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RE: Does anyone else have this problem? - 4/28/2005 8:02:09 PM

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You would think that after giving the same lecture over and over, they would stop. Trust me, on something like this, I won't be making that mistake here again.

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RE: Does anyone else have this problem? - 4/28/2005 9:20:26 PM

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I think the frustration is completely understandable. There are have been a lot of nurses in my family, both male and female. Especially back then, I guess, a female nurse was considered by the blissfully ignorant as "loose" or risque, while being a nurse was considered a somewhat unmanly thing for a guy to do.

I can't believe some of the stories that my relatives had told about patients who had some VERY strange ideas of a nurse's function. One thing that pops to mind is a bed-ridden senior who took every opportunity to try to lift & peek the nurse's skirt. Yet through all this indignity, nurses the world over keep doing their job and helping people they've never met before. Even those who aren't smart enough to figure the whole deal out.

Some of the things that nurses have to deal with, from trying to stem the flow of blood from a crime victim to cleaning unmentionable bodily substances out from under someone's fingernails, makes me go green just hearing about them. Yet nurses like you wade through it every day.

The people you speak of should watch their tongue; for one day it might be them who is in incredible pain and needs someone like you to roll up their sleeves and do some of the dirty work they liked to tease you about. I'm sure that suddenly, all those things they said won't seem so funny anymore.

I don't mean to imply their care would be any less for it; I have the highest confidence in medical personnels' professionalism. But I would think that in the person's own mind, he/she would be eating his/her words a dozen times over.

Besides, when you're passing a kidney stone, you're in enough pain without having hurt pride to worry about, too.

PS, I was told by a nurse (from outside the family) that she enjoyed a touch of revenge on a problem patient by entering into his room, announcing it was time for his bath, and then watching the look of disappointment on his face when her grizzle-faced male nurse accomplice entered the room to perform the bathing. I'm not sure if that breaks any kind of ethics or anything. I mean, it is kind of mean.

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RE: Does anyone else have this problem? - 4/29/2005 1:40:57 PM

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PS, I was told by a nurse (from outside the family) that she enjoyed a touch of revenge on a problem patient by entering into his room, announcing it was time for his bath, and then watching the look of disappointment on his face when her grizzle-faced male nurse accomplice entered the room to perform the bathing. I'm not sure if that breaks any kind of ethics or anything. I mean, it is kind of mean.

*snickers* when I was a tech, one of the nurses would do this - she was one of those stereotypically perky, blond, skinny, pretty nurses, and she'd go in with one of the 3 male techs in tow for that trick

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RE: Does anyone else have this problem? - 4/29/2005 2:28:58 PM

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You know, you get that kind of thing not matter what you do. I have close friends who tease me about every little thing I pick up. You get the same thing when you are pagan or bi the differance being that BDSM is something that could potentially harm someone. Yes it's annoying, yes people are stupid, yes it gets really really old. (And can be potentialy harmful to your job if the wrong people find out) But you know, it is life. I have to say ignoring these people is a great plan, or giving them what they give. Saddly there are people that will just never get it. It would be nice if it would always work out that people would just listen and shut up when you tell them you have a problem. It simply isn't like that. One of my best friends use to make horrible remarks to me all the time about being Bi. She simply wouldn't let up, ever when I told her she was hurting my feelings. Finally I had had it and really found a way to show her exactly what it was like. She stoped.
One last thing, while I understand you just needed to vent and let it all out. This is a place where people come to talk and chew over stuff. It may not be what you would like to hear, but if you are going to post something accept you may hear things you just don't like or don't care for.

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RE: Does anyone else have this problem? - 4/29/2005 3:01:44 PM

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[rant mode]

I have this serious problem with the combination of my job and the lifestyle. A lot of people make assumptions and/or tease me about things that I find rather offensive and degrading, and then don't seem to understand why I'm not so happy with them.

I'm a nurse - I am a nurse because I want to help people feel better. I am not a nurse for the latex (which I'm allergic to, btw), for the restraints (which are only used on patients who are a danger to themselves or us - not my idea of a good time), or anything else. I don't get off on my job - and in the same manner, I don't get off on any role play involving nurses ... something else that people just don't seem to get.

Tomorrow, I start a new job in a correctional facility as a med passer. It's a job, just like any other. I'll be doing pretty much the same things that I would be doing in a nursing home/rehabilitation facility. So why do I get the cracks about "caging" and handcuffs?

I'm really tired of this bullshit. It's my job people - I take it seriously. I find cracks about why I'm a nurse, and now about where I have accepted a job, to be totally out of line, and degrading to me, my job, my morality, AND my place in this lifestyle.

[/rant mode]

Yes, that happens regardless of the profession (I get asked if I "dominate" anyone who has ever worked for me on a team at an agency, or how "hot" it must be to be a guy working for me). Recently I was mentioning some of my successes in my career path and a sub said something to insinuate that I "dommed" my way to the top, and that I got good grades in college because the professors were dominated by me -- err, right. It's the one track mind syndrome.

But it also happens with anything. Take a normal conversation:

Sub: So what are you doing tonight?
Woman: I'm going to a party with friends.
Sub: Oooh, a fetish party?

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Sub: Do you have any plans this weekend?
Woman: I was going to go out shopping on Saturday afternoon.
Sub: Hmm...buying new toys?
Woman: No, a girlfriend and I just want to pick out some summer clothes.
Sub: ooh. Is she a femdom too?
Woman: No.

Pretty much any conversation with a man who is in huge "sub mode" will just consist of him reading BDSM innuendo into anything you say or do. At times it can be annoying in a social setting because you can't get through a normal conversation with out him quipping something suggestive and thinking he's just SO clever. I think part of it is just their general excitement to be "hanging out with a femdom" but at some point they need to get past that one track mind and also know how to treat her like a woman, also.

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RE: Does anyone else have this problem? - 6/12/2005 5:51:36 PM

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Well, not everyone gets it. This is not a lifestyle for the low in IQ or sesuality. Just let it go. Enjoy your life.
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RE: Does anyone else have this problem? - 6/12/2005 10:52:48 PM

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Eh, I've been over it for ages - I just needed to vent (without getting the same lecture that the same people feel the need to give me every time I need to vent).

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RE: Does anyone else have this problem? - 6/12/2005 11:02:02 PM

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okay, although i do not always, understand Your views, i will be counted here, as on-Your-side.

i feel people should keep their mouth shut if they have nothing good to say.
and to You i say...please ignore the fools?

thanks
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