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youngirl4oldrguy -> orgasn control (4/21/2007 1:57:10 PM)

i am being asked to learn orgasm control and i don't know how to control it. i usually just stop for a little bit and it subsides but i need to learn how to control it. can any one help me ? Thanks :)



imthatacheyouhav -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 1:58:54 PM)

*Listens with interest to the coming replies.....



fairerthanshe -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 2:34:30 PM)

Greetings young girl,

Can you explain a little bit more of what is being asked of you?  Are you learning to cum on command? the question is just a little vague...

well wishes,

fairer than she



notlooking2 -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 2:51:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: youngirl4oldrguy

i am being asked to learn orgasm control and i don't know how to control it. i usually just stop for a little bit and it subsides but i need to learn how to control it. can any one help me ? Thanks :)


That is a great question, I have often wondered about that myself.  Thanks for the post and I hope we'll get more insight.



blushingflower -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 3:57:46 PM)

Control how?  Learning not to orgasm until you're given permission?  Orgasming on command? 




youngirl4oldrguy -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 5:41:59 PM)

i wanted to clarify my question.  i am being trained on how not to orgasm until i am given permission.  i have never been able to hold an orgasm until give pemission to orgasm.  i hope that clarifies the question.
 
Thanks everyone :)



arayofsunshine55 -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 6:13:17 PM)

Anything we have done together re: my orgasm has been what we have done together, not a chore or task he has assigned to me.  IMO it takes two to do this particular dance.  Well that's the way I enjoy it the most.  So I do hope that although he wants you to learn it he is planning to have some hand in the whole thing and has some idea of how he hopes to get there.



goodpet -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 6:59:30 PM)

I've been working on it for 6 years and when it happens, it happens.. but i have to ask and wait for permission. So mostly it is pulling back, stoping the stimulation before i get to too far to stop. So it is all about timeing.. if i wait too long i can't stop but if i ask too soon then i might need to ask again.  This is if i am in some control of the stimulation.

if He is controling the stimulation then He knows i have little control at the last moment.

We have talked about it and the way things are.  So He is good and we have fun with it. He is sadist in making me go stop go stop go stop until i am going crazy instead.   And if He is driving He likes to say "no" knowing i can't stop and then (playfully) punishish me for no obeying. 

I have had some luck with finding that if i squeeze a certain way and rock my pelvis back a certain way it seem to change the angle and for what ever reason, i can make the eurge subside a bit.  but it is hard to do all the time.

mostly He just likes to use this as another way to torment me.  So my advice is to really have a heart to heart and let him know you want to obey but there is a point you just don't have that control.

good luck



ElectraGlide -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 7:22:30 PM)

I never figured out orgasim control. My goal is to give a lady as many as I can in one love making session. I have had subs ask permission which is fine, but I never denied one. Orgasim control is a demand which is fine if the two agree on it, my demand is cum as much and as hard as you can. Some ladies are not multi orgasmic so you have to work with that because they only like one big one.



His1kitten -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 7:34:52 PM)

My One and i practice this and i have to say it makes the orgasm much more intense.  Oh my...  it did take practice, but the rewards have been great. 



minnetar -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 8:34:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: youngirl4oldrguy

i wanted to clarify my question.  i am being trained on how not to orgasm until i am given permission.  i have never been able to hold an orgasm until give pemission to orgasm.  i hope that clarifies the question.
 
Thanks everyone :)


i believe it is more of a mental thing. The Master has told You not to do something.  Think within yourself how to deny it.  i have learned how to do it and i believe many others have also.  It is your Master's orders so you need to obey.

minnetar



patrice3737 -> RE: orgasn control (4/21/2007 10:39:38 PM)

mine is easy, if i do then i must eat it! No exceptions, if i wish to cum without permission or while alone, i have to eat all of it everytime. This has worked out to orgasm control for me -and i love the idea of that.



Elorin -> RE: orgasn control (4/22/2007 4:12:11 AM)

When stimulation gets too much and an orgasm feels pending, I sometimes have success thinking about anything but sex and using controlled breating. In for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, out for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, then repeat.

I've also found myself holding my breath. When I finally explosively release my held breath the intensity level has almost always die down.

I do know of at least two women who said that they don't get warning...once they know they will be orgasming it's too late to stop it. Mine is very much a cresting wave where I have lots of warning of what is coming.

So to speak.

~E



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: orgasn control (4/22/2007 5:21:13 AM)

Well it takes two to learn it imo. It has always been something that has been worked on together in my relationships. He needs to learn cues from your body, its not a one sided thing. [;)]



Phoenix2raven -> RE: orgasn control (4/22/2007 8:35:40 AM)

First your Dom should be the one who is in control and he should know what he's doing because in my opinion this particular type of play is very deep and requires more training/mentoring than other forms of D/s. In simple terms you are surrendering your bodily function by submitting your orgasm. So with that said I've given my submissive directions to bring herself to the brink of orgasm once a day for one week or longer. That exercise was very helpful to her. It allowed her to give me more control over her bodily functions. She's only allowed to cum when I touch her. That lead to being able to hold her orgasm until I said the key words.The other thing is that I took the time to watch for signs of her impending  orgasm and to recognize them so I can stop just before she cums.  I feel that's the Doms responsibility so he/she can get what they want.  This all takes time and patience and the methods used can vary. The bones of it come from reactants theory. Good luck[sm=evil.gif]



littleone35 -> RE: orgasn control (4/22/2007 11:43:25 AM)

My Master take control by teasing me until i am just at the brink they stopping and hugging me or stroking my hair then doese it again and again until he decided i have had enough an lets me cum.  Thank God he always lets me cum does not leave me hot and bothered.

Matt's littleone



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