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willowspirit -> Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 3:34:19 PM)
Any experiences? How did it work out? A much younger Dominant (He is almost 15 years younger -- He's 37) has made it known to me that He would accept my submission as His best friend, partner and slave -- in all levels, if and when I choose to start the petitioning and negotiation process... (I met Him eight months ago.) I'm so worried about this age thing... And He is very good-looking. I am having a hard time. I can't help but think I will get "released" as soon as someone younger and prettier comes along. He tells me that "behavior" says more than words. He has called me every day since we first met -- at least once -- and it seems that there is nothing W/we can't talk about openly and honestly. Yet, still I struggle. Have relationships like this lasted into the younger man's "senior" years?

proudsub -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 3:58:54 PM)
I have a dom friend that i chat with a lot and his submissive is about my age and he is in his mid 40's, about 15 yr difference. When i asked him about it he said "she obeys", that is what matters.[:)] Edited to add--that relationship has lasted almost 4 yrs now. She left once for a few months to give him a chance to find someone younger and he begged her to come back, which she did.

HutchGarahl -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 4:10:05 PM)
Of course they can last. My friends youngest female was 20 years younger. Unfoturnately they're not together now only because the heavens have called her home. I do believe however, should she still be here, they'ed be together still.

SageFemmexx -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 4:14:49 PM)
My husband/Master is fifteen years younger than I am. We met online and he relocated to me so I could finish my degree. It's all about that spark that makes you mesh not about age. Enjoy your differences--revel in what you have in common. Sage.

WiseCracknSadist -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 4:38:19 PM)
I think older women are alway more fun to date. There's not so much training involved. Even in vanilla relationships younger women take forever to train. Older women have lots of fun tricks and they already know, for the most part, what they want and are willing to do. Plus every older chick I've been with was a sexual super freak. Ahhhh, love the older ladies.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 5:09:12 PM)
While I'm not male, I'm 20 years younger than my girl. We've been together for two years and she's in a lifetime collar (which doesn't mean that she couldn't be uncollared but that we're committed to each other for life). Master Fire

willowspirit -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 6:02:23 PM)
Thank you all so much! I'm touched. Still scared, but more open to the possibilities. And that is part of the journey.

notlooking2 -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 6:31:41 PM)
As long as he is mature and knows what he wants, I don't see anything wrong with it. Not knowing him it is hard to say, however, it's sounds to me like his interests lie more in finding someone that meet his mental desires, rather then finding a young body without the maturity. Please don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting you're unattractive. I hope you get the point I am trying to make. I would say go for it. Who's to say, an older Dom won't leave you if something younger comes along. There are no guarantees, no matter what the age is, so enjoy it and feel very fortunate.

Rafters -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 7:11:37 PM)
Older subbies would be wise to notice the target painted on their butt by the present education system. Younger males locked into a room monday to friday, under the supervision of an older female, experiencing orgasm denial while mentally building up a to-do list of things. I'm surprised more older subbies aren't at the end of young leashes? [:D]

Bearlee -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 7:25:38 PM)
LMAO... I do like how you think!!! ...funny how that works, isn't it? <giggles wildly> bearlee

willowspirit -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 8:43:06 PM)
LOL --- Interesting,........ this younger man in question was enrolled in a all male, private, military academy run by monks and priests. He commuted to and from home every day. That fact could throw a whole new spin on things....

minnetar -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 8:45:54 PM)
i believe it is more of a self esteem issue. If you are secure within yourself and know who you are, you have no reason to worry. minnetar

