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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/22/2007 9:43:31 PM   
hawkwolf7


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I have to say that comparable intelligence is the best approach, and would be wonderful to discover. But, for me, in itself it isn't enough.

Because my career tends to be very intellectual, and would drive a normal person quite mad, (probably due to boredom), it is actually very hard to find not only comparable intellect, but congruent interests. And that is even more ideal... and much much harder to find.


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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/22/2007 9:49:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		We are both very intelligent people but we express our intelligence in very different ways. I am more creative, artistic, abstract while he is more scientific, technical, and concrete. I have found that our nearly polar opposite personalities in some ways actually make for a better relationship. But no, I couldn't be with someone of low intelligence or even someone of high intelligence who did not care to or know how to use it.

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/22/2007 10:07:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		I feel that the person i am with MUST be more intelligent than i am in specific areas. Areas such as logic and "big picture" mentality are lacking in myself, so i tend to compensate by attracting those people that display these traits. It is a balance then because i am able to learn from them.

Sorry DominaSmartass ...this wasnt directed at you specifically. I am just new and unfamiliar with this layout. I will get better.


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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/22/2007 10:15:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've had relationships with women who were smarter than me (and I felt like a pinhead), and with women that were not as smart a me...  I like it best when we are more equally matched.  Makes the conversation more...  ummm...  gooderer!

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Wesley - "Then why are you smiling?"
Inigo - "Because I know something you don't know...   *I* am not left-handed!"

(I think I inadvertantly created a sub-text, in this thread.)

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/22/2007 11:12:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I prefer someone who has a higher academic intelligence than mine. Thus they have a higher chance of getting a much higher paid job than I, and I can bathe in the knowledge, that my life long dream will be fulfilled.

Oh yes, the day will come, and I will stay home and bake bread, while she works the nine to five 

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 12:39:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I cannot see how any close relationship can work if there is a gross disparity in basic intelligence.
I suppose some intelligent people may like a much less intelligent partner, but not many I think.

For instance if I only think about Football and sex and my partner likes politics, art and sex; she likes to listen to the news and current affairs programmes I like soaps; she knows where to put a semi colon in a sentence while when I hear the word colon all I can think about is her butt, would the relationship work ?


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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 1:45:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm of the opinion that relationships find people rather than people find relationships and I'm not sure how one can judge and choose someone with a higher, lower or comparable intelligence. People can be surprisingly intelligent and surprisingly dumb, shyness, modesty, bravado or too much self belief can mask an awful lot of what is happening in a person's head. By the time you can judge you are probably in a relationship with them or have rejected them out of hand.

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 6:46:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have to admit of the things you look for in a partner intelligence ranks very highly for me.  A friend once told me in regards to our company, "Dude if your IQ isn't above 130 you're fired!"  I have to admit that is a bit extreme but similar to how I view a partner they have to be highly intelligent no necessarily in the commonly concieved way, but in a way that I can strive to learn from them and they can learn from me in areas where I excel.  I fully believe that the day I stop learning is the day I die and I would hope my partner would agree with me on that

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 8:50:00 AM   
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I have never considered myself particularly intelligent, overly educated, or greatly observant.

I do want to know more tomorrow than I know today, however.

Just me, etc.

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 10:53:38 AM   
StellaByStarlite


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Status: offline 		The older I get, the more I realize that I'm a pragmatist at heart. Intelligence and/or intellect isn't as important to me as a practical mindset that matches mine. Being smart is less of a priority then being "smart enough", if that makes any sense.

Any man that I'd be interested in would need to have a few things that he could bring to the table... something we can use. Or, at least the ability to figure things out sensibly. I have a tendency to discard things I can't use, and if a problem has no realistic, solid solution, I'll move on to something else. To be with a man who isn't on the same page like that would just frustrate the hell out of me eventually.

Not sure if that's considered comparable intelligence, but there it is.

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 11:25:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		Equally intelligent,  equal education, same moral values. Oh and a lot more hands on than I am. He's better at the nuts and bolts and how to's. I'm better with motivations and addressing emotional issues. Together we're an unbeatable team.

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 12:22:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		Strange how you bring this out in me.

I want to watch a Gunsmoke rerun and she is all over me, a really hot cute MD who knows anatomy quite well. I say no, wait.

She wants to talk colesterol, I tell her she is full of shit, along with all the researchers. Cholesterol is compunds in your body that were SUPPOSED to combine with other compounds, but you don't have them.

She says I need to get out and vote, I say there is noone to vote for. She says vote anyway, I give her the look.

She wants a new house. I control myself and do not smack her in the head.

She wants a new car, I say "It's your money, go ahead and throw it away".

She wants to go shopping. I hand her $200 which she refuses because she actually makes a little bit more than me, I move my car out the driveway so she can get out.

