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UntamedStar -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 2:23:46 PM)
Loosing the fuukin key!!![:o]

mydezire -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 2:49:23 PM)
I know what you mean Faramir...been there and it hurts like hell.

denika -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 2:50:27 PM)
Losing Rob goes without saying..worst nightmare scenerio on that one. Rejection.. What we do is incredibly personal, The way I play leaves me open and emotionally vunerable which is a terrifying thing, throw in sharing that side then being rejected or ridiculed...makes my breathe catch just thinking about it... Fear of fire play is one most know about me already, even watching it makes my blood go cold. Being blind folded isn't a big thrill either, being able to look the person in the eye is incredibly personal. denika

KnightofMists -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 2:56:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: denika Being blind folded isn't a big thrill either, being able to look the person in the eye is incredibly personal. yes.. I noticed that... taking your ability away from seeing my eyes increases your tension. In looking in the eyes you feel a sense of safety and it's also a way you hold control. It's like a line to the cliff before you jump.... loosing that liine.. well then you just hope the parachute opens and I catch you.

denika -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 3:25:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists yes.. I noticed that... taking your ability away from seeing my eyes increases your tension. In looking in the eyes you feel a sense of safety and it's also a way you hold control. It's like a line to the cliff before you jump.... loosing that liine.. well then you just hope the parachute opens and I catch you. Your perceptivness scares the daylights out of me at times...You know that don't you? denika Lucky for me, I know you have strong arms to catch me

LadyAnnabelleLee -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 3:30:23 PM)
I'm afraid that the entirety of what I believe myself to be is a lie and I've no place in that which I've chosen. That part of the major way I define myself is completely and totally wrong. I'd say thats a pretty big fear...

Xeandra -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 5:01:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pearlmoongirl 1) I'm afraid I'll never find a Master Who wants me. That's a big one. 2) I'm afraid my ignorance about the lifestyle will land me in danger or make me look stupid (which is why I've yet to go to the munch near my house). i.e. I thought Shibari might be some sort of aphrodisiac sushi ... and watersports might be getting off with a handheld showerhead. but mostly, seriously, 3) I'm afraid my fears will hold me back. ~ pmg Truly it looks like you have the answer to your fear and that you just need to take that step into it im not saying jump in headfirst but it sounds liek you knwo what your problem is and how to solve it.

Xeandra -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 5:05:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAnnabelleLee I'm afraid that the entirety of what I believe myself to be is a lie and I've no place in that which I've chosen. That part of the major way I define myself is completely and totally wrong. I'd say thats a pretty big fear... 'd say your right but at least you've identified it i seriously doubt anyone that is drawn to this or this helps define them in any way is wrong about it.

newsub27 -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 5:30:49 PM)
I fear becoming to attached to Master! I have been able to submit much of myself to him, but right before Master came along I left a 14 yr marriage with the only man I have ever loved and I fear giving Master too much of myself. I am sure one day he will leave and if I give him all of me how will I ever be able to handle it, so for now I submit my body to him but worry about allowing him access to my heart and soul......

Sinergy -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 6:05:30 PM)
When I first became involved in the lifestyle I spent quite a bit of time considering what my particular approach would be. I always seem to be the Dominant one. Dont know why. Most of the time I feel unwilling to take the time to bother. I have been asked in the past if I would be willing to bottom. I have never met anybody so far who I felt I would enjoy being (or trust them enough to be) a bottom to. Not sure those qualify as fears, but frankly I am awestruck that people allow other people to immobilize them and render them helpless. Just me, could be wrong, but there you go. Sinergy

haysup -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 7:51:00 PM)
I'm afraid of not recognizing my dominant's needs, desires, and especially, limits. Just because my partner is a dominant doesn't mean she doesn't also need to be taken care of and supported, in a different way than I do, but the need is there all the same. We are dom/sub but we are also partners and she isn't superhuman just because she's dominant.

MissSCD -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 8:12:01 PM)
I am not comfortable with fire play. I have not seen it done, so I have not way to judge it yet. I am definitely not wanting to see it. Regards, MissSCD

sublizzie -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 8:17:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSCD I am not comfortable with fire play. I have not seen it done, so I have not way to judge it yet. I am definitely not wanting to see it. Regards, MissSCD OOoooooo....fire play!! Done right it's wonderful. That's something I'm hoping I can experience again.

Slavetrainer2007 -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/15/2007 8:49:17 PM)
I love fire play! Give me a propane torch , a lighter, and a sub!You will never need to shave or wax again.

Suleiman -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/16/2007 11:16:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KevinS quote: ORIGINAL: Suleiman Indiscriminate sexual intercourse and the transmission of STDs. So you are stating that these two things are specific to the BDSM lifestyle, or, perhaps, more prevalent than the norm? Not so much any more, but a lot goes on (or can go on) at parties. I remember one guy who was a part of the social circle I was peripherally involved in passing an STD on to nearly half a dozen partners over the course of an evening because he had been pilloried and was sucking every cock that dangled in front of him. It's not specific to the lifestyle, but it is prevalent in the scene, even now, and there will always be idiot "blowjob doms", het or queer, who insist on riding bareback, and spineless subs who let them. I look at it this way - If my partner leaves me, I will be heartbroken. It may take me a year or two, but I will recover. If someone goes too far and the sub winds up in the hospital, they'll heal. If someone accidentally steps on an emotional landmine buried by past IRL trauma, things will suck, the relationship may end badly, but both parties will get over it. Herpies is forever.

MasterGremlin -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/16/2007 11:27:10 AM)
The only thing that truly terrifies me would be if some thing happened to Master. I don't think I could physically live without Him. They would have to bury me with Him kneeling at His feet. Sincerly, minxy [:)]

Aswad -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/16/2007 3:09:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UntamedStar Loosing the fuukin key!!![:o] I know you're directing a joke at the Troll but, man, I did that once... or, rather, thought I did, several years ago. Imagine me searching every square inch of the room, all the time thinking how sucky it would be if I had to call the cops. My uncle was on duty, in that district, at the time, in the right department... [:'(] Turns out it was almost exactly where I thought I put it, of course. Nowadays I have spares, of course. [:D]

Aswad -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/16/2007 3:12:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterGremlin They would have to bury me with Him kneeling at His feet. I don't think they're allowed to do that anymore, unfortunately.

CypherEnigma -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/16/2007 4:05:48 PM)
My biggest fear is not being able to submit again.

Tristan -> RE: Is there anything in the lifestyle* that you have a fear of?* (4/16/2007 4:12:01 PM)
Losing my awareness of my partner's emotions and thoughts. I feel that I'm quite perceptive most of the times. It scares me that I will lose that perception, and do something that will physically or emotionally hurt my partner. Tristan

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