TigerNINTails -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 9:29:06 PM)
Hi willow, I wish you and yours the greatest of luck and success, if you so choose to "take the plunge". I'm a 35 year old Top/Owner that is in a current LDR with a 39 year old submissive/slave... We've had this relationship going for going on three years now. We met online, we still chat online, and we speak on the phone daily, and I am constantly viewing her web-cam (both for sexual adventure as well as simple communications). On the point of training, most women her age, your age... Anything over 28 really, tend to know what it is that a man (or woman, in the case of bi TPE or lesbian TPE relationships) want out of their submissive/bottom partners. So they really only need the training in the sense of what needs to be done to satisfy you daily, but not necessarily sexually... As for age making them sexual super freaks, I'd have to agree. My girl (lusty) is a sssmokiin hot slut, when it comes right down to it. Older wenches are just plain skilled. We are also poly, so that really obliterates her worries when it comes to someone "younger and hotter" coming along. She'll be in my collar, no matter who else comes into the picture. The biggest thing to look at here, plain and simple... You desire him, does he desire you? He may seem to be "aloof" of the situation, but you've already discussed that he would take you to collar, and you have the communication channels open. This could well be a good thing for you, and for him. So what I'd have to say, is that regardless of risk, the end outcome could well be greater than any loss, even if the loss does come eventually. Why waste time worried about what hasn't happened, or fearing what may never occur? No need to jump at shadows, in other words. He is patiently awaiting your decision... His methods actually (though I don't know him from Adam), seem to echo mine, in that I leave it to the slave to make that first step... To express that desire to submit to my will. I don't chase anyone. He seems to match this to a degree. So even if he seems as if he "doesn't care", there's a much greater likelihood that when you do, he will be elated. Personally, I think that if you do that, you want to know how he feels about collars... Ownership... How much velcro is involved? But other than that... The point is this... Do you click? Can he read you like a book? Do you mesh, sexually, mentally, spiritually? If so... Beg then... Like you've never begged for anything else... As if it's all your heart depends on. Just my two cents. Peace.

BondageTopJere -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/16/2007 11:58:25 PM)
I'd do it in a heartbeat. A woman who takes care of herself in her 30's is always more attractive than one in her 20's, all other things considered being equal

willowspirit -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/17/2007 12:11:42 AM)
--To BondageTopJere --- 30's? okay.... but how about a woman who is 50 ? Has birthed 5 babies (4 are grown, college, gone), and ain't getting any younger...

willowspirit -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/17/2007 12:30:52 AM)
Thank You, TigerNINTails. Yes. Jumping at shadows -- fearing something that may never be. Worry eating away at a perfectly wonderful situation. And just W/whose Life comes with guarentees anyway... ! Yes. He reads me within a glance -- without me saying a word. Your points were taken into my heart. Excellent. Thank You. P.S. The velcro point. Good thoughts.

TigerNINTails -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/17/2007 3:29:25 AM)
Precisely, there are no guarantees, and you're welcome. Yes, I realize it's not a stretch, also, for me to be with a girl that's only 4 years my senior, but the point you were making was taken in and of course, the truth remains... A match is a match, regardless of age. There is only one other point I'd like to make, though it might seem out of place, but I think it fits... Motion beats Meditation - Gary Halbert (One of the greatest marketers and copywriters that ever lived, IMho) This idea simply dictates that much more gets done, with decisive action, than ever occured with continuous thought. If someone doesn't act, right or wrong, then all they do is think, and they'll never know, if their thoughts on it were right or if they were wrong, or if the decision was good or bad. Move to your goal, if that is what it truly is. This does not take the place of responsible action, and doing your due diligence, of course. Securing your own safety always comes first and foremost. But I don't think that's really a question here.[8D] Peace.

willowspirit -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/17/2007 8:48:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SageFemmexx My husband/Master is fifteen years younger than I am. We met online and he relocated to me so I could finish my degree. It's all about that spark that makes you mesh not about age. Enjoy your differences--revel in what you have in common. LOL -- I'm back in college now too. Surrounded by "kids" 25 years younger than me! They don't seem to mind one bit. As it is, I actually have a steady and large group of friends there and quite a following... Funny... It's like the "Universe" is trying to tell me something.

BondageTopJere -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/17/2007 10:45:07 AM)
quote: --To BondageTopJere --- 30's? okay.... but how about a woman who is 50 ? Has birthed 5 babies (4 are grown, college, gone), and ain't getting any younger... 12 yrs + 10 yrs - is about as far as I'm comfortable going. I'm only 28 for heavens sake [:D]. When I'm 38, a 50 yr old sub I could see as a possibility. I'll be honest to admit its purely for greed reasons. If I meet a sub who I "click "with, I'd prefer we both shuffle off the mortal coil within the same decade.

RythymMan -> RE: Younger Dominant Men & older female submissives (4/17/2007 3:47:09 PM)
I have had the pleasure of having a handfull of 50+ aged women over my lap in the last 8 years. I have also spanked a few girls of 19-29 in that time. When the scene is 'on', unless it is birthday spanking time, sounds and colors are way more important than numbers. I would heartily recommend having a circle of friends that includes every decade from the 20's thru 60's, or even 80's. Really good friends of any age are always a treasure. Younger and prettier are always there. More interesting and intimate, not so often. best of luck

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