She comes back with a bunch of junk, including some clothes for me which do not fit. She says "That's why you should go with me". I sayu "Do you see me standing here butt fuckin naked because I have no clothes ? I don't need anything". She sulks.

Later at night I get close to her and cuddle a bit, then I get what I want, I bone the snot out of her.

In this hyopothetical situation she is a fully degreed medical doctor. but who has the brains ?

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 12:52:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		     I've been told by quite a few members of the opposite sex that cerebral men just don't get the pussy juices flowin' for most gals.  The quote that stands out most in the Swankster's mind pretty much sums things up.

  " Men who are too intelligent bore me.  I like men who are big, dumb, brutal, and can give me the fuck of a lifetime.  Money doesn't hurt, either."

Now, I know that this isn't true for all of the womenfolk, but I've found it to be applicable in 8 out of 10 cases.  Our creative and logical faculties have certainly bloomed to new levels, but the things that turn us onto another person have remained at a "hunter-gatherer" stalemate.   Women are visceral creatures by nature, and they want a guy that makes them just a little scared.........enough to make that tiny heart go pitter-patter. 

I've seen so many gals get knocked up by the "dumb brute" type, only to latch onto Johnny Nice when she's been deserted and sailed up the river. 

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 1:14:09 PM   
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In a partner, do you seek intelligence on par, higher or lower than your own?

A partner who is all of the above.
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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 2:50:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TreSwank

    I've been told by quite a few members of the opposite sex that cerebral men just don't get the pussy juices flowin' for most gals.  The quote that stands out most in the Swankster's mind pretty much sums things up.

" Men who are too intelligent bore me.  I like men who are big, dumb, brutal, and can give me the fuck of a lifetime.  Money doesn't hurt, either."

Now, I know that this isn't true for all of the womenfolk, but I've found it to be applicable in 8 out of 10 cases.  Our creative and logical faculties have certainly bloomed to new levels, but the things that turn us onto another person have remained at a "hunter-gatherer" stalemate.   Women are visceral creatures by nature, and they want a guy that makes them just a little scared.........enough to make that tiny heart go pitter-patter. 

I've seen so many gals get knocked up by the "dumb brute" type, only to latch onto Johnny Nice when she's been deserted and sailed up the river. 


The saying, 'treat them mean, keep them keen' springs to mind. Experience tells me there is some truth in that.

Like men. my guess women want different things from men depending on whether the man is a potential long term partner or lover. I've a lady friend that keeps coming back despite her having a apparent perfectly adjusted intelligent male with a good job and salasry at home. Nothing like a little perceived danger to get the juices flowing. As long as the danger isn't too real.

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 10:03:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OedipusRexIt

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 10:07:28 PM   
kiyari


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LOL... don't sell yourself cheap, kiddo

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 10:07:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		On par, usually.  Maybe in different ways or in different fields, but equality in this matter is important to me.  I would consider someone more intelligent provided they were not condescending with it and did not feel the need to pull that out in conversation... ever.  I would also consider someone less intelligent, provided I could have a decent conversation with them on some higher topics.  However, intelligence is probably the most important quality I seek in a mate, and I won't completely sacrifice it.  After all, 98% of what gets my juices flowing is mental or involves words.  It boils down to the fact that I want to be challenged, but not treated like a moron.

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 10:11:55 PM   
kiyari


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Status: offline 		Intelligence... is a subtle thing. Not equivalent to book-larnin'

Interpersonal chemistry ... comfort in company

These things call to me

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RE: "Comparable intelligence" - 4/23/2007 10:13:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TreSwank

    I've been told by quite a few members of the opposite sex that cerebral men just don't get the pussy juices flowin' for most gals.  The quote that stands out most in the Swankster's mind pretty much sums things up.

" Men who are too intelligent bore me.  I like men who are big, dumb, brutal, and can give me the fuck of a lifetime.  Money doesn't hurt, either."

Now, I know that this isn't true for all of the womenfolk, but I've found it to be applicable in 8 out of 10 cases.  Our creative and logical faculties have certainly bloomed to new levels, but the things that turn us onto another person have remained at a "hunter-gatherer" stalemate.   Women are visceral creatures by nature, and they want a guy that makes them just a little scared.........enough to make that tiny heart go pitter-patter. 

I've seen so many gals get knocked up by the "dumb brute" type, only to latch onto Johnny Nice when she's been deserted and sailed up the river. 


Ugh.    I'd beg to differ.  I, and most of the women in my aquaintance, will admit to loving big, attractive men that can just take you.  But nine out of ten of them will say that if a man can't get their brain going it just isn't that much fun.  Besides, to me most of a good fuck is in my mind and how I perceive it.  If I feel dominated, I am, even with a physically smaller man when I'm on top.  If I don't feel dominated, I'm not, even with a linebacker that has me bent over and chained up.

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