his slave. I am his WIFE and I get a kick out of feeling a violet wand and rope around my ankles and wax on my nipples. I get a kick out of being a toy for someone. I'm still a Domme. I'm still Mistress to those who submit to me.

Even so long ago when I flipped with my Dominant and we collared each other...oh yes...that's very true...I was still a Domme. I simply bottomed to my Master on occasion and vice versa. First and foremost though we were a loving couple. No different than any other couple who enjoy each other on a day to day basis.

Chicken is my prefered protein. I eat it about 85% of the time. It is my favorite meat. Sometimes...oh sometimes...I want a nice steak. Does that mean I can't prefer chicken or that is it no longer my favorite? Is this a terrible analogy? Maybe.

I suppose my point is, after nearly 14 years of this....I pretty well know who I am and what I like and want. I don't mince words, I don't play games, I don't believe anyone has the right to suggest I am not a Dominant because I bottom occasionally.

In years past formal Dominant training consisted of much time at the stinging end of the whip for the future Dominant....it was considered inproprietous for a Dominant to become such without having been a submissive or slave first....

We should embrace life and how we feel. We should embrace what is good and real for us, not what anyone else thinks. When we do no harm, we simply can't go wrong.

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RE: Just Me - 4/14/2007 10:06:17 PM

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Well I liked that a lot. Thanks for sharing!!

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RE: Just Me - 4/14/2007 10:47:47 PM

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That really gets my ruff up when some dom insists that your not a *true dom just because once in great while you like to sub kudos for the post.

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Look Ma, I'm a tub o' lard! - 5/5/2007 7:08:07 PM

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I can see why it would be frustrating when someone tries to put you in the wrong box. I try not to worry too much about how someone labels me. Something I guess I learned in highschool. I always hung out with the nerds because I never felt that I had to prove anything to them. They accepted me for who I was and I accepted them. I always had a small circle of friends. The rest of the world could call me a tub of lard for all I care. The opinions that matter are the ones I consider friends.

If someone tries to brand me with their limited vocabulary and can not accept I am a complex entity, they are not someone I am terribly interested in considering a friend. Their opinion becomes moot and I continue on blissfully ignorant of their view of me.

Granted, I do not announce to the world that I am bisexual, but that is for safety reasons.

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RE: Look Ma, I'm a tub o' lard! - 5/6/2007 4:34:48 PM

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Thanks posters!

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